How to kiss

LegacyUser

this is really embarrassing for me. ive just turned eighteen and ive only kissed a girl once and that was in a nightclub last night. i felt that the kiss went pretty bad. i just didnt know what to do. now im in a dilemma. how do i get better at kissing without making a show of myself in the process. should i keep going to clubs and try to get better or what.

any help will be really appreciated

humanji

The best thing to do (and probably the hardest) is to not worry about it. It comes naturally. Relax and enjoy it

chamlis

Aw I love these

Ok, like jomanji said, try to relax. But the most important advice is:
DON'T TRUST THE TV!!!

You see people embracing and passionately kissing like that because they've rehearsed, ok? Doesn't really work like that in real life. Noses get bumped, cheeks, headbutts.....
Just move with the person, I guess. That's all that can be said to start with.
Just try to remember that when it comes to kissing your tongue is a tool, not a weapon....

Crucifix

No one really knows how to kiss. Just do what feels good and hope for the best.

projectmayhem

everyone kisses different. just let the other person take the lead and go with the flow if you're not sure what to do. other then that, just do as everyone else said... relax. if you feel the kiss is going a bit off, you can do no wrong with a bit of hand work to take focus off the kiss and keep the passion going, as it were.

that or get out the oul pillow

Tar.Aldarion

Hmm, when my girlfriend and I started kissing, what a mess!
We were both so different, I was used to much more agrssiveness or something, it doesn't take long to sink up OP(ie do what she wants :P), give it an hour or two. Nakedness or seminakedness with hands helps actually, because your mind is otherwise occupied and you don't even think about what you are doing in the mouth area and it flows much better.

Don't eat her face.

Marksie

Kisses take many forms and it is something that you learn as you go along... but it is a wonderful art form to learn.

I guess that other posters have said go along with it ..and thats true.. but how to start?
First of all put verything you feel into it.. it really does show
So focus completely on the kiss
Take it slowly, look into her eyes and have your lips slightly parted... you can lightly cup her cheek as you move closer..but it is nice to look into her eyes and express in them... then lok at her lips and mouth
(Do Not re-enact a shark attack scene from jaws with mouth full open and a lunge)

Turn you head slightly as she turns hers the other way.. dont turn the same way.. just let the lips intialy touch then let it deepen. but do not rush or crush.. follow her lead if she begins to move her mouth, then move yours.. as you let the kiss deepen then your mouths can begin working more... If she doesnt move her mouth then begin gently to move yours.. not in big Goldfish bites, but slight movements.

It is ok to use the tongue slightly at some point, but be careful as someone might not be ready (and dont aim for the tonsils).
Initially start with your tongue on her lips and teeth... gently .. if hers responds to yours then go further..if not back off a little.
close your eyes.. by knocking out one sensory pathway..you heighten the others...big time
Then its practice practice practice..go with what feels right and DEFINITELY put everything you are feeing into it.
Dont worry too much what to do with your hands ..concentrate on the mouth and how it feels tastes etc..experience it .. but you can gently support her head ..
Overall enjoy.

Oh and when breaking the kiss...do it as slowly as when you started it.. pull away and look in her eyes.

If kisses are getting passionate then let it happen, but dont bruise either your or her lips.
and dont forget litle kisses on cheek and neck are delicious too... (not Hickeys though!)
Umm I hope that is of some help.. as a basic start
Practice: do you have a mirror.. i know it is going to sound silly but practice the approach and start on a mirror.. at the risk of getting laughed at here .. i would say that you can see afterwards a mark on the mirror, the shape of your lips and how it would correspond on the person you are kissing... and you can see how another person would look as you approach. (do clean it aftwerards though..people would wonder what the hell you have bee doing )

Lets face it my first kiss ever was a nightmare... it was during spin the bottle and we both chipped teeth!

Ruu_Old

Tar.Aldarion wrote:

Hmm, when my girlfriend and I started kissing, what a mess!
We were both so different, I was used to much more agrssiveness or something, it doesn't take long to sink up OP(ie o what she wants :P), give it an hour or two. Nakedness or seminakedness with hands helps actually, because your mind is otherwise occupied and you don't even think about what you are doing in the mouth are and it flows much better.

Don't eat her face.

Yep, start of slowly and remember to take a breath every once in a while. Don't just try and jump on on there, take it easy and help each other out. Have fun.
marksuttonie said it all really.

Tar.Aldarion

marksuttonie was the star of 'Never Been Kissed'.

smk135

marksuttonie wrote:

Kisses take many forms and it is something that you learn as you go along... but it is a wonderful art form to learn.

I guess that other posters have said go along with it ..and thats true.. but how to start?
First of all put verything you feel into it.. it really does show
So focus completely on the kiss
Take it slowly, look into her eyes and have your lips slightly parted... you can lightly cup her cheek as you move closer..but it is nice to look into her eyes and express in them... then lok at her lips and mouth
(Do Not re-enact a shark attack scene from jaws with mouth full open and a lunge)

Turn you head slightly as she turns hers the other way.. dont turn the same way.. just let the lips intialy touch then let it deepen. but do not rush or crush.. follow her lead if she begins to move her mouth, then move yours.. as you let the kiss deepen then your mouths can begin working more... If she doesnt move her mouth then begin gently to move yours.. not in big Goldfish bites, but slight movements.

It is ok to use the tongue slightly at some point, but be careful as someone might not be ready (and dont aim for the tonsils).
Initially start with your tongue on her lips and teeth... gently .. if hers responds to yours then go further..if not back off a little.
close your eyes.. by knocking out one sensory pathway..you heighten the others...big time
Then its practice practice practice..go with what feels right and DEFINITELY put everything you are feeing into it.
Dont worry too much what to do with your hands ..concentrate on the mouth and how it feels tastes etc..experience it .. but you can gently support her head ..
Overall enjoy.

Oh and when breaking the kiss...do it as slowly as when you started it.. pull away and look in her eyes.

If kisses are getting passionate then let it happen, but dont bruise either your or her lips.
and dont forget litle kisses on cheek and neck are delicious too... (not Hickeys though!)
Umm I hope that is of some help.. as a basic start
Practice: do you have a mirror.. i know it is going to sound silly but practice the approach and start on a mirror.. at the risk of getting laughed at here .. i would say that you can see afterwards a mark on the mirror, the shape of your lips and how it would correspond on the person you are kissing... and you can see how another person would look as you approach. (do clean it aftwerards though..people would wonder what the hell you have bee doing )

Lets face it my first kiss ever was a nightmare... it was during spin the bottle and we both chipped teeth!

that was so nice of you to take so long to explain!!

OP you could always ask one of your good female mates (if you are comfortable enough with any of them) to help you out. as in practice on them. Coz girls get to practice on girls but you guys are left out there in the open all by yourselves!

Black Swan

Everybody is different. When you find the one you fancy, practice makes perfect.

Tar.Aldarion

smk135 wrote:

that was so nice of you to take so long to explain!!

OP you could always ask one of your good female mates (if you are comfortable enough with any of them) to help you out. as in practice on them. Coz girls get to practice on girls but you guys are left out there in the open all by yourselves!

He could get a male friend to help him out?

smk135

Tar.Aldarion wrote:

He could get a male friend to help him out?

yeah i did think of that but, seriously, that's never gona happen is it? especially at his age what boy is gona want to risk their reputation by kissing another guy??

Marksie

Tar.Aldarion wrote:

marksuttonie was the star of 'Never Been Kissed'.

XXXXXX tar

Caryatnid

marksuttonie wrote:

<<<great advice>>>

Give that man a golden star. He wins the prize for the best advice ever for teenagers learning to kiss.

Edit:

smk135 wrote:

that was so nice of you to take so long to explain!!

OP you could always ask one of your good female mates (if you are comfortable enough with any of them) to help you out. as in practice on them. Coz girls get to practice on girls but you guys are left out there in the open all by yourselves!

That's silly advice.
Do girls not normally 'practice' on boys, and boys 'practice' on girls??? Surely the overwhelming majority of hetrosexual people have had their first kiss with the opposite sex. Anyway OP - I think one of the points made here is that you don't really need to 'practice' - you 'just do it'.
I don't recommmend 'practising' on a female (or any friend). Unless you fancy them and are tricking them into getting with you...... You can't really kiss someone properly (i.e. with the passion and feeling and all that) unless you fancy them.

free2fly

Take marksuttonie's advice OP. He is an excellent kisser. He can make a woman melt. And I can say that from first hand experience

Piste

Practice makes perfect tbh.

petes

smk135 wrote:

girls get to practice on girls

Pics?

Dub_Ster

just practice makes it work best

spinandscribble

i didnt have my first kiss until i was 3 months and 7 days shy of my 19th bday and my 1st boyfriend had no clue i was so inexperienced til i told him a month later. and i heard equally nothing but good things from the 2nd bf and another guy i spent some time with.
experience isnt everything. the worst kiss i've ever had was from the most experienced guy of the 3 i've kissed. and he was v. experienced!
nightclubs are bad places for kisses. and most definately for 1st kisses with ppl you arnt comfortable with. its all business there. fast furious kissing tongue shoving, quick wham bam thank your mam kisses.
what you need is a gentle start, soft kiss that builds up to making out. its the only way to see what you and she likes.
i was going to say everything marksuttonie was going to say. yes eye contact is so important after.
its also important to know where you should put your hands during. for first kisses with someone dont just grab the ass/boob/cock. it sends the wrong message if you want to maybe go out with the person, looks like your after only one thing and so on.
also as you begin maybe dont go straight for the mouth. kiss another part of the face to show your intent. the forehead, back of head? move closer to the mouth by the cheek or side of mouth. this is a good way to see if they want to kiss you back since you can leave your lips close to the mouth, say if you're sitting side by side, then its up to them to turn their head and make it equal.
i was so keyed up before my first kiss but if you start off slow and gentle with soft movements of the lips and eventually the tongue you should be fine and able to build it up. dont leave aload of gappy space in your mouth. it'll feel like a giant empty cave when she kisses you. make your tongue soft but purposeful. dont make it sharp.
my first kiss was great. everyone seems to have crappy stupid first kisses but mine was ideal in every way except it was freezing cold and we were standing right next to the sea, like a foot away. maybe that heightened everything
i know considering i've just given advice this wont make sense but try not to think so much. nothings worse then a kiss that seems calulated. and i might have kissed many guys but they were all very different and i picked up alot.

Caryatnid

*Gives Marksuttonie the prize*

Mark - will you kiss me please?

Call Me Jimmy

spinandscribble wrote:

also as you begin maybe dont go straight for the mouth. kiss another part of the face to show your intent. the forehead, back of head?

Imagine it, she leans in, you lean in, it's a beautiful moment, then WHAM you grab her face, spin her head round and kiss her right in the back of the head.
Good plan.

Trinity

Caryatnid wrote:

*Gives Marksuttonie the prize*

Mark - will you kiss me please?

join the queue babe

spinandscribble

dont be silly. i meant if he was cuddling her from behind and buried his his face to the top of her head to kiss it then went to the side and so on. shes hardly going to spin around honestly.

spinandscribble

oh for the love of god i read that wrong. i meant if he had began by hugging her from behind and wanted to move in for the kiss.

Trinity

spinandscribble wrote:

oh for the love of god i read that wrong. i meant if he had began by hugging her from behind and wanted to move in for the kiss.

LOL had visions of the exorcist head spinning scene there for a minute:D

spinandscribble

haha me too. heehee.

Marksie

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Canis Lupus

For gods sake remember you're not a washing machine. Do not stick your tongue in and swirl. Do anything apart from that and you will be okay.

free2fly

marksuttonie wrote:

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Trinity1 : XX


At your service ladies *


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I'll take Friday from 9 - 5 please

Capt'n Midnight

If you both are wearing braces be careful not to get caught.

upmeath

marksuttonie wrote:

Lets face it my first kiss ever was a nightmare... it was during spin the bottle and we both chipped teeth!

I went chewing nose, closed the eyes too soon and lunged! Woops...:D

GrumPy

Jesus Mark :eek:

TEACH US!!!!!!!!!!!!

Best advice on PI ever tbh. I agree with everything you said, your so dreamy

Pepe LeFrits

marksuttonie wrote:

Kisses take many forms and it is something that you learn as you go along... but it is a wonderful art form to learn.

I guess that other posters have said go along with it ..and thats true.. but how to start?
First of all put verything you feel into it.. it really does show
So focus completely on the kiss
Take it slowly, look into her eyes and have your lips slightly parted... you can lightly cup her cheek as you move closer..but it is nice to look into her eyes and express in them... then lok at her lips and mouth
(Do Not re-enact a shark attack scene from jaws with mouth full open and a lunge)

Turn you head slightly as she turns hers the other way.. dont turn the same way.. just let the lips intialy touch then let it deepen. but do not rush or crush.. follow her lead if she begins to move her mouth, then move yours.. as you let the kiss deepen then your mouths can begin working more... If she doesnt move her mouth then begin gently to move yours.. not in big Goldfish bites, but slight movements.

It is ok to use the tongue slightly at some point, but be careful as someone might not be ready (and dont aim for the tonsils).
Initially start with your tongue on her lips and teeth... gently .. if hers responds to yours then go further..if not back off a little.
close your eyes.. by knocking out one sensory pathway..you heighten the others...big time
Then its practice practice practice..go with what feels right and DEFINITELY put everything you are feeing into it.
Dont worry too much what to do with your hands ..concentrate on the mouth and how it feels tastes etc..experience it .. but you can gently support her head ..
Overall enjoy.

Oh and when breaking the kiss...do it as slowly as when you started it.. pull away and look in her eyes.

If kisses are getting passionate then let it happen, but dont bruise either your or her lips.
and dont forget litle kisses on cheek and neck are delicious too... (not Hickeys though!)
Umm I hope that is of some help.. as a basic start
Practice: do you have a mirror.. i know it is going to sound silly but practice the approach and start on a mirror.. at the risk of getting laughed at here .. i would say that you can see afterwards a mark on the mirror, the shape of your lips and how it would correspond on the person you are kissing... and you can see how another person would look as you approach. (do clean it aftwerards though..people would wonder what the hell you have bee doing )

Lets face it my first kiss ever was a nightmare... it was during spin the bottle and we both chipped teeth!

hahaha, I can picture the OP now writing all that down on his arm and trying to read it like an instruction manual while he's kissing someone next. Talk about over complicating things.

free2fly

Pepe LeFrits wrote:

hahaha, I can picture the OP now writing all that down on his arm and trying to read it like an instruction manual while he's kissing someone next. Talk about over complicating things.

You sound a bit jealous there Pepe. :rolleyes:

Pepe LeFrits

free2fly wrote:

You sound a bit jealous there Pepe. :rolleyes:

Oh, sorry, did the lack of smileys make my display of jocular amusement too subtle for you?

:rolleyes: :rolleyes:

Bob the Builder

My first Kiss...well I was 10yrs old kissed her and ran away ~ Why? I thought my parents would go mental...Got home and they laughed at me

My first shift/snog...I was 13yrs old, and i thought, i had to do the open/close lips plan, but naturally enough, when I closed my lips, I bit her tongue...it was a disaster.... My only reconcilliation is that I would have regretted it if I did, because she was such a ****ing wannabe man!!!

The reason that both disasters happened was that I was too tense, i wasn't used of the usual, boy -> girl regime.

Just close your eyes, meet ips, followed by tongue, and the rest will follow for the next minute....
...when your confident that that's going well, aim for "the twins, the ass, and beyond"

Crash

I remember my first kiss - I got somewhat lunged on by a girl I fancied, who ended up above me, and nearly suffocated thanks to her hair. good times :P

as for how to kiss....take it slow, move gently, and follow most of the above advice.

one added bit however: relax your whole body. there is nothing that will be less attractive (and extremely distracting) than someone being as rigid as a pole in your arms. its my one pet hate - anything else can be worked on again for me (or forgotten about) but that just makes me feel so uncomfortable.

dr.bollocko

&#231 wrote: »

one added bit however: relax your whole body. there is nothing that will be less attractive (and extremely distracting) than someone being as rigid as a pole in your arms. its my one pet hate - anything else can be worked on again for me (or forgotten about) but that just makes me feel so uncomfortable.

Muhuhuhahaha I can see nobody else went to the useless unhelpful smutty place when reading these posts.

Lean into the girl. You are the big giant and she is the daintiest piece of ornate pottery beauty ever. Lips pressing, soft and firm. And please no more washing machine metaphors people, I am gonna be sick if I picture two teenagers shifting the head off each other at a school disco even once more.

Crash

with a name like Dr. Bollocko, what more would you expect? :P heheh

carryboy

:rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes: kissing?...make it natural. when emotions rule, it will surely guide you. enjoy and savor the moment.:D

azezil

It really depends on the person you're kissing, for example the last two guys I kissed, I'll call them Mr X and Mr Y

Mr X was kinda shy, a little reserved so went for soft, slow, little bit of tongue, not too much just barely touching then built up to gently massaging his tongue with mine, hand on the side of his face finishing with a soft kiss on the lips and a smile.

Mr Y was a horn ball, I picked him up, slammed him against the wall for some full on deep throat action with intermittent lip biting *grin*

Zillah

azezil wrote:

Mr Y was a horn ball, I picked him up, slammed him against the wall for some full on deep throat action with intermittent lip biting *grin*

Classy as always...

LegacyUser

Dont rush it [the kiss] take it slow, gently suck her top lip for half a second and she will give you a sensual kiss back.
Dont be afraid to touch her neck or stroke her hair.

Tongue stuff is kinda crap. Most girls Ive kissed havent been into the whole tongue thing thankfully.

Oh and if a kiss goes bad theres always the chance the girl is a crap kisser or a bad drunk.

Jules

marksuttonie wrote:

Kisses take many forms and it is something that you learn as you go along... but it is a wonderful art form to learn.

I guess that other posters have said go along with it ..and thats true.. but how to start?
First of all put verything you feel into it.. it really does show
So focus completely on the kiss
Take it slowly, look into her eyes and have your lips slightly parted... you can lightly cup her cheek as you move closer..but it is nice to look into her eyes and express in them... then lok at her lips and mouth
(Do Not re-enact a shark attack scene from jaws with mouth full open and a lunge)

Turn you head slightly as she turns hers the other way.. dont turn the same way.. just let the lips intialy touch then let it deepen. but do not rush or crush.. follow her lead if she begins to move her mouth, then move yours.. as you let the kiss deepen then your mouths can begin working more... If she doesnt move her mouth then begin gently to move yours.. not in big Goldfish bites, but slight movements.

It is ok to use the tongue slightly at some point, but be careful as someone might not be ready (and dont aim for the tonsils).
Initially start with your tongue on her lips and teeth... gently .. if hers responds to yours then go further..if not back off a little.
close your eyes.. by knocking out one sensory pathway..you heighten the others...big time
Then its practice practice practice..go with what feels right and DEFINITELY put everything you are feeing into it.
Dont worry too much what to do with your hands ..concentrate on the mouth and how it feels tastes etc..experience it .. but you can gently support her head ..
Overall enjoy.

Oh and when breaking the kiss...do it as slowly as when you started it.. pull away and look in her eyes.

If kisses are getting passionate then let it happen, but dont bruise either your or her lips.
and dont forget litle kisses on cheek and neck are delicious too... (not Hickeys though!)
Umm I hope that is of some help.. as a basic start
Practice: do you have a mirror.. i know it is going to sound silly but practice the approach and start on a mirror.. at the risk of getting laughed at here .. i would say that you can see afterwards a mark on the mirror, the shape of your lips and how it would correspond on the person you are kissing... and you can see how another person would look as you approach. (do clean it aftwerards though..people would wonder what the hell you have bee doing )

Lets face it my first kiss ever was a nightmare... it was during spin the bottle and we both chipped teeth!

OH MY GOD.... PERFECT!

think i had a little girlie moment there... thank god my man is the perfect kisser, im one lucky girlie!

abetarrush

It was prob the girl who was ****, or maybe twas both of yes

was she locked???

Anti

marksuttonie wrote:

Kisses take many forms and it is something that you learn as you go along... but it is a wonderful art form to learn.

I guess that other posters have said go along with it ..and thats true.. but how to start?
First of all put verything you feel into it.. it really does show
So focus completely on the kiss
Take it slowly, look into her eyes and have your lips slightly parted... you can lightly cup her cheek as you move closer..but it is nice to look into her eyes and express in them... then lok at her lips and mouth
(Do Not re-enact a shark attack scene from jaws with mouth full open and a lunge)

Turn you head slightly as she turns hers the other way.. dont turn the same way.. just let the lips intialy touch then let it deepen. but do not rush or crush.. follow her lead if she begins to move her mouth, then move yours.. as you let the kiss deepen then your mouths can begin working more... If she doesnt move her mouth then begin gently to move yours.. not in big Goldfish bites, but slight movements.

It is ok to use the tongue slightly at some point, but be careful as someone might not be ready (and dont aim for the tonsils).
Initially start with your tongue on her lips and teeth... gently .. if hers responds to yours then go further..if not back off a little.
close your eyes.. by knocking out one sensory pathway..you heighten the others...big time
Then its practice practice practice..go with what feels right and DEFINITELY put everything you are feeing into it.
Dont worry too much what to do with your hands ..concentrate on the mouth and how it feels tastes etc..experience it .. but you can gently support her head ..
Overall enjoy.

Oh and when breaking the kiss...do it as slowly as when you started it.. pull away and look in her eyes.

If kisses are getting passionate then let it happen, but dont bruise either your or her lips.
and dont forget litle kisses on cheek and neck are delicious too... (not Hickeys though!)
Umm I hope that is of some help.. as a basic start
Practice: do you have a mirror.. i know it is going to sound silly but practice the approach and start on a mirror.. at the risk of getting laughed at here .. i would say that you can see afterwards a mark on the mirror, the shape of your lips and how it would correspond on the person you are kissing... and you can see how another person would look as you approach. (do clean it aftwerards though..people would wonder what the hell you have bee doing )

Lets face it my first kiss ever was a nightmare... it was during spin the bottle and we both chipped teeth!

Absolutly ****ign great advice. My gf just pm'd me and asking if this was my second account, as apparently that just what i do .

Ayla

I had a bit of a different first kiss...my bf was so nervous (it was a first for both of us) that he came in with his teeth completely covered by his lips. He actually curled his lips around his teeth so I felt like a toothless granny was giving me a kiss. The cheek rub he finished with felt exactly the same as the kiss. I still laugh about it.

But kissing is an art (MarkSuttonIE sounds like he's freakin' Van Geogh...lucky gf.)

Marksie

Ayla wrote:

...lucky gf.)

Its the other way around