Group dynamics

vorbis

This caused a small fight with a friend last night. I was in town for the night so she invited me out for drinks with about 10 of her friends. I didn't know any of them but that doesn't really bother me.

Anyways I arrived, sat down and did the whole introductions thing. After that not one person attempted to talk to me! I found this a tad rude as usually when a new person is introduced to my group of friends, they get asked the usual, where are you from, how do you know x, blah, blah.

I wasn't sitting there mute as I was chatting away to my friend. Afterwards, she got upset when I said there were a little rude in not involving me in any of the conversation. I usually chat away to anyone and have done so several times when introduced to a group of people.

muletide

some groups can be very clicky and dont like new people, but that doesnt excuse rudeness. Did you make much of an effort ?

I went out with a girl once and her family were like that.
Got invited to the house for Sunday dinner and there was about twelve family members there they all said hello and then proceeded to ignore me for the day. Still I got a free meal out of it

Pigman II

muletide wrote:

some groups can be very clicky

I know what you mean. I went to an arthritis sufferers meeting once and I couldn't get a word in.

muletide

bu bum tish. Quality stuff Pigman keep it coming


Cliquey

punky

There's no excusing that. I believe that at least one person in a group should make an effort to talk to a newcomer/unknown person. Once someone does the rest will follow. Some people are just socially retarded and don't know how to properly interact with other human beings.

Agamemnon

Vorbis, if they were that ignorant, you should have made a disgrace of yourself and humiliated your friend. You should have gotten roaring drunk and danced on the table, started a few fights and groped all the sexy people at the table.
That kind of ignorance is unacceptable from a "friend". I always make an effort to make new people feel at home in a group and I expect other people to do the same to me.

Huggles

I have this pleasure once a year!

I have a friend from secondary school and on her birthday I have to try and interact with her socially retarded college mates. They have this superiority complex because I didn't go to the same University and basically ignore me from start to finish. UGH! :mad:

bounty

did they go to trinity?

Ruu_Old

TheGooner wrote:

I have this pleasure once a year!

I have a friend from secondary school and on her birthday I have to try and interact with her socially retarded college mates. They have this superiority complex because I didn't go to the same University and basically ignore me from start to finish. UGH! :mad:

My skool is bettor than yores, ooohh yes.:)

bluto63

You should have made a bigger effort to talk to them. If they see that you are a kind, funny person then they would've started talking to you more. A lot of people don't know what to say to someone they don't know. Maybe you should have joined in a conversation your friend was having with someone else.

Pigman II wrote:

I know what you mean. I went to an arthritis sufferers meeting once and I couldn't get a word in.

:rolleyes:

Pigman II

bluto63 wrote:

:rolleyes:

200 posts in and you're still using ":rolleyes:". Whats the matter, did you not get enough love as a child?

bluto63

I just felt it was the right time to use it

Pigman II

Well you hurt my feelings when you posted it I'll have you know. I hope you'll apologise for it now?

bluto63

Ok, I'm sorry

Pigman II

Ok I guess. You don't sound very sincere tho. Surely you can do a bit better than that?

bluto63

Not really. The only reason I used the :rolleyes: smilie because I felt like it was showing that your comment was amusing but silly at the same time. Maybe I don't know my smilies?

Pigman II

Fair enough. How about saying something like "I'm sorry for misusing the :rolleyes: because it only serves to hurt the feelings of others and spread unhappiness throughout boards.ie". I'd be happy with that and we could be good friends after that.

bluto63

alright, I'm sorry for misusing the :rolleyes: because it only serves to hurt the feelings of others and spread unhappiness throughout boards.ie.
Now lets put this behind us. I suppose the would have been a better suited smilie

Crucifix

Wow, it's a kinder and gentler AH.

bluto63

I have learned much from Pigman II

Pigman II

I accept your apology. Excelsior! I'll look forward to seeing more of your posts in the future bluto. xx

Black Swan

Ruu wrote:

My skool is bettor than yores, ooohh yes.:)

Yes, but my dog is bigger than your dog! Woof, woof!

Susannahmia

bounty wrote:

did they go to trinity?

Was thinking the exact same thing!:D

ircoha

vorbis wrote:

This caused a small fight with a friend last night. I was in town for the night so she invited me out for drinks with about 10 of her friends. I didn't know any of them but that doesn't really bother me.

Anyways I arrived, sat down and did the whole introductions thing. After that not one person attempted to talk to me! I found this a tad rude as usually when a new person is introduced to my group of friends, they get asked the usual, where are you from, how do you know x, blah, blah.

I wasn't sitting there mute as I was chatting away to my friend. Afterwards, she got upset when I said there were a little rude in not involving me in any of the conversation. I usually chat away to anyone and have done so several times when introduced to a group of people.

Were u in Paris, that happens all the time to me there

anyway
Two guys are sittin' in a boat fishing and suckin' down beer when all of a
sudden Bill says, "I think I'm going to divorce my wife - she hasn't spoken to
me in over 6 months."

Earl sips his beer and says, "You better think it over - women like that are
hard to find."

People are just rude. It's easy to say why didn't OP make the effort but it's very intimidating to be faced with a group of 10 strangers. I've been in the same situation, sitting there feeling awkward while they all chatted away about people I didn't know. It's a million times easier to talk to the new person when you're part of the group. It requires a little effort but you can't just leave them sitting there.

Sangre

If that ever happens to me, I just make my own fun! Although sometimes when I try to do that the group turns on me. All I did was take out my penis and suddenly I'm the bad guy!

Typical.

bounty

bounty wrote:

did they go to trinity?

Have at you!

Darragh29

vorbis wrote:

This caused a small fight with a friend last night. I was in town for the night so she invited me out for drinks with about 10 of her friends. I didn't know any of them but that doesn't really bother me.

Anyways I arrived, sat down and did the whole introductions thing. After that not one person attempted to talk to me! I found this a tad rude as usually when a new person is introduced to my group of friends, they get asked the usual, where are you from, how do you know x, blah, blah.

I wasn't sitting there mute as I was chatting away to my friend. Afterwards, she got upset when I said there were a little rude in not involving me in any of the conversation. I usually chat away to anyone and have done so several times when introduced to a group of people.

I could almost put money on with you that they were from south Dublin, like Sandyford, D18, or somewhere like that???

SpAcEd OuT

Sangre wrote:

If that ever happens to me, I just make my own fun! Although sometimes when I try to do that the group turns on me. All I did was take out my penis and suddenly I'm the bad guy!

Typical.

brilliant

Huggles

bounty wrote:

did they go to trinity?

hee hee yes and I went to DCU

"the UCD for dylexics" - my friends trinner friends

vorbis

This was basically how I felt. I was chatting to my friend (she is actually going to Trinity ) but was half expecting at least one question from someone in the group. When people are talking about people you don't know its hard to join the conversation. They're not from South Dublin though, they're from Bray!

Taylor Plain Seam wrote:

People are just rude. It's easy to say why didn't OP make the effort but it's very intimidating to be faced with a group of 10 strangers. I've been in the same situation, sitting there feeling awkward while they all chatted away about people I didn't know. It's a million times easier to talk to the new person when you're part of the group. It requires a little effort but you can't just leave them sitting there.