what do I Do???

bookiebasher · 09-09-2006 8:46am #1

Hello all.
I recently met a girl who I liked very much and we went on a date or two.Both of us are separated but im longer split up than her.im 3 years and she is just over 1.
She told me she wasnt ready for a long term thing and I respected her decision as I have been down the breakup road and know it takes time to heal.
We stayed in touch for the last few weeks texting etc and she has asked me out tonight.Initally I was over the moon but have doubts that im just a shoulder to cry on for a while until she is fully over her breakup and then im toast.
Sorry if I come across as negative but I dont want to get hurt again so quickly after just jumping back into the dating scene.
What do you all think I should do.

gandalf · 09-09-2006 8:56am

I think if you really like her you should take things one step at a time. Give her space to heal and be there when she wants you.

The alternative is to cut your losses and walk away.

daiixi · 09-09-2006 9:12am

I say go for it. You might get hurt but you might not. You've both been honest with each other and this has just as much of a chance of working out as anything else. If you do get hurt then at least you know you gave it a shot - better than wondering what could have been! My €0.02 anyway.

lau1247 · 09-09-2006 9:35am

daiixi wrote:

I say go for it. You might get hurt but you might not. You've both been honest with each other and this has just as much of a chance of working out as anything else. If you do get hurt then at least you know you gave it a shot - better than wondering what could have been! My €0.02 anyway.

Ditto..

Strokesfan · 09-09-2006 9:44am

I think you should just go with it and see what develops. Developing a relationship has a lot of uncertainty and you cannot ask for a guarantee of commitment early on.

Would it be so bad to end up as friends?

Try not to be insecure, predict the future etc. Things will work out fine as long as you relax.

CathyMoran · 09-09-2006 11:03am

I would give her a chance - with love you have to take great risks to make great gains, at least both of you have been through similar circumstances. I do think that a year is a long time since a split and both of you deserve to have a chance together, if nothing else you will be gaining a friend.

Black Swan · 09-09-2006 6:48pm

Life is a game of chance. If you don't take any, you cannot win.

lau1247 · 09-09-2006 7:15pm

Blue_Lagoon wrote:

Life is a game of chance. If you don't take any, you cannot win.

If you take it, you could also lose..
Aye

what do I Do???

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