Should I stick it out

frustratedworke

Got a job with a company a year ago and while I am more than capable at what I do, I’m not happy.
There’s a lot of bitching, backstabbing and generally a bad morale in the firm, and my boss (middle management) and I don’t see eye to eye.
In fact some of what I’ve had to put up with has verged on bullying.
I love what I do (as in it’s the career I’ve always wanted) and I’ve been told I’m good at it but its not working out at my current place of work.
On top of that I’ve recently bought a house (colleagues arent aware of that) so I’m caught by the balls for the next little while at least.
There aren’t a massive amount of jobs within my industry and I’m fed up, its affected my health and my mood and I don’t know what to do.
My boss is in a position of authority, there’s no HR person and there’s no point in my raising the bullying, I have to get on with it.
What should I do?
This whole experience has affected my confidence, and I’m considering everything from a career change to the worst case scenario of selling the house and bailing out of the country.
Had this convesation with the folks the other day, and they reckon I should toughen it out, I don't know how lucky I am to have a job...blah, blah..which u'd expect from someone of that generation..

Kinetic^

FFS, this actually sounds like my old job!!!! What industry are you in??

Civilian_Target

If you think you could get a job that you would be happier doing and would still cover your finanical commitments, you should change. That simple.

EdgarAllenPoo

I have a bit of experience in your situation, firstly what I would say to you is this, if it is affecting your mental health get out and do it now. I used to say that it didn't really matter what I did for a living(just put in your time, take your money and go home), you could try that but no amount of money makes up for being miserable at work(and that's a big statement coming from someone like me). Before leaving the job have a look at your options lacollay and thoughout the country, if you're good at what you do and enjoy it you shouldn't let your boss ruin that and there will be someone looking to hire you if you're good at your job.

Zillah

Hmm. You could sue if its verging on bullying. Keep a diary of what goes on there, keep copies of memos/emails and all that.

Aside from that, I'd say nothing is worth putting up with a job you can't stand. Money is absolutely meaningless if you're unhappy.

You have a choice: Put up with a bad job and relax money wise, or relax in a different job and maybe struggle with money.

I'd choose the later any day.

juddd

You just bought a house and need a steady and secure cash flow to maintain it.
For the next year, put all of yourself into the job and go beyond the call of duty when you need to, be so good at your job that it makes the rest of them look like a bunch of mindless fools that like to play games, make THEM look Incompetent, do not get into fights or talk behind anyones back, or badmouth anyone, even if you hate them, if you do get into arguments or disagreements take it like a man and dont take it like an immature child would.

Let them play the games that they play and just get on with your work, do not stoop to their level, at first your tongue will be very, very sore from biting it all the time, just chomp down on that sucker and I promise that eventually their comments and behaviour will not bother you as much, in fact it may even become funny.

As for the bullying, you are protected by law in this country from such things, if it continues, you tell your boss or the person above them that if the bullying continues you will have to start exercising some rights and tell the boss that you are reporting this to him and that he is legally obligated to deal with the situation.
Shove page 6 section (a) of this link in his/her face and tell him/her and the companies Lawyer to have a good read before ingnoring your "greivance", the last thing the company wants is to be in court with a disgruntled employee, and most of the time the courts are in favour of the employee.
So tell them you want the bullying to stop and that you dont want to cause any problems like court cases and so on, you just want the bullying to stop and if it does not stop and is not dealt with properly you will have no choice but to take further action.

If things have not improved within the year, and you are still being bullied and the rest of them are still acting like a**holes, then try and find another job before you leave your current one to keep that cash flowing.

Huggles

juddd wrote:

You just bought a house and need a steady and secure cash flow to maintain it.
For the next year, put all of yourself into the job and go beyond the call of duty when you need to, be so good at your job that it makes the rest of them look like a bunch of mindless fools that like to play games, make THEM look Incompetent, do not get into fights or talk behind anyones back, or badmouth anyone, even if you hate them, if you do get into arguments or disagreements take it like a man and dont take it like an immature child would.

Let them play the games that they play and just get on with your work, do not stoop to their level, at first your tongue will be very, very sore from biting it all the time, just chomp down on that sucker and I promise that eventually their comments and behaviour will not bother you as much, in fact it may even become funny.

Thats spot on advice tbh. I do appreciate how hard it is as I am going through something similar. All you can do is your job to the best of your ability and keep your head down. Just do you thing and get out. After 6 months I'd start to look around for smething new.