Bridesmaid

giardiniera

HI,
i've just been asked to be a bridesmaid for a friend of mine. i've less than 3 months til the wedding. i have no idea what is expected of me i havent been to a wedding since i was a child.
I've no idea what kind of a gift to get her either.
I dont live near her so i'll also be sod all help to her in the lead up to the wedding.
has anyone got any advice on what to do.
what exactly is the role of the birdesmaid.

thanks

Ruu_Old

Do the married couple to be own a home?

giardiniera

yes they do. any ideas.

babaduck

God I wish my BM's were as helpful!

Meet up with her soon for a coffee & ask her what she wants you to help her with - no room for supposition and the cards will be on the table.

She might need a hand with writing invites, compiling the guest list, chasing up RSVP's.

It's your responsiblity to organise her hen night (keep her wishes in mind - no point in booking strippers if she's not into it IYKWIM) & make sure she enjoys herself. She might want a full out party, or a few drinks & a meal with the assorted rellies.

You need to attend the wedding rehearsal - it's a practice run of the main parts of the ceremony

Ask her what her plans are for the wedding day - does she want to get her hair & makeup done at home or in a salon? Are you to make your own arrangements for this? Do you buy your own shoes, dress etc?

And then look after her on the day - make sure she's calm, dress/hair etc is looking good, carry tissues etc., hold her bouquet when she's at the altar, smile in the photos, snog the Best Man if he's cute... get the picture yet ????

giardiniera

thank you. that doesnt sound to bad. meeting up for coffee would probably be a good idea. she may not have invitations organised yet.
thanks for the help.

ST*

I've been asked to be maid of honour at my sisters wedding in Rome next year. I had no idea to what extent I had to be involved. In fact, to be brutally honest I thought they just stood there with a bouquet in hand.

I've since become more involved, and currently now liaising with hotels. I wasn't really sure how I could help at the start, but now I'm helping with menus, scouting for invites (looks like it will be Lantz), I'll be organising a hen weekend (probably a spa-wkend), annnnnd then of course I'll be organising a bridal shower. Thought this would be a good idea rather than have everyone haul gifts and money over there, only to be brought back. That, and the security risk.


What have I let myself in for?

Wouldn't worry about it too much giardiniera. When you meet up with the bride to be you can talk things through, and you'll soon settle into what has to be done - and how you can help.

skye

God how lucky is your friend!! I'm getting married in 2 weeks and have yet to have an offer of help from anyone....nevermind my 3 bridesmaids! Anything you can do for her will be greatly appreciated I'm sure. The biggest jobs I found were doing out the Mass booklets ( typing, printing binding etc..) also the invites - again a DIY job. Make sure you can be with her to choose her dress - big decision....making favours is another thing - very time consuming (especially on your own!). Mainly just be there for her and give her all the support you can - believe me when I say she will need this more than anything...especially when the families start getting involved and wrecking her head!!! Have fun above all and make it fun for her and you won't go wrong.

giardiniera

thank you so much for the help i feel so much better about it. i've offered to do anything she wants so hopefully it'll all work out.

good luck to everyone getting married and i hope it all goes well for you.

thanks again

magpie

You have to sleep with the best man

cmurph

ooh do you , cool i'm bridesmaid in december , both me and the best man are married but sure it could be fun..:)


seriously though ,i have been with the bride for many trying on sessions in the hunt for theee wedding dress and she now has it , thankfully , last week i drove myself ,the other bridesmaid and the bride to cork and we got the bridesmaid dresses in debenhams , [great valu, 140 euro each for the dress and wrap]
i have given my opinion on the invites ,cakes, flowers and hen night .the bride is oprganising the hen night as i don't know all her friends and i dont think she knows herself what kinda night she wants...
last night it was going to be at the tom jones concert but has been changed again today, one things for sure we will have a laugh anyway.

so go on all bridesmaids help ur friend and enjoy the day