How would you define it???

lifesucks

I was having a conversation with my friend the other day and they were asking about my relationship with my boyfriend and they were asking have i had sex with him. It seems to me that people define gay sex as different things.... While some people would defy it only as having anal other defy it as something else. What would ye defy it as?


Edit: sorry for the brutal spelling!!

Vinnie69

lifesucks wrote:

I was having a conversation with my friend the other day and they were asking about my relationship with my boyfriend and they were asking have i had sex with him. It seems to me that people defy gay sex as different things.... While some people would defy it only as having anal other defy it as something else. What would ye defy it as?

What kind of friend asks "are you having anal sex" ? Was this a gay friend ? or a nosey straight? To answer your friend's question, gay sex is not all about bums and willies

Untense

lifesucks wrote:

How would you defy it?

By having sex with a woman...

lifesucks

What kind of friend asks "are you having anal sex" ?

A very close friend who i tell everying thing too..

so if its not all about the bums and willies what is it then?!

Define.

(i knew i had it spelt wrong but cudnt figure it out )

damien

Untense wrote:

By having sex with a woman...

Only if she wasn't doing the same thing.

lifesucks

sorry i hadn't realised i had posted in the comedy forum..... but i suppose my dyslexia is only a joke to poeple anyways....

damien

lifesucks wrote:

but i suppose my dyslexia is only a joke to poeple anyways....

And is apparently a gold plated disabled sign for you. Get over yourself.

lifesucks

damien.m wrote:

And is apparently a gold plated disabled sign for you. Get over yourself.

Sorry, just in a shít mood today. All i asked for was people opinion on something, not a critical analyisis of my post.

I was halfway through writing the post when i thought to myself how long would it take for this to go off topic and predicted that someone would come out with something stupid like

What kind of friend asks "are you having anal sex" ? Was this a gay friend ? or a nosey straight?

I didnt ask your opinion on if its ok for me to discuss my sex life with my best friend.

Nine posts down and my question still hasnt managed to be answered.

swiss

That's because defining gay sex seems to me to be little different than defining straight sex. You can have anal sex and oral sex (nonwithstanding Bill Clintons fudged definition). You could also lump activities such as rimming, wánking, frottage and so forth under the looser umbrella of sexual activities, though perhaps not fitting the stricter interpretation of the word sex. Even a non contact activity like phone sex (or just chatting dirty) can be a sexual activity if you reframe your terms of reference.

But limiting your idea of sex to bums and willies, as you put it, is just limiting yourself, IMO.

Vinnie69

lifesucks wrote:

I was halfway through writing the post when i thought to myself how long would it take for this to go off topic and predicted that someone would come out with something stupid like



I didnt ask your opinion on if its ok for me to discuss my sex life with my best friend.

Nine posts down and my question still hasnt managed to be answered.

Why don't you ask your "best friend", there isn't anything that gays can't do that straights do except have babies.

If you read my post, you would seen that I asked questions but gave no opinions.

I was being :rolleyes: about willies in bums, that seems to be fascinate straight society

azezil

If someone said to me "lets have sex", my understanding would be, "lets have anal sex".

Beruthiel

lifesucks wrote:

I didnt ask your opinion on if its ok for me to discuss my sex life with my best friend.

Nine posts down and my question still hasnt managed to be answered.

Someone got out of the wrong side of bed...

I don't know why sex needs to be defined into an exact box, it is whatever it is to each individual, be they straight or gay

Hmm_Messiah

or perhaps just out of the wrong bed.

kinda pointless question but I guess "gay sex" is what ever activities any two gay people consider sexual between themselves.

sex between two guys can be great

if you manage to get between the right two guys

Vinnie69

Hmm_Messiah wrote:

or perhaps just out of the wrong bed.

kinda pointless question but I guess "gay sex" is what ever activities any two gay people consider sexual between themselves.

sex between two guys can be great

if you manage to get between the right two guys

"gays to the left of me,
gays to the right of me
Here am I stuck in the middle with you"

reminds me of a song!

damien

gay sex is just like sex, it's whatever is happening in the heads of the two or more people involved.

Cake Fiend

lifesucks wrote:

Nine posts down and my question still hasnt managed to be answered.

This isn't the 'demand an answer from a dedicated panel of experts waiting with baited breath for your life issues' board, it's a general relaxed discussion board. You might need some patience in here.

Hmm_Messiah

damien.m wrote:

gay sex is just like sex, it's whatever is happening in the heads of the two or more people involved.

breaks the news to Damien .....

can occasionally involve other parts of the anatomy (will not mention inanimate objects)

Vinnie69

Hmm_Messiah wrote:

breaks the news to Damien .....

can occasionally involve other parts of the anatomy (will not mention inanimate objects)

Which head ? the giving or receiving ? The HEAD rules the heart so to speak:D

Vinnie69

azezil wrote:

If someone said to me "lets have sex", my understanding would be, "lets have anal sex".

What kind of guys do you meet or are you in a Turkish prison?

Do you really think like this ?

If someone asks you if you would like a drink? Do you instantly think of Water Sports?

Maybe you are meeting the wrong kind of gay guys?

Hmm_Messiah

Vinnie69 wrote:

What kind of guys do you meet or are you in a Turkish prison?
Do you really think like this ?
If someone asks you if you would like a drink? Do you instantly think of Water Sports?
Maybe you are meeting the wrong kind of gay guys?

1. so what if he does? I think the OP asked for peoples opinions, not with the intention they would then be judged.
2. azezil taking a drink from a stranger ?
3. "the wrong kind of gay guys" ... I won't even go there.

damien

Vinnie69 wrote:

Maybe you are meeting the wrong kind of gay guys?

i.e. Not you?
Leave you name and number at reception and one of his people will go through your details and let you know if you can get an appointment.

I guess you class sex as hugging and kissing all night til the early morn?

Aard

"Sex" is everything except for anal for me. Anal is a perk; I wouldn't be expecting somebody to do that, but if they do then great XD.


EDIT: Just realised this post doens't make much sense.

Vinnie69

Hmm_Messiah wrote:

1. so what if he does? I think the OP asked for peoples opinions, not with the intention they would then be judged.
2. azezil taking a drink from a stranger ?
3. "the wrong kind of gay guys" ... I won't even go there.

1 Wasn't judging, goddamit ! I was curious what he got, they all want to shag!!

2 don't know the chap but I'd buy him a drink to find out 1:D

3 Tell me where you won't go and we won't go together;)

Vinnie69

damien.m wrote:

i.e. Not you?
Leave you name and number at reception and one of his people will go through your details and let you know if you can get an appointment.

I guess you class sex as hugging and kissing all night til the early morn?

No We have seperate beds and always remember when visiting the other half, to keep one foot on the ground like they did in old Hollywood movies. So much more exciting! don't you think?

damien

Vinnie69 wrote:

No We have seperate beds and always remember when visiting the other half, to keep one foot on the ground like they did in old Hollywood movies. So much more exciting! don't you think?

Beds! How nouveau-kinky!

Vinnie69

damien.m wrote:

Beds! How nouveau-kinky!

Heavens forbid !!! Its back to the floor and cold showers for me!!

azezil

Vinnie69 wrote:

1 Wasn't judging, goddamit ! I was curious what he got, they all want to shag!!

I didn't say that, not everyone I meet wants to have sex, but if they spoke the words "lets have sex", I would take it to mean anal.

wheresthebeef

i would regard sex as lots of intimacy involving, at minimum, oral sex, or at maximum, anal sex.
anything less than oral sex, is kind of just "making out".

thats my opinion anywho.

LegacyUser

hey, if the OP is still paying attention, I'm here with you. When I came out to my friends (male-bi, by the way), that was usually there first question for me (if not that, then what my taste in guys is, followed by much unneeded giggling). Anal sex is "sex," all other acts are "sexual". That's just how I organize it in my head (not a whole lot to organize, since I'm a virgin both ways), and basically how Freud (my hero) likes to put things. You could be like Kinsey, who thought sex was anytime you orgasmed.

rorobobo

Sex is interpretated differently by everyone.
For me sex refers to anal sex.
But I have gay friends that don't have anal sex
and they define sex as being sexually active with another person...be it rimming, **** etc...
No one person can put a definition on sex that would apply to everyone :cool: