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commitment ceremony in dublin

  • 07-08-2006 06:49PM
    #1
    bluestarshine
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 19 ✭


    hi,
    me and my girlfriend were thinking of having a commitment ceremony.has anybody had one or been to one, and who would lead the ceremony. any thoughts would be appreciated.


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  • #2
    spurious
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    I've been to one. It was a few years ago and it was in a large house outside Dublin, rented specially for the occasion.

    The women involved selected writings that were important to them, the guests all chose a piece of writing (prose or poetry) that expressed what they felt about the couple or wished for them, and after a short non-denominational (and actually not really religious in any formal sense) meditation, the two women publicly stated their love for and commitment to the other.

    We then all had a beautiful meal prepared by the owner of the country house they had rented for the weekend of the occasion. This was followed by lots of good wine and a great time was had by all. All the guests stayed over in the big house.

    The MC was a friend of the couple - it wasn't really a formal ceremony at all. It was very moving.

    The only problem was that while the owner and some senior staff 'knew', some of the junior staff in the place did not know what the 'ceremony' was about, and they made up some story for them about a meeting of business women in the area, as they didn't want to see their big day plastered all over the 'Sunday World' the following weekend.

    If it's your ceremony, you have it whatever way you want it. Good luck.


  • #3
    UU
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    The Unitarian Church in Dublin is one of the few churches that fully supports the rights of LGBTs and full equality. The actually do blessings for couples. My friend got one with his partner. The Unitarian Church is not Christian and accepts everyone of any religion. Contact me for any further information if you're interested by sending me a PM. :)


  • #4
    Hmm_Messiah
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    A Wiccan/pagan handfest might be an option. Or druid/witch etc

    theoritically they are for a yr and a day then you can renew or walk away. One thing I like about them is they echoe some ancient irish customs like jumping the broomstick to signify the new union .

    Really its up to yourselves, could be "facilitated" by some one who brought you close, or a parent, and there are a number of priests who would conduct a ceremony. Infact it could be celebrated by every one present, giving each person a unique sense of witnessing your union.

    If you are non-religious some "wiccan" ceremonies remain apt and beautiful with their elusion to mother earth and all the traits they give to a feminine deity.


  • #5
    Nevyn
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    Hmm_Messiah wrote:
    A Wiccan/pagan handfest might be an option. Or druid/witch etc

    theoritically they are for a yr and a day then you can renew or walk away. One thing I like about them is they echoe some ancient irish customs like jumping the broomstick to signify the new union .

    Really its up to yourselves, could be "facilitated" by some one who brought you close, or a parent, and there are a number of priests who would conduct a ceremony. Infact it could be celebrated by every one present, giving each person a unique sense of witnessing your union.

    If you are non-religious some "wiccan" ceremonies remain apt and beautiful with their elusion to mother earth and all the traits they give to a feminine deity.


    Actually if you are going bu brehon law there are nine terms of marriage, a year and a day is only one of them and the term the marriage it so be fore is delcared by those making the vows.

    It may be hard to find a person willing to do this if the couple are not pagan or at least agnositic, you can't expect a rabbi to do a blessing / verison of a jewish wedding for someone who is not of thier flock or faith.

    IF you wanted to do it really old style irish/cletic then you have to publically share a meal together from the same plate with has included in it bread and salt and feed each other and delcare that you joining your lives together.
    That you will support, tend, honour and care for each other.
    You will need someone to read out the terms of your agreement before hand and you then ask for blessings and well wishes in the form of toasts from those gathered who are witness.


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