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Card for brothers anniversary?

  • 27-07-2006 3:07pm
    #1
    NewFrockTuesday
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    A friends brother is one year married on Saturday and he asked me whether or not he should give him a card. I don't know whether or not he should by correct etiquette for this. i said to give him a card because its like going to a party - rather over dressed than under.
    Does anyone know what the story is with this one?
    Thanks.

    Apols for the most boring post ever!


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  • #2
    Archeron
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,414 ✭✭✭Archeron


    Dellgirl2 wrote:
    A friends brother is one year married on Saturday and he asked me whether or not he should give him a card. I don't know whether or not he should by correct etiquette for this. i said to give him a card because its like going to a party - rather over dressed than under.
    Does anyone know what the story is with this one?
    Thanks.

    Apols for the most boring post ever!

    I would say yes, tell him to send one. I was best man at my bro's wedding and I forgot to send the couple a card on the first anniversary. Mainly because I'm not into cards, but I think I still get evils from his wife. Like you say, better safe than sorry.


  • #3
    Ruu_Old
    Closed Accounts Posts: 36,634 ✭✭✭✭Ruu_Old


    You could ask the beautiful people at the Weddings/Marriage forum, under Soc. I assume by your post that the couple are having some sort of a party thing. Yeah I would bring a card.


  • #4
    cch
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    No, no, no! Am I the only person that thinks an anniversary is something for the couple ONLY, and that anybody getting involved in it is just creepy... Excepting the biggies (25, 50 etc) the only person who has to do anything about it is the husband!


  • #5
    Archeron
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    cch wrote:
    No, no, no! Am I the only person that thinks an anniversary is something for the couple ONLY, and that anybody getting involved in it is just creepy... Excepting the biggies (25, 50 etc) the only person who has to do anything about it is the husband!

    thats what I thought, but my brothers wife is like a spokeswoman for hallmark.
    Thank you cards, thank you for the thank you card cards and so on. Not to mention an army of teddy bears that could take on China and Russia combined.
    I think it depends on the couple TBH.


  • #6
    5starpool
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    Cards for all occasions (bloody paddys day and easter cards, wtf??) are demeaning traditional card occasions, but I am an anti card type anyways.

    I think the answer for the OP should be that whatever the tradition in your friends family is then do that i.e. if it is cards all round for all occasions then go ahead. Alternatively, might be safer to bring one but not give it if noone else seems to be. Hedge your bets that way.


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  • #7
    Lust4Life
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    If you are directly related to the groom, and are involved someway in the wedding, it can be easy to overlook such things, but a card with a personal note to them would mean much more than the others they receive.

    I say do it!


  • #8
    NewFrockTuesday
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    He was best man at the wedding as well. My family arent huge card givers so I wouldnt really go mad on the card for occassion thing. I dont think his family are too nuts about it either. I think maybe a nice bottle of wine and verbal recognition of the date.
    Thanks for the replies.


  • #9
    Flukey
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    Well unless they have split up in the past year, there is no reason not to give a card. He's family, so of course he can. Friends can too. The big ones are for the parties, your 25 years, 40 years, 50 years etc., but of course you can buy a card for the others. Go into any card shop and there are Happy Anniversary cards not for the big ones and not from the husband or wife.


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