why do most women look for relationships?

bacon?

from reading posts on here, and from my own experiences, it seems most women are looking for serious relationships, while guys are happy to have casual reltionships, or one night stands.

i know this doesn't go for all women and all men, but most women and most men, in their 20's anyway.

if you're a guy in a pub/club, and you want to chat up an attractive girl, alot of the time you'll be seen as just trying to get the leg over, why is this such a bad thing? sex is good.

personally, i've had v few one night stands, but quite a few brief flings, i prefer to get to know a girl a bit, alot of the time, it'll run it's course after a few weeks, but i find women can get v clingy, and are out for a serious relationship.

i realy want some feedback from the girls on this one.

say you're in a pub/club, you're single, and a guy you fancy starts chatting you up, you hit it off and give him your phone number, are you looking for a relationship? especially after you've done the bold thing?

LadyJ

bacon? wrote:

are you looking for a relationship? especially after you've done the bold thing?

Where does it say that it's such a bad thing to sleep with someone before a relationship starts?

I'm not saying that every time I sleep with someone,I want a relationship to follow,but why would it be so outrageous if I did want that after "doing the bold thing"? :rolleyes:

ThrownAway

I think it depends on what situation the person is in. Take a man in his early twenties you never had a girlfriend and never kissed a girl. He's more than likely going to be looking for a relationship.

Although I'm single I wouldn't want to be in a relationship at the moment regardless of the other person. I always say to myself I'm young and I don't need to commit to anything just yet, just have fun.

It's going to be a different story when I'm in my late twenties early thirtys at that stage people are being to settle down into more serious relationships and you kind of lose the whole going out with a group of friends thing.

To answer your question - When I'm in a pub /club the last thing on my mind is relationships

AnitaMcCluskey

I don't really know any girls that are looking for relationships, they are much more into having fun. In fact, I was begining to think that the roles were reversing! I know plenty of young blokes on the look out for serious relationship and are constantly complaining about how girls just want to have fun.

Sarky

Probably the same reasons most black men have a huge penis, most Russians are in the mafia, and most Jewish people secretly run the world.

Aren't mass generalisations fun kids?

TomCo

LadyJ wrote:

Where does it say that it's such a bad thing to sleep with someone before a relationship starts?

I'm not saying that every time I sleep with someone,I want a relationship to follow,but why would it be so outrageous if I did want that after "doing the bold thing"? :rolleyes:

Are you not aware of the colloquialism "to do the bad thing" or "the nasty", its not a commentary on morality.

jimbono1

i moved from london a few years back, and was thinking the opposite about irish girls, any Ive met seem to be out for just a laugh/casual sex and dont like being held down in a relationship, maybe that's just me though

LadyJ

TomCo wrote:

Are you not aware of the colloquialism "to do the bad thing" or "the nasty", its not a commentary on morality.

I get it but in this context the OP said,

"are you looking for a relationship,ESPECIALLY after you've done the bad thing?"

Like as if after having sex you shouldn't be expecting anything more.

AngryBadger

A certain amount of all this is keeping up appearances. Sometimes women are just out for a casual encounter, but they don't want to admit to it. Hence you'll often hear about, or see people out telling everyone that they couldn't possibly have a one-night stand, and then going home with a random punter.

I don't really think you can say that most women are looking for serious relationships, while most guys just want to get the leg over.

There is a problem on both sides with a lack of respect for the other sides perspective. A lot of women seem to think al men are bastards who only want one thing, and that once they've slept with you they have the right to demand a relationship. Similarly a lot of men think women are just teases who use sex to guilt guys in relationships, and feel they have no right to demand a relationship just because he got to dip his wick.

As with most things the answer is in the middle somewhere. There are guys who just want to get the leg over, and there are guys who just want casual sex. At the same time there are women who just want serious relationships, and there are women who just want casual sex.

I suppose from a guys' perspective the problem is that it's often impossible to tell wat a woman is after, whereas we tend to be more up-front in our objectives.

Beetlebum

For me it changes on a daily basis. At times I love the freedom of being single but at times I really want a relationship. For the most part being single is alot more fun than being in a relationship. Having a bf can be really stressful but I suppose it depends on the guy and the dynamic of your relationship. My last bf had a jealous streak and it caused alot of problems between us. I had to be constantly aware of who I spoke to when we were out and even who I went to lunch with at work. He'd get all stropy if I went to lunch with the lads. Not having to answer to anybody is great.....think I'm having a 'being single rocks' day:)

robinph

ThrownAway wrote:

It's going to be a different story when I'm in my late twenties early thirtys at that stage people are being to settle down into more serious relationships and you kind of lose the whole going out with a group of friends thing.

Some of us old gits don't want to settle down either though and just want to have fun as well you know?

IvaBigWun

What do women look for? A big langer, hugs, humour and conversation. In that order.

LadyJ

IvaBigWun wrote:

What do women look for? A big langer, hugs, humour and conversation. In that order.

That wasn't the question.

IvaBigWun

I misread the title.

RoundyMooney

IvaBigWun wrote:

What do women look for? A big langer, hugs, humour and conversation. In that order.

How tall did you say you were?

Black Swan

bacon? wrote:

most women

I really think that this deserves a poll. OK, how many of you out in boardsland are "most women"? Show of hands, er..., on your keyboards, please. Very funny Tar! Now put your hands down. OK, next item...

sex is good

That got a good response. Wait a minute, some girls put up both hands. Live4Life, Takola, Blush_01, only one hand next time.

women can get v clingy

Please, please girls, I didn't say to demonstrate with the males in the audience! Girls, please let poor Demetrius and Tunaman up. And Colm OReilly, this is not time to demonstrate your self-defense techniques! Geez, you would think that this was the Jerry Springer show!

Sorry folks! Things started to get out of hand. We'll have to go to station break. Now, a message from our sponsor. OP, take it away!:cool:

Ickle Magoo

bacon? wrote:

are you looking for a relationship? especially after you've done the bold thing?

Depends if he was any good...;)

supernova

It sounds like bacon? is a commitment phobe.
Both men and women are guilty of that.

RandomOne

Ickle Magoo wrote:

Depends if he was any good...;)

And didn't leave you with anything needing antibiotics of course.

Ickle Magoo

RandomOne wrote:

And didn't leave you with anything needing antibiotics of course.

That would definately kill any thoughts of a second date....:eek:

Sorry, but I think this is bull.

I was out with a girl over a year ago and it was the other way round, she wouldn't let it get serious.

And I look for relationships, don't feel keen on having flings.

Seraphina

guys who just want to get their leg over are usually crap in bed cause they don't care, thats why i avoid them anyway