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why is this girl tormenting me?

  • 24-07-2006 9:00am
    #1
    observer
    Closed Accounts Posts: 105 ✭✭


    this very nice very geniune girl and i have always being close and got it together a few times over the last two years. i really liked her and when i told her said said that although she liked me she said that for now could we just be friends.

    fast forward to last weekend and i have/had moved on and we ended up drunken kissing again! i didn't really think anything more of it as i am actually seeing another girl though we're only just beginning to see each other.

    then at the weekend just passed, her friend told a friend of mine that she was really looking forward to seeing me out again but i wasn't and that she really liked me. now she doesn't know that i was dating anyone else but my friend told her friend the following

    he did really like her but he's moved on and is dating another girl now and asked her to pass it on.

    once again this girl is back inside my head!!!!

    why


Comments

  • #2
    Fanny Cradock
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,245 ✭✭✭✭Fanny Cradock


    probably because you kissed her. you are going out with someone. i suggest that you stick with her, and stop playing the field.


  • #3
    cance
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,562 ✭✭✭cance


    well you kind of brought it on yourself. I would have given her a wide berth given the history.

    Anyway, do exactly that, give her some distance and make your point.

    I am currently seeing someone.
    No nothing will happen between us.
    given the history between us, its not the best idea.

    talk to her, dont pass chinese whispers between friends.


  • #4
    observer
    Closed Accounts Posts: 105 ✭✭observer


    ok i dunno what the term is if your not going out with someone but we're between the point of being strangers and going out! i.e dating as the americans would call it! plus it was a drunken kiss on both our parts.


    when you stay stick with her which one are you talking about. i'd moved on and got over her. now i'm not so sure. i could defo keep being over her but could slip the other way just as easy! its like being an alcohlic. you want it you just don't need it!


  • #5
    LadyJ
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,122 ✭✭✭LadyJ


    observer wrote:
    its like being an alcohlic. you want it you just don't need it!
    You're forgetting the most important thing here.

    It's also bad for them.


  • #6
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Talk to the girl. She's not just a sack of meat.
    Have some respect.


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  • #7
    Black Swan
    Moderators, Category Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 47,528 CMod ✭✭✭✭Black Swan


    observer wrote:
    fast forward to last weekend and i have/had moved on and we ended up drunken kissing again! i didn't really think anything more of it as i am actually seeing another girl though we're only just beginning to see each other.

    Seems like you need to make up your mind which girl you want to be with and act accordingly.


  • #8
    unnameduser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,081 ✭✭✭unnameduser


    you gotta make up your mind which one you want before you end up with nothing


  • #9
    observer
    Closed Accounts Posts: 105 ✭✭observer


    NortSoide wrote:
    Talk to the girl. She's not just a sack of meat.
    Have some respect.


    i have a serious amount of respect for this girl! i'm not sure how on earth you could see that i don't! maybe i haven't explained it very well!

    its just that having said so many times that we were just friends that now when i am attracted to someone else she suddenly comes out and says that she wants more


  • #10
    Sony
    Closed Accounts Posts: 301 ✭✭Sony


    are you sure she likes you enough to go out with you?

    cause I know if I liked a girl enough to go out with them I wouldnt tell them I just wanted to be friends...:confused:


  • #11
    Squall
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,345 ✭✭✭Squall


    observer wrote:
    i have a serious amount of respect for this girl! i'm not sure how on earth you could see that i don't! maybe i haven't explained it very well!

    its just that having said so many times that we were just friends that now when i am attracted to someone else she suddenly comes out and says that she wants more

    Ive seen this happen before. The way I see it is that the girl knows you like her and thus feels desirable. She may not be interested but is happy to have someone admire her. Now youve moved on and found someone else... she starts to worry shes no longer desireable and does her utmost to get you back to liking her. Once that happens she may realise she really isnt interested in a relationship with you and presto your back to square one. You liking her and wanting it to go further and her being happy to just have you like her. Its an ego thing I think. (Of course I may be wayyyy off... only you can tell for sure)

    My advice would be to give the other girl a chance. If the original girl is so keen to go out with you then she will be willing to wait and see what happens with this other relationship.

    Good luck with whatever you decide anyway


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