Sick of being so good looking

LegacyUser

This will prob seem like a p*ss take but I have a serious issue. I am sick of being a really good looking guy. I know this sounds like a stupid comment. But it always lands me in trouble. Other mates are always annoyed at me for picking up girls and not having to make an effort. They spend ages chatting up women, I just stand there doing nothing and end up with the phone number. I don't mean to get in their way but it just happens.

I would like to just go out, stay in the background and not upset people but I just seem to attract women all the time. And a lot of the time guys have chatted me up in front of my mates. They are quite seedy at times and keep sleazing over me.

I am sorry again if this seems like I am just boasting, I really am not. I would like to just be an average joe or make more of an attempt to not upstage my mate with my looks.

Any advice is welcome.

Nickibaby*

Wear a binliner.

Buy some fake zits in the joke shop.

Don't wash (people will keep their distance)

If someone comes up to you explain how irritating it is being so hot....most would tend to walk off when you start that.

That's all I can think of.......good luck with it you sexy thing you.

RRRRRRRRRRRRRAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRRRRR

RandomOne

Stay in.

Victor

"And a lot of the time guys have chatted me up in front of my mates."????

LadyJ

MoreThanLooks wrote:

Other mates are always annoyed at me for picking up girls and not having to make an effort. They spend ages chatting up women, I just stand there doing nothing and end up with the phone number.

That is your mates' problem,not your's. They are obviously jealous and they have to deal with that.

You don't rub it in their faces so tell them to get over it and grow up.

I would like to just go out, stay in the background and not upset people but I just seem to attract women all the time. And a lot of the time guys have chatted me up in front of my mates. They are quite seedy at times and keep sleazing over me.

Why should you hide in a corner? You have every right to go out and show yourself,same as your mates do.

I have a mate who I like to go out and have a laugh with but she really hates that I get more attention from men than she does. However,if this bothers her so much then she should stop asking me to go out on the town with her. It is her issue and I won't ever apologise for who I am or hide away.

I am sorry again if this seems like I am just boasting, I really am not. I would like to just be an average joe or make more of an attempt to not upstage my mate with my looks.

Again,don't change yourself just because someone else has a problem with something that's out of your (and their) control.

It's not like you are purposely trying to annoy them. If they can't realise that then they aren't worth knowing.

It's to ridiculous to have to tiptoe around someone like that.

Heyes

ur mates are just been stupid, they ll snap out of it in time.

1huge1

Victor wrote:

"And a lot of the time guys have chatted me up in front of my mates."????

ya i was wondering the same thing

are you on about gay men chatting you up?

AngryBadger

MoreThanLooks wrote:

I know this sounds like a stupid comment.

....you're right it does sound like a stupid comment. but hey, we all have our crosses to bear, I too am cursed with the winning looks that have won me the coveted "Most Dapper gentleman" prize for the last 5 turns of the earth.

It's tough you know......:p

King of Kings

sorry if that is your problem then you have it easy....

your mates have issues with themselves and need to sort that out (or you get new mates)

You however have been given a blessing and you are a bit of an eejit to reject it.


Get over yourslevs get a g'friend and then you'll have no reason to be getting numbers off ladies(or gents asyour post implies )

Fanny Cradock

ohhhh, you poor thing *gives big hugs*

What’s the problem exactly? Some of your mates get jealous... so what? I apologise if I’m a little harsh and dismissive of your “problem”, but instead of wallowing in ridiculous (note the italics there) self pity why not try and be thankful for your good looks. Would being less attractive to others make you happier? If, as I suspect, the answer is no, then don’t complain.

LovelyHurling

Get hot friends. Seriously.
Nobody gets sick of being goodlooking. Its great, Yes its being inconvenient to you, but its better than being spotty, short and snorting when you laugh

snort.

re above post: give him a break. This can actually eb a genuine problem, and if you dont think so you dont have to reply.

Karoma

Have you considered destructive surgery?

Call Me Jimmy

MoreThanLooks wrote:

I am sick of being a really good looking guy.

While I understand sorta where yer comin from, feeling sorry for yer friends or whatever, you do NOT want to be ugly or even average. Like for you, just a walk to the shop is exciting cause ye might see a nice girl and know that she is checking ye out. That must be a rush no? I wouldn't imagine that it gets old anyway...

If your friends ever get annoyed again tell them that it is as much they're fault that they're not attractive as it is yours that you are attractive.

theAwakening

my heart f***ing BLEEDS for you child....

GrumPy

What would you rather be in all honesty, having to beat the women off you, or having to try pull women, like a normal, ugly bloke, and failing most of the time?


I'd rather beat them off me tbh

"Ladies, ladies, theres plenty of grump to go around"

Sony

Ha What a great problem !!

is that you colin(Farrell)??

Zascar

Definitely get more good looking freinds. I'm not a bad looking guy, but many of my mates are very very good looking, but no one is ever sh1tty to eachother cause we are all very good mates. They have women approach them a lot but they are never cocky about it or anything, sounds like you need to find better friendes.

How do you generally act with women? My guess is that because you are not trying and probably being a bit standoffish and perhaps a little rude or obnoxious occaisionally, many women are drawn to this (Good looking girls are sick of guys being nice to them, they like something different). Try being really really nice and/or generally uninteresting. I have a few mates who are very goodlooking but because they are so so nice, they do not have much luck with girls (I know that may sound riduculous to many people, but its true)

Don't hate yourself for having something that everyone else would love to have - that just makes people hate you more - as then its just wasted, and no one likes to see good looks/talent wasted. Learn to accept yourself for who you are. If you are as good a person on the inside as you look on the outside, then you'll have no problem. You know the way many very good looking girls are hated and get bitched about often? Generally the girls are not the nicest themselves. If a chick is really really nice, it doesn't matter how hot she is, people will still love her. See what I'm getting at? I get the impression people give you attention / like you because of your looks, and you are possibly wanting them to judge you more on personality. Be yourself, don't think about it and you'll be fine.

But tell us more about what type of person you are, how you act, and what type of people you hang out with. Do you hang out with an "it" crowd, or just ron of the mill crowd where you stand out the most, etc.

Fanny Cradock

LovelyHurling wrote:

re above post: give him a break. This can actually eb a genuine problem, and if you dont think so you dont have to reply.

He asked for advice, and I'm giving it. It's a public forum, and Fanny, from behind the comfort and safety of his computer, tells it like it is.

I stand by my post.

Anyway, I read the original post as relating to the OPs friend(s) having issues with his/their own inability to attract women. This isn't his (th OP's) fault. Just because the OP is attractive it doesn't mean that every other guy, friends included, will no longer stand a chance with the ladies. Unless he is attached at the hip to his mates, I can't see why they cant find a girl and start talking to her.

Wishing you were normal looking just so your mates can score more often is just foolish. This wish, however well intentioned, seems ever so slightly self absorbed to me. I don't mean that as an insult, btw.

As an example: if you were incredibly funny or had a magnatic personality - and because of this women came on to you all the time - would you then wish to be unfunny or have a "average" personality so as to not piss your friends off.

No, you wouldn't.

OP, it's your friends problem, not yours.

Zascar

Yeah I kinda hvae to agree with that too.

Perhaps make more of an ieffort to 'help' your mates score. Give them advice on talking to women, or use your talent to persuade a large group of girld to talk to your bunch of mates.

Oh, and, Get A Girlfriend! Problem Sorted.

secret_squirrel

MoreThanLooks wrote:

to not upstage my mate with my looks.

They should be grateful - they get the chance to score with the 'wingmen' of the people chatting you up.

eamoss

Karoma wrote:

Have you considered destructive surgery?

Brilliant

InFront

Most of us have things about our bodies that we would like to change, even for those who are very goodlooking. Anyway, I'd agree that its your mates' problem tbh, dont worry about it.

I wish I had your problem tbh:D

jrey1981

Have to agree with what Zascar said.

I have been a little standoffish when I have been out - not intentionally - and some people see this as a challenge. In my case, both guys - though I am not that way inclined - and girls have approached me when I wasnt really interested.

Others in the group I was with thought it unfair, the way this happened, and arrogant that I was choosy about the company I kept.

If people are shallow enough either to find it annoying that you get approached by girls, or, in the case of the girls approaching you, to prejudge you or build preconceptions about you from how you come across in a pub or club, then perhaps you should choose the company you keep more carefully.

[Jackass]

Get a girlfriend. Bring her out with you. Problem solved.

greenteaicedtea

How about wearing somethign that looks like a wedding ring, on your wedding ring finger?

I worked with a guy who had gay men always trying to pick him up, he wore a wedding ring to cut down on that sort of thing.

Hm, my dad doesn't wear a wedding ring, do men even wear them in Ireland?

Victor

greenteaicedtea wrote:

How about wearing somethign that looks like a wedding ring, on your wedding ring finger? I worked with a guy who had gay men always trying to pick him up, he wore a wedding ring to cut down on that sort of thing.

A (now married) friend used to do it and women were beating a path to him, as he was considered 'safe' / a challenge.

Hm, my dad doesn't wear a wedding ring, do men even wear them in Ireland?

For men, its a modern thing. "Back in the day" there was only the one ring.

greys

Get real, man!

There's nothing to feel guilty about. If you're good looking - enjoy it while it lasts! Your mates are simply being immature. Tell them that, and they might change. If they don't, find some grown-ups to be friends with!

I used to get this attitude all the time as well. Like it was my fault most girls wanted to talk to me and not to one of my mates!

Stop feeling sorry or guilty about your "problem".

LadyJ

Zascar wrote:

Oh, and, Get A Girlfriend! Problem Sorted.

Maybe he doesn't want one. And even if he had one it wouldn't matter!

I know when people chat me up in a club and I say I have a boyfriend,they'll still keep talking! Makes no difference.

Maybe your friends should stop complaining and realise that it's not your fault that they don't get women,it's their own.

I know if I was chatted up by someone that insecure,I'd be turned right off.

Toolbag

Get yourself some Sex Panther cologne from Anchorman - 60% of the time it works every time

daRobot

You're obviously not hanging around with people of the same looks level as yourself, and they're getting jealous of the attention you get.

Get some better looking friends and enjoy.

Dizzyblabla

or, get totally plastered on a night out, start leering at girls and act like a complete self obsessed twat. Have said not-so-good-looking friends come and save the girl, she'll be so thankful that she'll stay with them instead!

Black Swan

LovelyHurling wrote:

Get hot friends.

Good advice.

LundiMardi

i haven't read any of the replies... but the next time a hot girl hits on you, why don't you try and set up one of your mates with one of her mates, then if they score they'll love you forever... in your face.

booya

Zillah

I'm having trouble grasping how this could become bad enough to require a whole thread about it... Seriously... Anyway, theres nothing really to be done. Enjoy it and try your best to not rub it in when your mates are around.

Pics?

abetarrush

It could be worse, you could have no legs

amptypockets

im female and have the same problem.so much so i rarely go out cos my friends get so bitchy when we go out.
Pm me if you wanna talk more.;)

Victor

Get a room!

KTRIC

amptypockets wrote:

im female and have the same problem.so much so i rarely go out cos my friends get so bitchy when we go out.
Pm me if you wanna talk more.;)

I thought the OP was gay ??

shanethemofo

turn gay .. sorry couldnt resist

nuttz

this came to mind

metaoblivia

OP, like others have said it's your friend's problem, not yours. But you could make an effort to help them out. People do judge attractive people, especially when they act standoffish, so you have a little bit of my sympathy. But learn to accept it and move on. You'll face worse problems than your looks.