friends or more?

Ava

ok shorter version of original post:
basically friends with a guy, def interested in more. very hard to read him we get on great verging on a little flirty when we're out, altho he's generally a flirt anyway. hard to read him to know if he sees me as just a friend or more as he tends to blow hot and cold. was just wondering about any signs to look out for that might show whether a guy is interested in more than friends

LadyJ

Tbh,because none of us know the guy,it's hard to say what you should look out for. Everyone is different.

Why not just tell him you like him and see what he thinks of that?

Maybe he likes you,maybe he doesn't but that's the sure way to know. And if he doesn't then just laugh it off and brush it to one side. No point in feeling awkward about it.

I did that once with a friend and it turned out he felt the same way,which was great. But if he hadn't,it wouldn't have been the end of the world.

Just tell him and find out.

Ava

i get what you're saying lady j, i just don't know if i want to risk the friendship, if it turned out i was totally reading into something that wasnt there, i don't know if that light hearted banter and easy relationship would ever recover...then again it's driving me crazy not knowing.

ahh what to do?

LadyJ

Ava wrote:

i get what you're saying lady j, i just don't know if i want to risk the friendship, if it turned out i was totally reading into something that wasnt there, i don't know if that light hearted banter and easy relationship would ever recover...then again it's driving me crazy not knowing.

ahh what to do?

A strong friendship will surely "recover" from a minor thing like that.

After you tell him,you'll realise that it's not such a big deal to say that to someone.

If he has any sense,he won't let it wreck your friendship. Just tell him. It won't be the end of the world if he doesn't feel the same. Honestly.

projectmayhem

somewhere on these very forums i posted that a friend of mine (who's another friends gf) said that she "liked me, or more"...

since then i've kind of made quick jokes whenever she talks to me to get out of having a proper conversation, and generally ignored her very existence to avoid akwardness. i know your situation is different (no bf/gfs involved), but be careful how you word your interest in the guy...

WhiteWashMan

well, if you do nothing, nothing will happen...

Dermington

OP you cant go wrong with guys. Just go for it. If he says no its because he has a better looking woman or he is gay.

Black Swan

Approach him with humour. Play. We'll all still kids inside. You too already flirt. Toss something out in fun. See how he responds. If he picks up on it, he will play too. Playfullness can take you to the next stage.