How do you flirt?

cinnamon

Im not the greatest flirt in the world - in fact Im crap but when im around someone I fancy I act like a school girl. I get giggly and start twirling my hair (compltely unconsciously) - when i realise what Im doing I try to compose myself.
How do you flirt and also if you,re a guy would you find this behaviour attractive or irritating?

Faith

Giggling and playing with your hair is pretty normal flirting. As long as it's not over the top (like OCD over the top), then you're fine.

Other things to do including maintaining eye contact (but not staring), smiling a lot, touching the other person casually (like laying a hand on his/her arm or something) and unconsciously mirroring their movements.

But for all that, flirting isn't really something you can learn. You just have to go with it. Practise makes perfect, if you're unsure! Try it with people you don't fancy, to see what you feel comfortable doing. It'll never work if you come across as awkward and wooden.

cinnamon

Hi I think my post got taken up wrong - What i meant for it to say was How do you, yourself flirt. Like what do ppl do themselves, what is their personal flirting technique? I'm just curious - it's just interesting to see how different ppl act. I'm not looking for tips, just curious.

Fanny Cradock

humm... it's not a personal issue then.

you'll probably get more feedback in the AH section

Call Me Jimmy

drop trow ftw jah!

actually that's probably a bit too forward... smile?

Canis Lupus

Snap the girls bra, pull off her hair bobble. The usual stuff.

Dudess

OP, there is no specific way to flirt. I hate when people are given that message. Flirting can mean a lot of things. The cliche for girls is acting all giggly and being a tease which I personally think is an idiotic way for a female to behave. Just talk to the person, be friendly, have a bit of a laugh - there's no need to act in a particular way. Do what's natural to you!

Baggly

Kick to the shins. That way everyone knows where they stand.

Hail 2 Da Chimp

Show some cleavage....

But seriously the main ones i find work are girls maintaining eye contact and smiling, Also when they make an effort to casually touch me a lot.

Then i know it's on!

Baggly

Like donkey kong?

justhim

have to agree there is no "way to flirt"! to be honest from a male point of view unless your flirting with a sledge hammer most of the time it'll go way over our heads anyway. Talk to the guy, you'll find it works a hell of alot better (and quicker!)

Ruu_Old

I don't particularly mind a girl that flirts but don't drag it out and make it last forever.

AngryBadger

I'm generally pretty friendly in a group and I'll usually be all over the shop talking to as many people as possible, so if someone catches my interest it's fairly obvious. Once I get the mandatory few affectionate touches, little smiles, meting of the eyes and so forth I'll sidle on over and make her the subject of my (charming) attentions :cool:

Sangre

LOTP wrote:

Kick to the shins. That way everyone knows where they stand.

Hard to stand if you've just been kicked in the shins.

CaptainSmith

Ok, Quick Guide!

Nervous Flirting...
Flirting is very good, it is a skill, believe it or, your subconcious flirting (flicking your hair / hair related behavour, excluding eating it), is a very effective method of flirting as many guys find hair to be quiet important, meh, no need to over analyse. Alot of guys like giggling, just dont go too much over the top, and dont make man jokes, try not to laugh when you talk about serious things, if he says he's still recovering from a breakup- DONT LAUGH; I have heard of it happening to people, and its gaureenteed to kill a conversation.


General Movements...
If dancing, take the guys hands, from there everything else will flow naturally, try and keep an active eye on his face to insure you not about to embarrase yourself or him in any nasty nose to eye incidents. If at a bar, etc in the evening, hands on his knee is a clear sign, but only if you're comfortable. Staring is good, but if your going to stare, flick (dont curl) your hair every so often to show you aren't drooling over him, just interested in what he is saying.


Conversation...
Don't get into anything too technical, he should ask you something first (just a man's thing, sorry, dont mean that in any sexist way, guys just do it). Carry through the coversation just as if he was your friend (dont go into past relationships on first dates, the sympaty boat only works rarely, and not if you've carried out the approach (love getting flying phrases in there ). Just make friendly talk, try to hold back laughing, and again, not on anything serious, just bit your tongue and think of something sad but not too emotional, and offer sympaty is nessesary.

The Next Stage...
Really it's all natural from then in, keep eye contact and pleasant smiling is good...


Best Of Luck

Chucky the tree

Honestly Smith, that doesnt look desperate at all...

CaptainSmith

It works perfectly, trust me us guys up there know what we are doing... (crap, the wife might actually find this)...

Presuming you're not using sarcasim, if so, be my guest to supply a more fool proof, simpilar, intelligent approach, I'll see if my friends can use it...

Tar.Aldarion

Flirting is very hard for girls I imagine, most if not all will slip over a guys head completely. I and friends pretty much have to be told by a girl friend when a girl is flirting with us. Then again, I have heard a girl say 'I sat next to him, how the **** does he not know?' lord...work with me here...
It's not odd to come out of a night and somebody say, who was the girl that was all over you? or, the one that wouldn't take her eyes of you? and I reply with a 'hmm? what now?'

To answer you OP, I'm rather hopeless. All I do is go over and talk to ther girl when I build up courage (takes a while) and see what happens. Talk like you are friends, son't laugh at her etc. (:
If only girls were more forward in general.
One is really confusing me atm. I have no idea if she is flirting with me or?
I know very well that she likes me like that, but, still she acted so weird when I talked to her that...
Anyway, enough of tonight. /sleeps off drunkeness.

Black Swan

Check out how the top models walk the ramp. Do a few fashion shows and observe. Casual. A little move here, a little move there, but nothing too obvious like swishing your hips like some jersey cow. Eye contact is very important. Watch how they use their eyes. A hint of a smile (coy). Dress casual when around town, show a little leg if in a dress, but not too much. Being subtle can be more exciting to a man than being obvious when flirting. Summer heat is a great time to wear things shear, but for effect, not to show it all. Whispy, flowing, delicate. Most men's eyes are caught by your difference from them. As the French say, "Long live the difference!";)

Dudess

OP, don't bother with all those ridiculous "instructions"! Just be yourself! Relax and chat in a friendly manner. For one, it's far more intelligent than acting all ditzy. And you don't have to touch someone to show you're interested in them physically - as in, make a deliberate point of it. If it happens subconsciously, cool.

Linoge

Faith wrote:

Try it with people you don't fancy,

And apparently all men are bastards?!:eek:

You broke my heart in school!

Marksie

eye contact, be natural. smile, ask them about theselves. and be interested in what they say. hit em with a smile and look.

just be yourself and engage their interest
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GrumPy

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