really nice guy

LegacyUser

If a guy is really nice and friendly to everyone and is always smiling - how does he act around a girl he likes?

Nevyn

how are we to know ?
there is no list of how all guys act.
I you like him why don't you ask him out for coffee.

Ruu_Old

We would tell you if we were mind readers, OP. Go ahead and ask him out if you are interested, can't hurt. Best of luck.

The Bollox

misssy wrote:

If a guy is really nice and friendly to everyone and is always smiling - how does he act around a girl he likes?

well if he acts smiley around everyone, then he acts smiley around girls he likes

SoupyNorman

Test the water, say if ya'll are out in a pub or attending some social function concentrate on conversing with your gentlemen of intrest in a way that segregates you two from the rest of the group. If he is happy to sit there and neither of ye seem to run out of conversation AND there is lots of laughing and/or smiling then its a sure thing.

Good luck, hope you get some!

LegacyUser

I appreciate what everyone is trying to say. I just thought ppl might have experience with this kind of thing.

I'm pretty useless at deciphering whether someone is flirting for fun or for real. In fact I have mostly been wrong.

Marts wrote:

well if he acts smiley around everyone, then he acts smiley around girls he likes

How do i know if he is smiley around me he is just being friendly? I really dont want to ask him out - I just dnt have the courage. Besides I only met him this week (but knew him to see for ages) and he is such a lovely fella that I'm afraid he will be snapped up by some other girl

yes i appreciate what ppl are saying but i wouldnt have the nerve to ask him out. I knew him to see for ages and only met him this week (we work in the same place) and I think he's a really nice guy so im afraid he will get snapped up by another girl but I am old fashioned and believe the guy should do the asking

Marts wrote:

well if he acts smiley around everyone, then he acts smiley around girls he likes

Yes but if he is smilry around me how do i know he is just being nice or if he genuinely likes me? There must be something subtle that these kind of men do?

greenteaicedtea

How do i know if he is smiley around me he is just being friendly? I really dont want to ask him out - I just dnt have the courage. Besides I only met him this week (but knew him to see for ages) and he is such a lovely fella that I'm afraid he will be snapped up by some other girl

yes i appreciate what ppl are saying but i wouldnt have the nerve to ask him out. I knew him to see for ages and only met him this week (we work in the same place) and I think he's a really nice guy so im afraid he will get snapped up by another girl but I am old fashioned and believe the guy should do the asking

Nothing wrong with asking him out, I ask guys out. takes some courage, but what I do is spend a bit of time talking to them first, ie being friendly, get to the point where you can say "how was your day?" etc. You want to let it progress naturally where you just talk to him more, and work up to asking him out. That way, he can kind of see what you're working up to, and if he has a girlfriend he might casually mention it, before you do ask him out. But once I have gone out with him, I DO ask if he has a girlfriend, because they don't always volunteer that info.

Sometimes you just DON'T know if he's just that friendly with everyone, and you have to ask him out, to find out. Or you can just wait and see.

Yes but if he is smilry around me how do i know he is just being nice or if he genuinely likes me? There must be something subtle that these kind of men do?

If he is being actually flirty, ie joking, paying lots of attention to you, you could ask him straight out "...are you flirting with me?" not to make it sound like a bad thing but to just clarify, ie in the same tone of voice he's joking with you with. If he is flirting, and is just being an idiot, ie has no intention of asking you out, he might tone it down a bit. A guy who flirts with you but is not really interested, that's kind of a pain in the neck.

cooperguy

misssy wrote:

I am old fashioned and believe the guy should do the asking

Thats rubbish your not an old fashioned girl your just too scared. Do you think its any easier for a guy??? Just ask him or at least drop very large hints

Nehpets

If he encounters a female he is attracted to he will stand on one foot and hop around her whilst singing "Welcome to the Jungle" by Guns'n'Roses.

Jack B. Badd

Nehpets wrote:

If he encounters a female he is attracted to he will stand on one foot and hop around her whilst singing "Welcome to the Jungle" by Guns'n'Roses.

Ahhh...the well known mating dance of the "nice young man"

CaptainSmith

Hmm,
I have a tendency to get that a good bit, nah, we don't try to be confusing, if he is really outgoing, and you havent known him since you knee height, just ask, particularilly if he is a sort of guy that is open about his relations. Guys generally wont feel scared off or offended, and the best of us wont even tell our friends about it if it goes wrong (listens to hear other forum members kill me!).:rolleyes:

AngryBadger

misssy wrote:

but I am old fashioned and believe the guy should do the asking

Well then he'll be snapped up by someone else. Them's the breaks. But good luck with that.

Also, if you don't let him know you're interested why would he bother asking you out?

CaptainSmith

Very true, if he's outgoing; jump at him quitely, preferably get him to ask you out if you want, but suggest, in a sarcastic but clearly provacative way tat he should. For example, if he helps you to do sometin on your pc in work, say "i could do with having someone like you around more often" and keep on using such comments, etc, and if worst comes to worst after...

... Say, 5 days, or whatever you think, ask him if he wants to go out for a drink with you, if he says he's not too sure, say its with friends, when he arrives, you have already told your friends what you are doing, so they dont feel offended, you drift off. He he doesnt show, which since you are this mad into him, it sounds mad he wouldn't, you have your friends to fall back on...

I need to start a clinic, free of course...

Black Swan

misssy wrote:

yes i appreciate what ppl are saying but i wouldnt have the nerve to ask him out. I knew him to see for ages and only met him this week (we work in the same place) and I think he's a really nice guy so im afraid he will get snapped up by another girl but I am old fashioned and believe the guy should do the asking

You work at the same place? Is there something he does at work that might help you do your work? Ask for his help? Then thank him with a lunch?;)

Static M.e.

If a guy is really nice and friendly to everyone and is always smiling - how does he act around a girl he likes?

Try and see if he tries to spend more time with you then he nessarily would/should .. not hanging around so much but .. lingering maybe..

On the other side look at the cracking weather we have, ask him what he's doing for lunch does he want to get a coffee and sit in the sun for a while, all perfectly normal stuff so you dont have to be worried about it.

Do you have any sort of park near you where people go for lunch? if so thats a perfect place.

Or you could try and ask him where he goes for lunch, then say you've never been, whats it like etc then he might invite you along..

All in all though if he is a nice guy, you will be fine either way.

GL and let us know how things go

LegacyUser

He'll make eye contact while talking to ya!

Sleepy

misssy wrote:

I am old fashioned and believe the guy should do the asking

That's not old fashioned, just stupid tbh.

If you don't ask, you don't get missy. Simple as that.

projectmayhem

bravestarr082 wrote:

Test the water, say if ya'll are out in a pub or attending some social function concentrate on conversing with your gentlemen of intrest in a way that segregates you two from the rest of the group. If he is happy to sit there and neither of ye seem to run out of conversation AND there is lots of laughing and/or smiling then its a sure thing.

Good luck, hope you get some!

precisely.

i tend to be happy/smiley around everyone so the disparity between girls i take interest in and girls i'm friends with isn't that huge... so usually it takes the girl to make me notice her interest.

jdivision

misssy wrote:

I really dont want to ask him out - I just dnt have the courage. Besides I only met him this week (but knew him to see for ages) and he is such a lovely fella that I'm afraid he will be snapped up by some other girl

Do you and your mates go for drinks after work on a friday? When you see him again just mention that you're heading to wherever after work if he wants to drop in.

LegacyUser

hi, thanks to everyone for the advice. Today he sat beside me at break and at lunch and we have so much in common it's scary. So there was a lot of eye contact and smiling. But I'm going to take it at face value - there's usually a lot of smiling and animated conversation when people share interests that they're passionate about.
Anyway I don't know if he has a girlfriend, but I will try to let him know I'm interested.
Watch this space.......

Dathai

Im like that with someone at the moment, but, I barely see them, so, I try my best to be animated with them.Im incredibly shy though, so, its hard to do.
Its more than likely what he's like.Sure, when you're friendly with him I bet he's mad chatty? You just need to keep going with him.
I wish you the best

Húrin

misssy wrote:

but I am old fashioned and believe the guy should do the asking

Funny how often feminist, or otherwise normal girls turn old school when they're expected to fulfil one of the responsibilities than come with their hard-won rights.

Now, if you also believe that women shouldn't go to college and should stay in the kitchen, then disregard my comments. But if you don't you're a hypocrite.

OK now that's done with I'll try to help. You've only known him for a week, so give it a few more weeks. No need to rush.

greys

Hey there,

Actually, ALL people act differently when they're genuinely interested. What this means to you is that although the guy is being nice and smiley to everyone, he would do something extra on top of that talking to a person he really likes.

So if he's just nice and smiley to you - this probably means he doesn't treat you any different just yet. But this also means he's being careful, too - no need to open up your heart talking to every girl you meet, eh? So I guess whenever you do find the courage to let him know you're interested, he just might change his attitude accordingly. If he doesn't, this means he's not interested but still tries being nice.

Let us know how it went, and good luck!

pS: the key to making something happen is to make a decision to get it. Instead of guessing whether he likes you or whether he has a girlfriend, just go and ask - and you'll feel much better in any case, simply because you've had the courage to show your interest.

LegacyUser

greys wrote:

So I guess whenever you do find the courage to let him know you're interested, he just might change his attitude accordingly. If he doesn't, this means he's not interested but still tries being nice.

How do I show him I'm interested without saying it. We've been tlking a lot lately and even tho i'm so nervous around him and am finding it hard to maintain eye contact - actually when there is eye contact it feels like our eyes lock for a bit and I quickly look somewhere else cos I'm afraid I'll lose concentration and make a fool of myself! God I cant stop thinking about this fella.
Oh and someone mentioned Friday drinks - unfortunately we dont get paid til the end of August but I mite try to engineer something for this Friday (for a few ppl not just the two of us).
Also I know where he drinks but I'm not gonna just turn up at his pub at the w/e and chase after him - I dont do chasing anymore!

greys

Chasing is definitely out of question - he's not gonna get you so easily!

Eye contact is a wonderful way to show your interest. A great deal of human communication happens through eye contact anyway. What's the worst that can happen if you do look into his eyes for just a few seconds longer? If you get to chat frequently enough, you can slowly build a better rapport by looking into his eyes slightly longer every now and then (don't just stare at him EVERY TIME - this would not look very natural).

You say you've been talking alot recently, so why don't you ask some questions more or less directly?

There are plenty of ways to find out the information you need, and the easiest ones are:
- to pretend a vulnerable person in a real need of a good advice (ask him for his opinion on something personal enough to you)
- to make a compliment and disguise your question as part of it (like saying: sure such a guy has many friends. How does your girlfriend feel about it, is she jealous?)

Hope this helps. Enjoy your adventure!

Sangre

what_he_does wrote:

He'll make eye contact while talking to ya!

Eh..who doesn't make eye contact when talking to you?