trying to get pregnant

schnoodles

hi i'm just new to the boards. so please forgive mistakes.

i'm just wondering would anybody know the best time of the month to concieve a baby, we have just started trying.

greenteaicedtea

what you will probably want to do is get a basal temperature thermometer, it's capable of reading temperatures to 2 decimal places. The woman takes her temp orally early in the morning, and records the temps. You can chart it on a site like Fertilityfriend.com. What happens is before the woman ovulates, the temp is low, and just after ovulation, the temp will spike up (0.2 Celsius, not a big spike but it matters) and then it's higher until she gets her period again. So you want to try to concieve before that temp spike happens. You can't tell until after it happens, but if she charts her temperatures, you can have a pretty good guess at when it'll happen, provided her cycles are regular.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fertility_Awareness_Method

LegacyUser

Myself and my wife decided in April that we wanted to start trying for a baby,so we waited untill the last day of her cycle.And basically we had sex every night up to a day or so before she was due her next period....and guess what...no period...and that was 6 weeks ago.

We thought we were gonna spend months maybe years trying to get pregnant but it happened almost straight away.

So my ten cents worth is just dont try and get too complicated....try having lots of sex and let nature take its course.

Best of luck anyway.

kittenkiller

I've heard that it takes the average couple 9 months to get pregnant so be patient.

If you count the 1st day of your period as Day1 then you probably ovulate around Day14, so a few days before, after & during this time is the most likely time to conceive as far as I know.

Google for more info, I'm sure there's tonnes out there!
There're also kits you can get from chemists that indicate when the best time is.

Best of luck!

spurious

Depending on the length of your cycle, it's usually around day 14, counting the first day of your period as day 1. You can tell where you are in your cycle by measuring your temperature and by observing changes in your mucus.

Try for conception anything from 2 days before the expected date of ovulation to three days afterwards. Don't worry too much about it - worrying causes you stress and is not good for you.

If you are having trouble figuring out your ovulation date, there are ovulation strips you can buy over the internet that will help you pinpoint it. You can buy them here too, but they are much cheaper online.
Good luck.

embee

There are all sorts of ovulation prediction kits available in most chemists. Generally speaking, they're very accurate.

Your wife will ovulate 14 days before the start of her next period, so if she has a longer than average cycle (31 days for example), she will actually be ovulation at day 17 of her cycle. Its best to try for a baby 2 days either side of her ovulation day, for best results.

Best of luck!

schnoodles

thanks everyone,

have just done my first test and it came back negative, probably got a bit too excited the fist time i'm late. but will try ovulation strips from now on.

Nevyn

If you are trying to get with child then I would also suggest that you take folic acid if you are not already doing so and look at taking an all arround top up tonic like pregnacare.

Some times it is easier to do the little things that are with in your control now rather then 6 months down the line have a dr point out the obivious to you like
making an effort to eat healther for both parents to be.

http://www.babycenter.com/refcap/preconception/preconnutrition/4188.html

RandomOne

kaiser1 wrote:

Myself and my wife decided in April that we wanted to start trying for a baby,so we waited untill the last day of her cycle.And basically we had sex every night up to a day or so before she was due her next period....and guess what...no period...and that was 6 weeks ago.

You were very fortunate. Daily intercourse reduces the concentration of sperm released, therefore decreasing the chances of one making it all the way to fertilisation.

kaiser1 wrote:

So my ten cents worth is just dont try and get too complicated....try having lots of sex and let nature take its course.

With no criticism intended toward anyone's means of trying for a family, that's a little more in line with my thinking. I think it can become over scientific. It's a natural thing, so my advice to the OP would be to just carryon normal relations until it happens naturally. Trying too hard can actively prevent pregnancy.

amen

It's a natural thing, so my advice to the OP would be to just carryon normal relations until it happens naturally

normally true but if you have been trying for more than a year and nothing is happening then you should visit a doctor.

RandomOne

Good point, well made. Sorry.

Also not a bad idea to visit GP or practice nurse (if available) for advice on things like the Folic acid given above.

Ickle Magoo

I would second Random One....it is much more fun to have sex often & whenever you feel horny rather than only for procreation on a strict timetable, especially if neither of you have proven fertility issues....sperm can stay alive inside a woman's body for several days so it doesn't have to become an exact science & unless you take a yr or more to concieve (the average is 9months or so) then I wouldn't consider any other methods necessary....most women ovulate around the middle of their cycle, so just have fun! Oh, and take your folic acid, vit B complex, etc....:)

LegacyUser

Hey there,

Best of luck and have fun ttc....

Great website,

http://www.rollercoaster.ie

Hope this helps!!!

LegacyUser

KittenKiller is correct. It depends on your 'cycle'. Sometimes it can
be hard to figure this out - especially, if there is no pattern to your
cycle.

Are regular 28 day ?
Then around the 14th day, U gotta do plenty of roidin !
Good luck !

Talliesin

If you've been using hormonal contraception (like the pill or hormone implants) then it may take a while before you become fertile again.

Stress can be damaging to both fertility and sexual potence, so try not to get too hung up about it, as it may make things worse.

There is some evidence that female orgasms increase the chances of conception - so make it good sex. Besides, it would be good if the act of love-making that brings a new baby into your life was a good one, rather than "I know your tired honey, but its 14 days into my/your cycle, we'd better give a go".

You'd have a better chance with blissful sex on your 13th or 15th day than hurried tired sex while you're fretting over the proposal that has to be started on first thing tomorrow morning or your boss is going to be pissed off as hell on your 14th.

That said, basal temperature readings do indeed give you more accuracy in determining when you are on your cycle (though some women report a very strong sense of when they are ovulating anyway). And if you can keep the mindstate one of "whooppee - now we'll have lots of great sex and have a baby" rather than one of punching a time clock then the more help you have the better.

If you don't conceive after more than a year of actively trying talk to your GP.

rollercoaster.ie sucks hard, unless it's changed a hell of a lot of late.

daisychain

We're trying unsuccessfully since August 05 so nearly a year now. Not everyone ovulates on day 14, I'd say hardly anyone does as "normal" cycles are 21-40 days. It was in the junior cert science when I was in school that women ovulate on day 14, and they wondered why the school had such a high teen pregnancy rate Incidentally, I still believed this when I was in college but gave it a week of a "margin of safety" and still got pregnant on day 23.

My advice would be to carry on normal relations and track temperatures. At least if you temp you know when ovulation happens (give or take a day or 2) so expect a period roughly 14 days later, if it doesn't come, great! And stress is very bad for ttc, so try to avoid it!

greenteaicedtea

Everyone's cycle is a bit different, so it's still a good idea to track temperatures, don't just assume it's Day 14 for everyone.

Might be TMI for some, but another thing that might give you an indication of when ovulation is happening is that your cervical mucus is more like egg-white, stringy consistency, whereas at other points in the cycle, it's more creamy, and other times, it's nonexistent.

It's truly amazing what indicators our bodies give us, as to what's going on, that is, now that I understand them a bit better. I discovered that I can predict the first day of my period, as a nice by-product of tracking temperatures - the temperature does a nice big drop the day before my period comes. :rolleyes:

Kashkai

Everyone's different. It took us nine months to conceive our first child and then 5 years to conceive again but it was twins that time around so that made up for the long wait!!!!

I believe that today's hectic and stressful lifestyles affect a woman's fertility because when my wife gave up the daily commute into Dublin and the rush home to collect our daughter from creche, she conceived almost immediately, after 5 years of trying.

Try to relax about it and it will happen in time. Sex is fun so don't end up treating it as a chore.