Blown off on the first date-keep them or dump them?

bigpinkelephant · 15-07-2006 7:35am #1

"Something came up" apparently.

KTRIC · 15-07-2006 8:15am

not a good start, dump them

Day-wanna-wonga · 15-07-2006 8:24am

If she blew you on a first date, surely that's good, no?

Plug · 15-07-2006 9:19am

If she's a bitchy one dump her.

Caryatnid · 15-07-2006 9:25am

Can you keep or dump someone if you haven't even made it to the first date?

Pigman II · 15-07-2006 9:42am

Caryatnid wrote:

Can you keep or dump someone if you haven't even made it to the first date?

Eggsacklee.

Just close the book on it now.

Sparky · 15-07-2006 10:36am

Day-wanna-wonga wrote:

If she blew you on a first date, surely that's good, no?

That's what I was thinking. I wouldn't mind that.

bigpinkelephant wrote:

"Something came up" apparently.

Oh yeah? I bet it did, after she blew you.

county · 15-07-2006 10:45am

Sparky-s wrote:

That's what I was thinking. I wouldn't mind that.

Oh yeah? I bet it did, after she blew you.

your minds always in the gutter sparky:)

bigpinkelephant · 15-07-2006 10:56am

And the person in question wants to meet up tomorrow night instead, apparently. Could I really be bothered being messed around by a stranger, I don't think so. I told them I'm busy.
Oh yeah, he's a guy.

the Shades · 15-07-2006 11:28am

A guy? Definitely dump him. If he was interested he'd have made more of an effort.

Silverfish · 15-07-2006 11:29am

I dunno, sometimes things do come up.

I say give them a second chance!!

Franky Boy · 15-07-2006 11:34am

give her a chnace I say!

misterq · 15-07-2006 11:36am

His mother could have fallen down the stairs and squashed his favourite dog.

Everyone deserves a second chance, just have the red card ready if you smell something fishy again.

Well that would be my policy, but if you weren't prepared to give him one, then it probably wouldn't have been worth the effort anyway.

Dave! · 15-07-2006 11:57am

*based entirely on the title, having not read the thread*

KEEP HER!!!!!! :eek:

antSionnach · 15-07-2006 12:19pm

if she blew you off, hasnt she sort of already dumped you? You cant exactly dump someone who isnt interested.
Well you can, but youre just being in agreement with them.

If this was recent, and she seems interested, she probably didnt blow you off at all*

*It may have been a wet dream

Mola.mola · 15-07-2006 12:27pm

hehe, you may as well give him a second chance you probably have nothing better to do. or perhaps you could initiate your own relationship psycological warfare and stand him up tomorrow and actually meet him on sunday so it's 1-1. you've nothing to lose tbh.

seamus · 15-07-2006 5:40pm

Always give them a second chance on a first date.

"Something came up" is a valid reason when you don't know someone well. He could have had last minute nerves and bailed on himself. One of his mates may have broken up with his girlfriend and needed a night on the beer. You never know.

Ruu_Old · 15-07-2006 5:44pm

Second chance ftw but be careful after that one.

the Shades · 15-07-2006 6:18pm

"something came up" is never a valid excuse. If he truly wants you to be understanding he should tell you what the something was. For all you know it could be his ex.

Scraggs · 15-07-2006 6:29pm

Misleading title:D

G'wan give him a second chance..

Rhyme · 15-07-2006 6:38pm

Give second chance... you might want to ask them what 'came up'?

GrumPy · 15-07-2006 6:40pm

What a ridiculous thread title :rolleyes:

fuzzywiggle · 15-07-2006 7:50pm

Dump dump dump!

Caryatnid · 15-07-2006 7:56pm

Irish GrumPy wrote:

What a ridiculous thread title :rolleyes:

Hear hear.
Sparky-s: that's just what I thought. Surely bigpinkelephant can't be seriously expecting advice on this. It has to be someone taking the piss. Maybe the elephant is having a laugh at itself over its doublespeak. I mean, are there really such things as big pink elephants? I think not.

bigpinkelephant · 17-07-2006 8:02am

I think I meant to say "Blown out" instead of "blown off". It won't let me edit the title...

Yeah I am being serious in this thread.

bigpinkelephant · 04-08-2006 9:24pm

Well after several more texts from him, none of which were to ask me out, I told him this was pointless, never heard from him again and have blanked him since. Guess my suspicions were right, he was only messing me around.

Caryatnid · 04-08-2006 9:42pm

bigpinkelephant wrote:

Guess my suspicions were right, he was only messing me around.

Or he just wasn't interested in you - surely it's ok for someone not to want to date someone after the first date?

However it is nice to see that now it is the unanimous feeling that this was indeed a pointless thread.

Sleepy · 04-08-2006 10:19pm

Give him a second chance... Things can go wrong for us all!

AngryBadger · 05-08-2006 12:14am

bigpinkelephant wrote:

Well after several more texts from him, none of which were to ask me out, I told him this was pointless, never heard from him again and have blanked him since. Guess my suspicions were right, he was only messing me around.

Clearly a douche, people can have a legimate reason for cancelling, but you have to have the cájones to ask someone for a second date if you cancel on them, and he doesn't seem to.

Time Magazine · 05-08-2006 12:32am

Give me another chance, baby.

Lust4Life · 05-08-2006 12:43am

Ah, the perrils of posing such a question in AH instead of the Personals Forum.

Op, sorry it worked out the way it did. It happens some times.
Call up your girlfriends and go out and forget about this loser. He obviously knew he couldn't meet your expectations!:p

L4L

Ruu_Old · 05-08-2006 12:49am

Angry Banana wrote:

Give me another chance, baby.

Thats it, have your flowers back!

scojones · 05-08-2006 1:24am

As was already stated, things do come up. Why listen to a bunch of people on the internets who do not know the story? Infact, you don't know the story either.

Why would you not believe them? If you were a bit more specific we could probably help you alot better.

Personally, I'd give them a second chance in the event that they were telling the truth. If it happend again then you know what to do.*

cut them!

Collie D · 05-08-2006 9:41am

I'd give him a second chance but don't go looking for the date, make him do all the work

bigpinkelephant · 05-08-2006 11:52am

Nah, it's a bit late now. I was never going to ask him out, I figured if he let me down then he could ask me out again. He did mention meeting up another time when he let me down but said no more about it after that night.

To hell with him

Blisterman · 05-08-2006 12:58pm

It depends on how apolagetic they were.
If they acted nonchalant about it, I'd dump them.

LundiMardi · 05-08-2006 1:12pm

depends, who asked who out? Guys generally don't stand up girls if they askem em out in the first place. And the face he wants to meet up tomorrow instead has to say something!! Also, what kind of notice did he give you first time around?

OP - Chill out, sometimes things happen, who knows, maybe he superglued his hand to his c0ck. Give him another chance.

edit: Note to self, read all replies before posting.

Pighead · 05-08-2006 1:17pm

Depends how ugly/beautiful you are babes. If you're a looker and have no problem enticing men then dump the cnut, if you're a howler give him as many chances as he asks for. This could be your only shot at happiness. Have a look in the mirror and all your questions shall be answered.