guys and drink

LegacyUser

when you're out with a guy who is a friend but not really a close one, is the fact that he encourages you to drink more (although you refuse as you know yourself when to stop) something to be uneasy about? granted i didnt really take any notice of this myself but a close friend did and pointed it out what this guy does, and its just got me thinking now.

Crea

If you feel uneasy then go with your gut.
Anyone who pushes drink on another person has to be treated with suspicion.
Now that you're aware of it you know what to look out for in the future.

Tak3n

maybe he just wants to laugh at you when you'r absolutly pi**ed. Maybe take a few pictures and embarrass you at a later stage.
He may not be after what you'r thinking about

Ruu_Old

I would treat it with caution, dont let anyone push anything on you especially drink. Go with what you think is right and be careful.:)

theTinker

not just drink, never go against ur gut. i listen to it like a god. i figure millions of years of evolution gave me it, must be useful

in ur place, sum1 forcing u to drink sumthing that makes u lose control when u told them u are at ur threshold is very sketchy! though try think if he is just being nice and offering u drink.

Oriel

He might just be being polite and offering to buy you drinks. Equally, he might not.

abetarrush

The more drunk you are, the better he looks


i suggest u mace him


A taser will also do fine

TheVan

Well the guy could just want to have a drinking buddy

Then again if he's been acting sleazy then he may be up to something. If he does try anything just tell him to get lost....he'll probably get embarassed and feck off

LadyJ

It's a tough call OP.

On one hand you could be right to be worried.

On the other hand,maybe he wants to keep drinking but needs to justify it by having someone else drink with him.

I have a friend who is well on his way to becoming an alcoholic. He lashes pints into him and won't buy another one without buying you one too.

He won't take no for an answer and,because I take my time with drink,by the end of the night I have at least three pints left over.

Nothing can really be done. Just drink at your own pace and let him buy whatever he likes for you.

You don't have to drink it.

Black Swan

When he tries to get you to drink more, is he also drinking more? Maybe he wants a drinking buddy? Then again, if you do not want more, don't. Sounds like you need to chat with him about this?

Crucifix

Don't leap to conclusions and condemn him, but do be cautious. He may just enjoy a more drunken night and thus is pushing for other people to get as drunk as he is/wants to be.

Dragan

uneasy18 wrote:

when you're out with a guy who is a friend but not really a close one, is the fact that he encourages you to drink more (although you refuse as you know yourself when to stop) something to be uneasy about?

A lot of guys, and girls, feel the need to have everyone around them drinking as much as possible so that "we all have a good time." It's basically a sad state of affairs.

If you don't want a drink then don't drink it, anyone who has an issue with that is a prick and should be told so.:D

TerrorFirmer

Tak3n wrote:

maybe he just wants to laugh at you when you'r absolutly pi**ed. Maybe take a few pictures and embarrass you at a later stage.
He may not be after what you'r thinking about

Agreed. Not saying that thats definately the case either, but I know in the past I've been guilty of actively encouraging more drink on those who really didn't need any more, both male and female, but its all been in the spirit of fun! Of course on the other hand, this guy might be purposely trying to get you drunk for other reasons, but to be honest, it sounds more to me like someone who feels uncomfortable drinking on their own, I know that sounds pretty much like me in any case.

Simple solution: Ask someone else he drinks with regularly to see of his usual drinking habits? Does he usually behave in this manner, regardless of who it is? That way you'll know his motives.

layke

My missus hates getting drunk, and more so when I come in drunk.

Her culture dictates, drink but don't get drunk. Mine dictates, drink and do get drunk.
I still push drinks at her now because I simply want her to be on the same buzz as I am.

Nothing more, however I know some blokes see this as making it easier to get with a girl. Not always for sex or anything like that, but kissing the girl you secretly fancy with no hesitation between the two of you.

Problem is Alco makes you emotional also.

Static M.e.

Im with Pete above.

He could be just looking for a drinking buddy, its no big deal. I suppose it all depends on how he is pushing this drink on you..

I tell the girls I go drinking with to drink up all the time, get it in you etc.. slow ass drinkers the lot of them some people need encouragement to drink and have a good time, to cut loose and relax but I dont mean it in any sort of sleazy bad way.

Most of the time people just want the people around them to be having just as much fun as they are and if they think you arent having fun the solution is of course to get you to drink more.

Its really societys fault, we should all be communists and share the fun equally, dont you think so? Comrade

Vegeta

yeah everyone has said it already.

I don't drink at all so you can imagine the looks a 23 year old male non drinker gets when i am out.

If i'm out and someone offers me a drink i always say "No I'm fine, but thanks for the offer" which gets a "sher go on" and I have to say "No i don't drink, i'm grand". I usually go all red as if I have something to be ashamed of.

Irish society is very pro drink

milod

I can see the headline now...

Irish Man employs Alcohol instead of Personality to Woo Woman

Marksie

LadyJ wrote:

He won't take no for an answer and,because I take my time with drink,by the end of the night I have at least three pints left over.

Yes i am from england and have found that the capacity for drink is astonishing and worrying too.

That aside, a friend told me that the way to do it is to not drink the pints or whatever. In that way, when you have reached or are close to your personla limit you can point and say no i have these already. You are not refusing and he can obviously see that you jhave drinks left over.

Ultimately you can always say, i wont drink this, will you help me

Zombrex

uneasy18 wrote:

when you're out with a guy who is a friend but not really a close one, is the fact that he encourages you to drink more (although you refuse as you know yourself when to stop) something to be uneasy about? granted i didnt really take any notice of this myself but a close friend did and pointed it out what this guy does, and its just got me thinking now.

Are you a girl? He could be trying to get you drunk so he can get a snog.

It does seem to be a bit of a weird Irish thing where we get uncomfortable drinking when others refuse too. The amount of times I've said "Just a coke" to the next round and had a pint or a vodak and coke come back to me. It is bizzare (I'm a bloke btw). I think people get guilty about how much they drink and prefer if everyone else is getting as drunk as them.

Static M.e.

Irish Man employs Alcohol instead of Personality to Woo Woman

Thats standard practice

milod

Static M.e. wrote:

Thats standard practice

a bit risky though isn't it?! there's a narrow window of opportunity between "I'm h0rny" and "I feel sick..."

AngryBadger

OP is to vague for any constructive feedback. Remeber how massive the drink culture is in ireland, this guy could simply be used to a beer before breakfast. He might jsut be ill at ease when everyone is sober. The fact that he's encouraging you to drink doesn't necessarily make him a deviant sexual predator, 9which is really the only way i cans ee this thread going ....)

leeroybrown

Like quite a few other people I 'd be 95% sure that it's just part of the 'you have to drink' culture. If he was trying something on you'd notice the advances when he gets drunk.

I've been out for a night with a car and had to tell friends that I'd spill the pint down the sink if they buy it. I've once turned up to collect my father from a wedding reception and ended up being called 'a dry p***k' and 'a boring c**t' by supposedly responsible adults that I've never met before because I wouldn't take a pint. It's an unfortunate aspect of our culture.

jonny68

Vegeta wrote:

yeah everyone has said it already.

I don't drink at all so you can imagine the looks a 23 year old male non drinker gets when i am out.

If i'm out and someone offers me a drink i always say "No I'm fine, but thanks for the offer" which gets a "sher go on" and I have to say "No i don't drink, i'm grand". I usually go all red as if I have something to be ashamed of.

Irish society is very pro drink

and long may it continue some of the greatest ever Irishmen liked a good drink :cool:

super_furry

Maybe he was hoping you'd be more interesting if you were drunk? I wouldn't read anything sinister into it unless he was acting really creepy - leering over you etc.

KamiKazi

well ive had the pleasure of going to college in carlow so having drinked pushed on me is nothing out of the ordinary