Both 18 and in love...could it last?

LegacyUser

Do you think this kind of stuff happens? This isn't a 'I love my gf do you think we'll get married' post, it's more to see if you think its possible. I've been going out with my gf for a few months...already it's gotten quite serious and we're pretty much madly in love.

Now I know, I know we're both young so such a statement can only be taken so strongly (although it doesnt feel like that), but do you think a relationship could last through college, travelling and all that and last? Well, I know it's possible, but do you think it's probable?

Nalz

who can tell, all ya need to know is that dont go too deep to early. dont forget your mates, dont give up sport/passtimes, dont stop goin out cas ya wanna watch a dvd with the missus every second night. Enjoy bein in love, but dont pack 60 into 60 weeks or it will end in tears. Enjoy the rest of life as well and stuff....yeah and stuff, because there is more stuff in life than the love stuff, and stuff.

so stay doin stuff and enjoy the love stuff. have a good balance in life, and dont eat too much take aways...

Nightwish

I was like that at 15, and we were totally in love. It lasted through, school, college (in different countries) and working (in different parts of the country). We were engaged at 17, but the long distance nature of the relationship put a strain on things and we split after almost 7 years together.
Nevermind what begrudgers tell you. If you want it to work it will, but its hard work, especially if you go to different parts of the country to go to college. It is possible to meet your future wife very young. Some of my schoolmates are now married to the guys they were with when they were 15/16.

simu

Who knows what will happen? I wouldn't waste time worrying about the future so much tbh.

Ruu_Old

I reckon its possible but things could change when going through college and so on. Don't tie yourself down just yet and as posted, travel together, enjoy being in love and take life one step at a time. Don't try to make things happen.

LegacyUser

I was with my ex for four years between 16 and 20. And I much as I don't regreat the time I spent with her, I regret the fact it was for so long, at the age we were at. I would have loved nothing more to be out playing the field at 18 (only two years ago, you'd swear I was aul fella) but as Trilla said I stopped in watching a DVD with the GF more then going out and since I've broken up with her I have an awesome social life, which I never had before.

Saying that, now I have serious confidence Issues talking to girls on a night out or even just girls in general who I don't know that well. The last time I was single you sent your mate up to tell the wan that you liked her, you do that now and girls take out a restraining order!

But if ye can make it work fair play, its not really up to a bunch of folks on an internet forum to tell you if it works or not, you just have to go with it and see what happens.

Black Swan

Unq36 wrote:

Well, I know it's possible, but do you think it's probable?

Yes.

Next question?:D

Crucifix

I'd say it's possible but not probable. But I wouldn't worry about that stuff, just enjoy it now.

Beruthiel

Trilla wrote:

all ya need to know is that dont go too deep to early. dont forget your mates, dont give up sport/passtimes, dont stop goin out cas ya wanna watch a dvd with the missus every second night. Enjoy bein in love, but dont pack 60 into 60 weeks or it will end in tears.

Quoted for truth.

Unq36
I was with my ex from 16 to 28, so it lasted a long time. But nobody can tell you whither it will or not.
As Trilla said above, never loose sight of the rest of your life over this, keep the balance of friends and hobbies. If you make the mistake of letting them slide and you should break up then it will be lot tougher on you not to have them to fall back on.

Love one another, but make not a bond of love;
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other's cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf.
Sing and dance together and be joyous but let each one of you be alone,
Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.
Give your hearts but not into each other's keeping.
For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.
And stand together yet not too near together:
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow.

wise words from Kahal Gibran - The Prophet

(am feeling very poetic today)

kizzyr

My boyfriends parents started going out when they were both 15, got married when they were 18, had their first child when they were 20 and last August celebrated their 30th wedding anniversary so it can happen.

LegacyUser

Relax,enjoy it and be happy:)

your young ,there will me many mountains to climb and oceans to cross attempt it all together and if your not still together in the future at least you enjoyed your time together.

I think it can work and would be wonderfuil if it did but if not at least you have had the experience.

Nalz

kizzyr wrote:

My boyfriends parents started going out when they were both 15, got married when they were 18, had their first child when they were 20 and last August celebrated their 30th wedding anniversary so it can happen.

yeah it can happen, but even then it was easier to happen. The key is not to think about it too much. just live life. I had loads of friends, sports (wasnt great but I was fit and I enjoyed them) and passtimes (bit of a gambler!) but soon as so called "missus right" came around i dropped more than half my mates, stopped playin soccer and gaa, no more horses or playin music....all went out the window for her. this was all unintentually. Everythin was perfect for near 4 years, but its over a year now and it was a rotten breakup.

bla bla bla i cud go on but moral of story is dont forget to be yourself because it is you she's goin out with... the honeymoon wont last forever, so remember to come home now and again.

right thats me finished, my head hurts writin this stuff. Its all true though.

oulu

Chances you guys marry have kids would be about 5% tops

Unq36 wrote:

Do you think this kind of stuff happens? This isn't a 'I love my gf do you think we'll get married' post, it's more to see if you think its possible. I've been going out with my gf for a few months...already it's gotten quite serious and we're pretty much madly in love.

Now I know, I know we're both young so such a statement can only be taken so strongly (although it doesnt feel like that), but do you think a relationship could last through college, travelling and all that and last? Well, I know it's possible, but do you think it's probable?

Nalz

oulu wrote:

... about 5% tops

maths, i hate maths. was never good at it.

Nevyn

50 years ago it would not be unusual for two 18 year olds to get married and settle down and eventually start a family.
You are both adults and have decided what you want out of life, it is possible that you will grow and encourage and support each other for the rest of your lives.

blorg

Yes, it could definately last, and no, it's not something you need to worry about right now.

seamus

Every relationship is different.
Myself and my other half met at 17 (well, I was 17). We did our leaving, did four years of college, and for the last two years she's lived in London (coming home in two weeks \o/).
We're strong as ever. But there were plenty of places where it could all have ended.

Circumstance is what makes the decisions, not fate.

TheVan

I know of at least one instance where it was real and is still going strong 12 years later.

However I was in a similar situation and it didn't last.

I guess, just enjoy it and don't worry about the future too much, you're young...just be careful.

Ag marbh

People that say don't waste your youth with someone took the wrong choices before. A healthy relationship should allow you to do anything that you should want to do while single other than being with someone else, but why would you want someone else if you're in love?

I'm with my girlfriend for three years and have an amazing social life. We don't nag at each other to sit in and watch dvds at the weekend. She just finished up college and is away in Thailand for 7 weeks with college mates. We're both going to have a great youth to look back on and the same stories the single person will be boasting about.

I do understant your concern though but do as you feel and try not to see time apart as the end of the world when in reality it makes the relationship stronger.

Kuz_3040

Dude at the age of 18 ur too young to be thinking about love and anyone else you gotta look out for number 1 at that age which i know sounds selfish but at the end of the if you cant look after number 1 ur never gna be handle number 2 n 3. At 18 its rarely love more likely infatuation so much so that ur fooling yourself to think ur in love

metrovelvet

OP

This is the million dollar question at any age. The only chance you have is to believe it will. Just be good to each other.

To love is to commit without guarantee. [Erik Fromm]

And be careful not to mistake passion for love, that definitely fades.