Wedding Gift

mel123

What an accpetable amount to give as a wedding gift (cash)? The groom is a good friend of mr mel123, they work together and socialise at work events. Ive met both the bride and groom a couple of times but thats about it. We are invited to the whole wedding? Whats the norm to give??

Shabadu

According to my Mother-in-Law to be, €250 is the general rule. I'm sure if you can't afford it you're certainly not expected to give that much though. I doubt any of my or my feller's friends will be giving us that much, but rather the Aunts & Uncles probably would. How about getting them vouchers for a massage at a spa or something? It's generally ~€50 for a half hour massage.

Ruu_Old

The spa thing is a good idea. Do the couple have any sort of wedding registry?

mel123

NO they havnt done out a wedding list or anything like that. The spa idea is a lovely idea, but i would just prefer to give cash, i think it might be a bit more appreciated!!! €250, holy sh*t, i cant believe that...WOW.

quazzy

50 -> 100 per couple so 200 -> 250 sounds right to me.

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But just wondering but how much would you give if you're only going to the afters of a wedding????

It's a first for me as I always went to the whole shin-dig.

Regards

Q

smashey

Shabadu wrote:

According to my Mother-in-Law to be, €250 is the general rule. I'm sure if you can't afford it you're certainly not expected to give that much though. I doubt any of my or my feller's friends will be giving us that much, but rather the Aunts & Uncles probably would. How about getting them vouchers for a massage at a spa or something? It's generally ~€50 for a half hour massage.

I sure hope so.:D I have almost 200 people going to mine.

Figment

It depends on the friend. Are they a "It's the thought" type of person?
For mine i was happy with what ever someone could manage. I didnt realise there was a set price for a gift!

nesf

200-250 sounds about right if your partner's a good friend of the groom. That said, it's completely dependant on where you are in life really and the attitudes of the couple in question.

Maybe see if his other workmates (+partners) are willing to band together and you all could split the cost of a big present for them or something similar.

nesf

Shabadu wrote:

According to my Mother-in-Law to be, €250 is the general rule. I'm sure if you can't afford it you're certainly not expected to give that much though. I doubt any of my or my feller's friends will be giving us that much, but rather the Aunts & Uncles probably would.

Direct family is different. They are expected to be generous (ie not necessarily by you but by the rest of the family). In my family it used be a gift from a household though rather than individual members if that makes sense.

iguana

When one of my aunts got married she had to ask for cash as she was living in Denmark and the cost of bringing presents back on the plane would have been ridiculous. All our immediate family put money in a envelope and gave it to her.

That way everyone could put in what they could afford, but nobody had to be embarrassed because they could afford less. And my aunt got a big lump sum. I think that worked well and could be an idea to suggest amoung a group of friends.

babaduck

At our wedding, we got between €100 - €150 per couple with some very kind people giving us €200... and we certainly didn't expect any more (and got much less from my siblings :rolleyes: )

€150 is plenty - you've enough expense between hen/stag/drinks/accom/new outfit etc do don't feel one bit bad.

Alternatively, if you don't like the idea of handing over hard cash, a Gift Voucher Shop One 4 All voucher is great (we had these on our gift list)

daveg

I'd agree €150 per couple was adverage at our wedding. You'll be amazed by the sheer generosity of some people and the stingyness of others. A few couples did not give us anything at our wedding. I think this is really bad form. Remember the bride and groom are paying for the meal, drink, entertainment. €150 just about covers it tbh.

As I mentioned some people will amaze you with their generosity though.