schoolfriends

LegacyUser

do u ever feel that your friends arnt really your friends?!
not that they did anything to me personally but well i suppose its because i just finished secondary school and the people i thought were my friends actually arnt really..well not people i would hang around with in the real world if that makes any sense??
just they're people i know? wouldnt call them my best friends i suppose your friends change and when i go to college ill make new ones.
but what im really afraid of is not having anyone when i come home from college like nights out!
im a very sociable person who loves meeting new people..
just wondering do many of you still keep in contact with your school friends?!?
your two cents??

Nevyn

No, not one of them thankfully.

dudara

I have no friends left from either national or secondary school. Most are from college and a few from work.

My theory is that you're still growing and developing whilst in school, and that the friends you make there won't necessarily be your friends for life. The most important thing to remember is to be open to the possibility of making friends wherever you go.

Bluetonic

Thaedydal wrote:

No, not one of them thankfully.

Ditto.

Goodshape

confuzzd wrote:

do u ever feel that your friends arnt really your friends?!

Absolutely. I'm still friends with a couple of people from my secondary school days -- but that's literally just a couple out of 20+ 'mates'.

There's a big world out there.. plenty more interesting people to meet.

Huggles

Goodshape wrote:

Absolutely. I'm still friends with a couple of people from my secondary school days -- but that's literally just a couple out of 20+ 'mates'.

There's a big world out there.. plenty more interesting people to meet.

Yeah I'm the same, very close to 3 out of 15 that where in the gang. Don't know what the other 12 are doing now.

Aard

Lost contact with Primary School friends. I really hope to keep in touch with the friends I have in school now; teenage years are a big thing, and they're the ones who know me best.

petes

Don't really keep in contact with friends from secondary school. We all went our separate ways after it i.e. different colleges etc. If I meet them I will talk to them but I rarely do as I don't live at home. Don't really keep in contact with people from college either bar one or two. Met most of my friends when I moved. All sound.

Goodshape

Actually, even during my school years I didn't spend too much time with my schoolmates than was neccessary (ie. while in school). Always had my own friends and I've kept in contact with plenty of them.

Heyes

the people i keep in touch with from school are my best friends, would trust them with anything, count myself lucky tbh.

Sad Professor

nobody from my primary school was really worth staying friends with. but i still see loads of people from secondary school.

as for people being your real friends? they way i see it - you have your "mates", who are just people you hang aroung with, do stuff with and who'd probably screw you over in a second. and then you have your real friends - who are there when you need them.

real friends are rare though.

Sarky

I have no contact whatsoever with school friends. Looking back, it's no great loss. Interestingly though, one person I considered an enemy, or at least someone I wouldn't associate myself with at all, has since turned out to be a very nice person indeed and I occasionally meet up with him for a drink and chat.

Apart from that, all the people I consider friends I met after school, whether it was in college or some hobby or pastime outside it, or indeed the internet. I suspect most friendships in school are originally a result of wanting to be seen to fit in. Being able to choose your friends is much more rewarding.

marissa

true true..good friends are hard to find..but hold on to them when u find them.
"people pass in and out of this life but good friends last forever"
rest are merley accquaintances..

projectmayhem

i have loads of good friends from secondary school, and one or two from primary school even. but in college, i really don't feel like i'd ever be friends with those guys. not sure why though... oh well

Ruu_Old

I had a lot of good friends in primary school but we all drifted apart coming to the end of secondary school. There are one or two people who I keep in contact with. I found a lot of them, forgive me for saying this..bebo, but I got sick of that and closed my account a few weeks ago.

Endurance Man

Iv still got good mates from the age of 6, i dont plan on loosing contact even if they are half way across the world, i see them every year and one day will return to that area, and i doubt they're going anywhere .

jinxycat

i've 2 really good friends i keep in contact with from school, none from college and i've one friend i've been really close with since i was 3. other than than they're just people i'd say hello to when i meet them on the street that i've know from secondary school.

abetarrush

The good thing about graduation is that you get to keep your real mates, and ditch the rest

Like me! Im only finished the leavin but still hang out with me mates, and dont talk to the ones I never really wanted to

Im also still mates with people from Primary school, just dont hang out alot


I think college is different. its well easier t make friends on ur course cos u have on immediate similar interest

cooperguy

I have really good friends in college (I doubt ill lose contact with most of them when I leave), much better than I ever had in secondary (Im good friends with one person from secondary) And dont worry bout having nothin to do at the weekends in college if your anything like me you'll you'll have gone out too much during the week and be too tired/broke to go out alot of weekends.

I still have 2 friends from school, one from primary and the other from secondary. I also met another old primary school friend in Dublin last year. She asked me out but I never heard from her again. Oh well...

iguana

I'm still friends with the girl I was best friends with when I was 7. We aren't hugely close, but then again I live in London and she lives in Limerick. We see each other a few times a year and she's coming to my wedding in a couple of months.

We didn't go to the same secondary school, but we stayed friends. I didn't see her a huge amount when I was 16 and had my first boyfriend, but she met her first real boyfriend at my graduation, where I was newly single. And then I didn't see her much for the next year while she was with him.

Then we both had the same part-time jobs and the two of us and another girl were best friends again for years, until she moved in with the man who is now her husband and I moved away so we grew apart again.

I'm sure that if we just met now we wouldn't be friends, but it is nice to have a shared history and to have someone who knows your embarrassing stories from childhood (Kevin Costner crushes:o ). So we still stay in contact, and we make an effort to see each other when I'm home. I'm sure we'll be amoung the first to see each others babies when they come along, and I dare say one of us will be at the others funeral.

LegacyUser

confuzzd wrote:

do u ever feel that your friends arnt really your friends?!
not that they did anything to me personally but well i suppose its because i just finished secondary school and the people i thought were my friends actually arnt really..well not people i would hang around with in the real world if that makes any sense??
just they're people i know? wouldnt call them my best friends i suppose your friends change and when i go to college ill make new ones.
but what im really afraid of is not having anyone when i come home from college like nights out!
im a very sociable person who loves meeting new people..
just wondering do many of you still keep in contact with your school friends?!?
your two cents??

My friends from secondary school completely changed once they went to college. I never had a strong friendship with any of them, they were just lads who I used to hang around with but we got on grand nonetheless. When they started college suddenly they were making loads of new friends whereas I started college then dropped out and went straight into the workforce and so I couldn't really meet any new people. I found my friends became immensely cocky about their new found social clique and would constantly seem to rub it in to me in a show off type of way knowing that I didn't have any other social outlet. They became more and more distant around me as time progressed and eventually showed their true colours by teating me like **** in various kinds of ways. Thankfully I'm not friends with any of them now.

The lesson I've learned is that you'll know who your true friends are once you move on to other avenues in life. You'll know deep inside who are really your friends and who are people just to be around with. In reality very few people have lots of true friends, 3 or 4 at maximum. People especially after school or in college want to be seen with as many people as possible, sadly life is one big popularity contest for those in that age group. I can tell you for a fact having 2 or 3 close friends who you can trust is far better than having 25 ''friends'' who won't give a damn about you.

idontknowmyname

I was in a similar situation, the people who I thought were my friends in secondary turned out not to be. so it was hard for me to get over it. Trust me, college will be the best time of your life! you make loads of friends and the whole class goes on nights out, I made great friends in college. Since graduating, I still see all the people I hung out with. I was in a group of 4 girls including myself and then all the other gangs in the class we went on nights out with. I still meet up with the girlie's all the time as they're great mates. I've also made great friends through work, I'm from Balbriggan which doesn't really have a lot in it, but by working in Dublin city centre at the age of 17, I mixed with all different kinds of people. I keep in touch with all my college and ex- work mates as they're real friends.

[Jackass]

It seems, for me anyway, my friends depend on what I'm doing with my life at any particular moment.

In school, had plenty of friends but only hang around with one or two now, in college, again, I had a good few friends, but only see/hang around with a handfull now and in work at the moment I have plenty of friends and spend most of my free time (aswell as working time obviously) hanging around with them...I plan leaving this job in the new year and pretty much know who I'll keep in touch with and will still be friends a with a couple of years down the road...(and that'll only be a handfull if not just one or two)

I try to keep all my friends, and keep in touch with as many people as possible, but in reality, I believe you only make a couple of "true" friends in anything you do (although you get on great with all of them at the time) but people do so many things and move around so much, don't worry about losing touch, just make sure you don't lose the best ones and every now and then the others surface at some stage or another and it's always great catching up.

cooker3

I lost contact with all but 1 person I used to hang around with in school.
I regret it now, wish I stayed in contact with a few more but alas I have nobody to blame but myself.
I think it's a good thing to keep in contact with people from the past but of course ultimately plenty of other people out there to meet!