A small bit of a problem

Explosive_Cornflake

Couldn't be bothered going unreg for this. Anywho, on with the story. There is this girl I like. Going out with her now. I was trying not to have sex with her, because I didn't want to rush into things, as I (myself personally) for some reason loose respect for someone I sleep with too early. Now, the two of us have a past, about 2 and half years if I remember. The setting was right last night, perfect TBH, but as soon as I put a condom on, I loose my erection, and I can't get it back. The thing is, it's happened everytime I've gone to have sex with her, except once maybe. It must be frustrating for her. The thing is, I know it's not a physical problem, because I never have this problem with anyone else. I've explained this to her, and she's understanding, but it can't be doing much for her. I know that if I get it done once, I'll be over my problem. I guess my question is, has anyone else had this problem, and how did you get over it?

LegacyUser

it happens, and unfortunately it only get's worse the more you think about it.
relax and try not to get worried about it.

Marksie

it is very frequent occurrence, there is a similar thread running.In fact it happens to everyone at some point.
I wouldnt worry about it .
But i did leave some message in an above thread which may help you as well

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Explosive_Cornflake

Oh, ok, I should have searched first
The "Melty Man" episode of Coupling is quite relevant i feel

Ruu_Old

I think the fact that you mentioned in your post says it all, perfect setting and such is the problem. Just relax and it will happen and if its still a problem, get your girlfriend to help you settle down and be at ease. Good luck.

Explosive_Cornflake

Thanks, I'm not going to rush it anyway. Ah well, what happens, happens, I'm just wondering why, but I guess I'm the only person who knows that, and thinking about it will make it worse.

Mr. Presentable

Don't lose heart, it's fairly common, and, yeah, the more pressure you put on yourself the worse it'll get. Have you considered letting her put the condom on for you? That may work.

biko

You should engage in more foreplay, rubbing, fondling, handling etc until you climax. Note, no penetration!
This will hopefully relax you and restore the confidence in you both.

I have had similar probs with condoms and new girls, just performance anxiety. It has always corrected itself later on.

Explosive_Cornflake

Thing is, it's not like I'm jumping in, their is plenty of fore play. Anywho, I'm sure with time and patience all will be well. I just hope she get wait, heh heh.

Marksie

well..use the foreplay to fully satisfy her first.
You may find that watching her aroused and satisfied will overcome ANY problem you may have

cupsoftea

Once women are satisfied they too lose intereset in sex and just want to get to the cuddling part.

LegacyUser

Did youse have too much to drink by any chance ? Might be a touch of the auld 'brewers droop'.

Explosive_Cornflake

Nope, I have blamed that in the past, but have managed the job with much more drink before. Only 2 cans and 2 J & T's I'm afraid.