Awkward Situation

LegacyUser

I am in a slightly awkward situation lately.

A girl I work with and get on with really well wants to be with me but I can't seem to discourage her no matter what I say.

The situation is like this. Last summer I kissed her a couple of times after drunken nights out in groups. She was going out with a long term bf at the time and I knew I shouldn't be doing it but I was drunk (terrible excuse I know) and she didn't object in the slightest, even initiated it I think. Nothing happened for a while as I told her I didn't want to be responsible for ending her relationship and I apologised to her. She broke up with him a while later anyhow, and said it had been coming for ages.

Everything was fine for a while between us, still really good friends, having the craic, going out in the same group etc, but a couple of months ago she started ringing me late at night asking me to come over to her place, and wouldn't take no for an answer, even though I didn't relent. I literally had to tell her 'I don't want to be with you like that' but she kept saying 'I don't believe you', so I couldn't win. This has happened a few times and she apologises the next day all the time.

What can I do? I get on really well with her, but don't want this crap to keep on happening and I know it will for a while at least. I want to stay friends with her and even if I wanted to I couldn't avoid her as I work in the same area as her and we share a lot of friends. When we are out and I try to avoid doing anything that could be construed as a come on she asks me whats up?

Anyone suggest an approach to this? All help appreciated.

humanji

All you can do is tell her straight up that it's not going to happen. It'll take a bit of effort on your behalf because you'll have to be on your toes when you go out in case you "slip"! If she keeps at you then cut her loose. Ignore her, don't answer her calls. It'll be awkward when you're out with mutual friends, but just be polite yet keep your distance. Hate to say it, but she may be verging on the Bunny Boiler stereotype that a previous poster is terrified of.

Oh and maybe tell some of your friends too, if they don't already know, so they'll have your back if you go out.

The_B_Man

just continue wat ur doin. she'll keep it up for a bit but then get bored.

tho maybe she needs to see u wit sum1 else to let the hint sink in!

DubNside

Thats really tough going, a girl who you snog whilst your both "drunk" now wants to be with you!

Women never forget, no matter how drunk and unless she was catatonic, so she picks up these signals that you like her, dumps her bf to be with you, and now you want nothing to do with that??

Methinks you need to sit down with this girl and explain the situation honestly.

Black Swan

Honesty is always the best policy in the long run. Be patient, but be honest.

rsta

Next time she rings, just tell her you seriously are not interested. U like her as a friend and thats all. Best be upfront about how u feel. good luck!

MrsA

OP are you male or female?

Believe me I do have a reason for asking, if you are female I have been in a similar situation (no I am not gay)

MrsA

Huggles

rsta wrote:

Next time she rings, just tell her you seriously are not interested. U like her as a friend and thats all. Best be upfront about how u feel. good luck!

Agreed. Honesty is the best policy!