Ex Troubles

LegacyUser

I know a lot of relationship-related threads have popped up lately, so I'm sorry to add to that. Maybe the summer does something to people.

Anyway, I have been with this great girl about a year, and our relationship in the last while degenerated into a boring trot, laden with personal issues in both our lives which lead to a healthy dose of depression and whatnot.

She ended it recently and has since yet to speak to me. We know each other a long time, and could have had a great relationship... no doubt.

However, I can't stop thinking about her. That's not for the sake of trying though, I've played the field more then I've ever done before in my life. But no matter who's tongue is being rammed down my drunken throat, all I can think is how much I wish she was my ex.

As I said, we've not spoken, but I'm going to guess she knows how I feel because when she broke it off I was fairly upset, and no doubt some of my friends have popped her an e-mail or text to say something... because at the end of a good night, it seems to hit me and I go into "mopey mode".

I should be big and just call her but I'm afraid of what she'll say. And apparently the night that we broke up, she went off with a "friend" (what friend does that, seriously?!), so it's possible something happened there. Which really is just twisting the knife.

I can't help but think we would have been better off doing the cool thing and taking a "break" (Rachael and Ross job), but now I think I've missed the boat and lost her... and I'm going to regret that for an awfully long time.

Basically, I'm stuck in a rut and don't know what to do. Thought I'd post here because this kind of stuff really doesn't belong locked away in my head. Any advice beyond "find that guy, bate the ****e out of him and forget her for being such an ass to you" (real advice) would be nice, thanks...

Red Alert

everybody breaks up for a reason. how would you feel about her as a friend and just that?

secret_squirrel

Im sorry I think you are kidding yourself, you probably never had a chance of taking a break, if she was looking for a break up. Which she was probably looking for if she thought so little of your relationship that she got off with a 'mate' on the night of your breakup.

Nevyn

You have not moved on becuase you have not given yourself a chance to see that it is over and to grief for the relationship you have been to busy distracting yourself.
Take some time out and deal with what happened and to get in touch with how you feel about it and then greif and put it behind you.

dazftw

Im in the exact same position as you are right now... She broke up with me two weeks ago but ive been talking to her and its just getting worse i just beg her to get back with me everytime... and she says no that shes not worth it ! She too met a person I know and talk to at times a week after me ! (Hes and EMO person girls love them people and i too hate him and want to kill him buts there no point she'll just hate me)

I had the chance to meet someone else but I didnt cause she is nothing like my ex which is really what I want... I want her back ! I dont want anyone else !

Shes still meeting him now and Im so screwed up and it feels like it will never go away, my friends say it will, which it will but not for a very long time So my advice (which you probably already know) STAY AS BUSY AS POSSIBLE !

Love is great when its great but crap when its crap but thats life !

Things will get better its just going to take time.. Believe me I know !

Black Swan

From the way you tell it, it does appear to be over. Perhaps its time to grieve then move on?