My parents live in my crib

InFront

Im just wondering how many of you are still living with the old pair in college? Do you think its much of a drawback?

At first it was fine, and I agreed I should stay at home. It made sense: we live in Dundrum and I felt I already had all of the freedom I needed. Everyone says to stay where I am because of the free meals, no bills, tidy house thing, but now I think I might be missing out on the college experience.

Its not that I even drink so going on mad sessions isnt even an issue, but I cant have house parties because of the alcohol thing, and if I am going out the folks are all "what about your lectures... why cant you wait until friday" etc.Maybe this is a rant bitch moan item, cos I cant do much about it Im so broke right now:eek:, just wondering if anyone else has this problem or how you manage to get over it?

Riamfada

Ive done both this year. Spent half the year at home and the other half on my own and both had their advantages. Right now Im at home saving money. It was lonely on my own somtimes not much of a difference really.

JustCoz

Yeah i definitely think you miss out living at home. I don't think you get the full college experience. I live at home and I think I would have gotten to know way more people if I lived on campus, or away from home at all. Plus it's quite a commute from my house to UCD so it makes getting involved in activities harder

Pythia

I also live in Dundrum with my parents. I might be moving out next year though. Well hopefully.
My parents are cool about me going out on weekdays/not going to college etc. That's not a problem at all.

I have two reasons I wanna move out
1) Boyfriend. Wink, wink. Although saying that, my parents are cool about me staying over at his. Would just be handier. More privacy and all that
2) I really wanna feel like an adult, you can't get that at home IMO.

I also wanna live within shorter walking distance, somewhere like Roebuck Road. Will make me more likely to attend.

Sangre

If you're parents are moaning about you going out mid-week then you clearly lack a lot of freedom. Wouldn't mind moving out myself but its just not going to happen while I'm in college, it would financially kill me. Not to mention I can pretty much do what I want with regards my social life except have drinks in mine mid-week. Its grand even kipping at someone elses if I let them know via text. I think it helps that they know no matter what I'm doing socially I'll the work done anway.
Still...mom is wrecking my head lately.

Riamfada

its very hard to have the aul "wink wink" when you live at home. That is the best part of moving out . Actually I think I might move out next semester again.

Esel

You are sad, tbh. The title of your thread says it all - My parents live in my crib.

It should read "I live in my parents' crib". Grow up.

Riamfada

esel wrote:

You are sad, tbh. The title of your thread says it all - My parents live in my crib.

It should read "I live in my parents' crib". Grow up.

sigh, i new there would be one. Esel ,whoever you are. We care, we really do.

Pythia

esel wrote:

You are sad, tbh. The title of your thread says it all - My parents live in my crib.

It should read "I live in my parents' crib". Grow up.

I think the OP was trying to be funny. It's lost on some people obviously.
:rolleyes:

Esel

Pythia wrote:

I think the OP was trying to be funny. It's lost on some people obviously.
:rolleyes:

Whooshed me, anyway.

Alkers

Another Dundrumer living at home:(

Dave!

I live at home... I'd like to be able to move out, but I just couldn't afford it... How much would it set ya back per week, if ya were to share accomodation in Dundrum for instance? I'd imagine more than I've got!

InFront

DaveMcG wrote:

I live at home... I'd like to be able to move out, but I just couldn't afford it... How much would it set ya back per week, if ya were to share accomodation in Dundrum for instance? I'd imagine more than I've got!

House swop!!

I think the OP was trying to be funny

Afraid so, I dont actually think I own my parents house*

*dont tell them that.

BKtje

Im living "at home" tho it feels more like my place more often than not. I live with me mom and me bro but my mom is only there 4 working days out of the week (she goes "home" at the weekends) and its perfect (shes gone for most of the summer). That said, i have my own level (the whole of the floor i live in is mine, even has its own entrance if i want. That said it is the basement ). Mom buys my food(mainly) for me as long as im willing to cook and chip in around the house everyweek, which is more than fair enough.

During the weekend my bro and i do as we want (bro is 17 but the wildest thing we've had in recent memory is a poker night) and it gives us a whole lot of freedom during the weekend. Parents are willing to "rent" a place for me and me bro next year when me mom moves to Offaly permanetly (plan is that we pay x amount depending on our income) so in fairness we have most of the benefits of living by ourselves with very few of the drawbacks.

We do as we like when we like (well i do, bro still in school so less for him i guess) and i must say im very very very lucky. That said i've never brought someone back during the week (ie when me moms there) as it would just be "weird". I would like me own place but at the same time i like the benefits for living at "home".

My own place wouldd be nice but the amount of work id have to do would be a seruous handicapper for me (im lazy, so shoot me ). I have it very easy and im very thankful and happy and i realise how lucky i am.

irlrobins

I was living at home while an undergrad. Didn't mind it so much. Yes bit of loss of freedom and the "what were you doing falling in at 4am" thing, but all in all was grand. I get on with my parents and hey it's free!

Moved out (all the way to Glenomena) when I got my PhD. Enjoyed that, you have more fun because of living with a group of people of similiar age to. Plus I was an RA so got to know a load of people in the Res.

Had to move home last year when funding ended. And after being away for three years was tough to come back. But had no choice really. Now I get the daily "So are you nearly finished your thesis" question which annoys the hell out of me. But again, it's free, so don't look a gift horse in the mouth.

OP, Wouldn't stress about it too much. It's only temporary. You have your whole life to live where you want!

rainbow kirby

I live at home in Firhouse... *fun*
As soon as I can afford it I'm moving out. It's a pain in the ass living at home. It's free though, and mammy cooks for me

Blush_01

To be honest I'd suck it up for the next few years and then move out. Cultivate a group of friends who don't mind you kipping on the carpet after a night out, and you'll be fine. Unless you have €500 a month to throw away, that is.

You could try moving out for the summer next year and see how it goes. It might be a bit late now, since the summer is practically half over.

Red Alert

i live at home and currently i've no plans at all to move out! mammy's cooking and the internet paid for are big plusses.

rain on

i moved out when i turned 18 and i've never been back (22 now). my parents live in deepest rural west cork so even if i went to ucc, living at home wouldn't be an option. it scares me to think of the amount of money we've spent on rent for me over the years, but what can you do...
i've often wished my parents lived closer so i could move home, but at the same time i know that me and my ma would totally kill each other if i did. i get on 100% better with her when i'm not living at home.

snickerpuss

I live at home and it suits me just fine, i wouldn't want to live closer to UCD really cos all my friends/family/boyfriend are over here on the northside so it wouldn't make much sense. Anyway i get on great with my parents and lil brother, i think i'd miss them if i lived somewhere else.

Plus my boyfriend stays over all the time and i stay in his so no probs there.
So i'd rather just keep the money.

YeAh!

Are you in 1st year or what? You can always move out in 3rd year or something to get the best of both experiences.

blondie83

I live at home with the parents too - but living in Clonskeagh meant it just didnt make sense to move out while I was in UCD. I nearly did this year in DCU cos travelling was such a pain - but then just couldnt afford it and wasnt bothered taking out a €4000 loan for it when I didnt really need to move out. Its grand living at home, but my parents used to drive me mad when I was doing the undergrad - every single morning it was a case of "why arent you up yet, you do have a lecture now, you're missing your lecture again" ect ect. They've lightened up on that now since I got the degree, and have never minded me going out at the weekend or staying over at friends so I suppose its cool. It would be impossible to do if your parents didnt give you any freedom though :cool:

BKtje

Hmm i have none of these problems with being told/asked whats going on constantly. I can do what i want, when i want (as long as i do my share of housework).
Having a floor to myself is greast since i can play music as loud as i want without it bothering anyone else

hullaballoo

esel wrote:

You are sad, tbh. The title of your thread says it all - My parents live in my crib.

It should read "I live in my parents' crib". Grow up.

Anymore of that sort of personal abuse will get you a ban.

pretty*monster

I live at home and I really don't think I'm missing any of the college experience (bar the financial hardship, which I can do without).

I really only see my parents for a few hours on a saturday evening and all day sunday because during term I'm in bed when they go to work and they're in bed when I get in (I'm hardly ever home before 11 and they're cool about how many late nights I have to the point of worrying if I'm in early too often).
The commute was a pain in the ass at first (about an hour) but you I got used to it very fast and now it's just 'something I have to do in the morning' like getting dressed and brushing my hair. And there are couches, carpets, spare beds (and the occassional not-spare bed) all over the southside to crash on (during the election I lived out of my locker for a week).
The only restriction I have is not being able to bring boys home (though I'm sure they'd be fine whith it if I ever had such a thing as a steady boyfriend) and that's really only because my sister is ten, has the room next to mine, and it'd just be inappropriate.

Financially it just wouldn't make any sense to move out, in fact I think I'd definatly miss out on more by doing that. I have the rest of my life to worry about bills and rent ffs.

Blowfish

I'm at home as well, though I don't really mind. I couldn't afford to move out if I wanted to, and since i'm only half an hours cycle from UCD anyway it would be a bit pointless. Thankfully I don't get any of the 'why the hell aren't you up yet and doing work yet?' type of questions, even if its about 12.
The free food is great though

Chakar

I live at home too and I don't have any problems tbh quite a significant percentage of people live at home while going to college.The free 'everything' when I'm home, its great but it is to be expected because they're our parents.However a few people might actually be paying to stay at home.

panda100

There are pros and cons to both but I agree that you dont get the full college expereince If you live at home,and I dont get what any of the dubs here say,you dont.
Im from Limerick so I lived in roebuck and belgorve and then with me mates in clonskeagh. Since I failed almost every year I was made move in with my bro last year,so sorta feels like Im living at home again.
To be honest I love living with my brother co he makes me go to lectures cos otherwise I probably would never go in:o
Saying that living away from my family made me come my own person,but I do come from quite a big overbearing family,so I wanted to have my own space.
The romance/having boyriend thing doesnt bother me.There all terriied of my protective older brother so stay well away from my house anyway:)

Id say defo have one year of living away from home at college if you can afford it.It would be something you will never regret!

Dave!

panda100 wrote:

There are pros and cons to both but I agree that you dont get the full college expereince If you live at home,and I dont get what any of the dubs here say,you dont.
Im from Limerick so I lived in roebuck and belgorve and then with me mates in clonskeagh. Since I failed almost every year I was made move in with my bro last year,so sorta feels like Im living at home again.
To be honest I love living with my brother co he makes me go to lectures cos otherwise I probably would never go in:o
Saying that living away from my family made me come my own person,but I do come from quite a big overbearing family,so I wanted to have my own space.
The romance/having boyriend thing doesnt bother me.There all terriied of my protective older brother so stay well away from my house anyway:)

Id say defo have one year of living away from home at college if you can afford it.It would be something you will never regret!

How on earth did you afford to live away from home, panda? You just end up with a good job?

panda100

DaveMcG wrote:

How on earth did you afford to live away from home, panda? You just end up with a good job?

I have no choice but to live away from home unless I commute from Limerick everyday:)
My parents paid for me in first year in roebuck on campus.THere the cheapest room on campus so wasnt that much. Then I lived with five friends in clonskeagh in 2nd year in quite a cheap house so they paid for me again. During those two year I did promotions work and things like that to pay for clothes,nights out etc.Then I failed second year and lived in Belgrove and had to get a 6000 euro loan out to pay my way through college that year. Then I passed second year and was made move in with my bro and my parents paid for my room but I had to pay for living expenses etc so did nurses on call in which Im paid an alright wage.
I have two years left in college and so will get a loan out.Im quite lucky cos I earn quite a lot in my first year as an intern so can afford to get out an all right loan and have reasonable hope of paying it back within two years of finsihing college (and if I live on bread,water,baked beans and sweet corn for my intern year )
Since second year though I have been able to afford going on hols again though so am glad I did j1 and a bit of europe back then.Though hopefully Il get my loan so I can go to Australai by the end of the summer. But I dont mind working at home in Limerick during the summer cos I get my freedom away from my folks during the year!Actually its quite nice having food in the fridge and cupboards for once and not hiding from the tvlicence man...there are definaklty pros to living at home!!

Jonny Arson

Even though I'm very happy at home living with my parents I do feel that I'm missing out on something by not living away from home. I get on great with them, they let me be free, they have no problems with me coming home at all hours but I feel that I'm looked after too well by them at times and that I probably need a growing up experience by living away from home. I have been thinking about living somewhere close to campus but in reality it will cost me around 3 grand for the year and that would equal most of the money I'll earn this summer... spending all that on rent, food, bills would absolutely kill me.

Nah, I think I'll stick with the easy/lazy option and stay at home with the folks!

Byrno

I lived at home in first year and vowed never to do it again. I was getting up at 6am to get in for 9am lectures and was wreaked all the time. I was just lucky that it was a pretty relaxed year academically. Have to say though that it was great craic getting the bus and having the money get drunk in a pub was great, as was getting home to a cooked dinner. I was also able to go to the States which was the best summer I've had.

That said moving out was a great decision. Despite the fact that I'm poor I love the freedom and independence I have away from home. Also home is in the middle of the country so I rely on lifts all the time but in Dublin I can travel as I like. It has also given me the time to get involved in stuff in college which in all honesty I couldn't do before.

So all in all I would say if you can move out, do. You learn to look after yourself and stand on your own two feet without your parents. To quote Friends, "The real world sucks, you'll love it!"

panda100

Byrno wrote:

To quote Friends, "The real world sucks, you'll love it!"

That totally sums up my earlier rambling post:)
Op if your even considering it-move out!!

elmyra

Yup. Gotta say living away from home is fantastic.

I considered commuting in first year (from Wicklow, I could at a push) since my mammy was very apprehensive about sending off an ickle 17 year old to big bad dublin but in the end I just went for it and moved in with a gang of randomers and haven't really looked back. There are always downsides to living away from home too just as there are with living with your parents. There's obviously the financial burden, then there's also having random tiffs with the others you live with, dealing with the responsibility of paying bills on time and keeping a house clean and being competent enough to buy yourself a weeks shopping. The pros far outweigh the cons though. If at all possible try to get at least one year of college away from home. You'll learn a lot.

Chinafoot

Lived at home throughout my three years and I don't think I missed out on anything.

It all depends on the type of relationship you have with your parents. Mine gave me a lot of freedom as I had lived away in Australia for a year and had found my feet so to speak. So I didn't have any problems there.

If your parents are very strict on you while you are at home then maybe yes, you are missing out. However, if they aren't, then I don't think you are missing too much.

Unfortunately UCD events do seem to be geared more towards those living on-campus or in the direct area of UCD so maybe that will make you feel as though you are missing something. Personally I didn't.

I had a fair old commute from Balbriggan every morning but I didn't feel it was far enough to warrant moving out as I would just be wasting money.

Up to yourself really. If you feel you are missing out then you should move out and experience something new. If not, then save your money and stay at home for now. You'll be out on your own soon enough.

Samos

I moved out of parent's place (I don't even call it home anymore!) when I was 18, and I don't think that I could ever go back permanently. The freedom of living away from the disapproving, and often unjustified, stance of one's parents is just too alluring to relinquish. Living away from home needn't be too expensive if you have an ability to haggle and make sensible spending choices. I've managed to reduce my rent down to €60 per week, which is an absolute bargain for the centre of Donnybrook! And other weekly expenses rarely amount to more than €40. I was lucky to get a job this year that only required my services on Sundays, so I was able to cover my costs easily. Not to mention that the stress and expense of commuting is completely avoided, as well as the overpriced campus food. Best of all is the chance to partake fully in campus society and social life. Unless you live extremely close to Belfield and/or your family is cool the benefits of moving out far outweigh the cons.

Waltons

I'm living at home, but since I live on Roebuck Road it wouldn't really make any sense moving out. Don't really have much of a problem as my girlfriend often stays over and my parents aren't really strict. Free stuff!