How to keep in sync???

LegacyUser

This post is of a sexual nature, but please don't move it to where I've no access, please........

In previous relationships I've never been able to do the 'woman on top' position, as well, there were issues of big stomachs (his) & small legs (mine), so I couldn't really move.

However, with my new partner I can do this, & I absolutely love it, the feelings I get are so much more intense than in other positions (ok, I haven't been very experimental to date), especially when we're going slow.

Bt here's my problem:- when we start to speed up I get out of sync (every time!!!), as he moves up, so do I, & trying to correct it just fcuks it up completely!!!

I feel this ruins it for him, but I know this is (well prob was) one of his favs too.

Do any of ye have any tips for keeping in time?

Again, I'm sorry for the content of this thread, but it's only now that I've been confident enough to go on top, & I feel my confidence rapidly slipping away.

Please help (I've been sexually active for 10 years, so this is really getting me down)

Nevyn

Practice and music with a pounding rythm that you will both move to.

Ickle Magoo

What about asking him to stay still & let you do the moving? That way you wont have anything to get out of sic withy & by the time he moves because he can't stay still, neither of you will care if you are in sync or not!

secret_squirrel

Ickle Magoo wrote:

What about asking him to stay still & let you do the moving?

Good advice. We're lazy buggers at the best of times

crosstownk

Thaedydal wrote:

Practice and music with a pounding rythm that you will both move to.

Great suggestion. I always find that rock music is better in the bedroom than the more romantic, soppy stuff that most would associate with *ahem* romance. Like everything in life - practice makes perfect.

Best of luck...............

Ruu_Old

Excellent, a bit of dance music, but not too fast either!:eek: Best of luck OP.

Gateway

You're in control on top and you should be setting the pace. It's up to him to keep in sync.

AOR

practice, practice, practice and follow the good advice above. nothing to worry about thou, itll work out soon

sceptre

Thaedydal wrote:

Practice and music with a pounding rythm that you will both move to.

Ravel's Bolero. Or Prokofiev's Troika if it's too slow. The latter has nice bells.

keithclancy

Tie him up and ride him like a horse, then shout out some crazy **** like ....

Well .. you get the idea.. men love that dirty filthy horse ridin sex0r :P

The rhythm wont really be an issue then

Marksie

Try you move on top and control the rhythm, depth and angle.
You will both move together after awhile

I have found though that at some point the womans rhythm goes disjointed as she approaches her first or subsequent orgasms.
At this point..and you two have to learn this (its fun). If the woman leans forward so and doesnt move and the guy uses all the thrust in his hips so that he can withdraw all the way out then in again, literally lifting her off the bed. The guy can then take control and vary speed and depth to iinduce orgasm.
If after your first andthen you can lean back on top and take control again until you feel it build then lean forward to allowe him to repeat the whole thing.
eventually you will find your rhthyms match naturally.