Old Girlfriend

mirwillbeback

Just looking for some advice.

I went out with a smashing girl about 8 years ago, for only about 2 months, but broke up cos my head wasnt right and decided I wanted out. We met a while later for a drink as friends and got on well but have lost all contact since.

I'm now happy in a new relationship, family and all, and I know this girl has kids now to.

Thing is, I feel very guilty over the break up. It was totally my fault and I just would like to email / send a letter to say sorry. Obviously I dont want to freak her out, and I'm not interested in rekindling, but would like to explain my mindset at the time.

Do you think I should find an address and just send an apology or should I just leave things as they are ( her thinking i'm a p*ick )?

petes

Don't send her anything to appease your guilt over the breakup.

Gary ITR

I know how you feel but getting in touch is not going to help. And out of respect for your current girlfriend you shouldn't really be trying to patch things up with your ex. To be honest you guys only went out for two months and it was a long time ago so she may not even remember you.

Also you said when you met everytyhing was ok so maybe you should just leave it there

Donegal Lass

tbh i dnt think you should do anything........ if it was me and someone contacted me after 8 years, id prob be more pissed off then than i was before! she prob dnt even give it much thought so maybe you are reading too much into the situation??

fade2black

8 years ago? For two months? i don't think she'll care to be honest. And neither should you.

fuzzywiggle

I'd just leave it to be honest. What's the point of it

Hagar

Let sleeping dogs lie.

Cake Fiend

I don't think you should remind her of something she's probably forgotten just to make yourself feel better (I doubt it would make her feel better).

WhiteWashMan

mirwillbeback wrote:

Just looking for some advice.

I went out with a smashing girl about 8 years ago, for only about 2 months, but broke up cos my head wasnt right and decided I wanted out. We met a while later for a drink as friends and got on well but have lost all contact since.

I'm now happy in a new relationship, family and all, and I know this girl has kids now to.

Thing is, I feel very guilty over the break up. It was totally my fault and I just would like to email / send a letter to say sorry. Obviously I dont want to freak her out, and I'm not interested in rekindling, but would like to explain my mindset at the time.

Do you think I should find an address and just send an apology or should I just leave things as they are ( her thinking i'm a p*ick )?

dude, you deserately need to get over this. get yourself some closure.

sure, why not send her an email and say exactly that. tell her whatever it is you need to say. sorry or whatever.

but leave it at that. if she doesnt respond, you may feel worse off however. or if she reponds and tells you to bugger off, will you feel better.

personally, after 8 years, i have many many fond memories of girls i used to know, but thats a long time to hold a torch.



however, if you met up at one stage, had drinks and it was all good, then i think you should take it that your apology is accepted. you may not have to say to her that you acted like a fool. she probablyu knows. she probably also realised back then you had grown. i think her sitting with you and drinking and chatting is probably her way of accepting your unspoken apology.

personally, id leave it be, and just accept that she is doing her own thing, and you shuld be happy to do yours

Wing Walker

mirwillbeback wrote:

I went out with a smashing girl about 8 years ago, for only about 2 months, but broke up cos my head wasnt right and decided I wanted out.

Sounds like your head still isn't right. You don't need to go anywhere near this. Have a bit of respect for the family you have now. Put your energies into them and don't concern yourself with someone you knew almost a decade ago.

Marksie

leave it alone!
and ask why after 8 years for a two month fling, thaht you are questioning this at all.
You have a family now. What possible rteason could you have for reaopening somethng that is better off left well alone?