Strange thing...

oceansize

I was having a heart to heart with a really good friend of mine last night, decent lookin fella, quite confident, and he told me something wierd, and got me worried!.,

He was telling me that when he is with a girlfriend (for a while) and they get intimate, he can get an erection and be very arroused etc. But he said since he broke up with her, anytime he meets someone out (he said he's been with a few, whether they be friends or not) and sleeps with them, he can not get an erection at all. he's genitals feel numb, he can try and arouse himself etc but nothing works!

I then remembered something like this happened to me before, it appears that he is funcional etc, but when he's with someone he is unfamiliar with, nothing happens! Why would this happen???

Anyone else ever had anything like this happen? And is there anything that can be done about it?

Cheers

ST*

It sounds psychological, he needs to give himself plenty of time to get over his ex. If he was in a long term relationship they will have become familiar with each others erogenous zones and probably a kind of routine of their own.

He needs to slow down, stop diving into bed with women at a whim before this has happened so many times that it seriously dents his confidence, and becomes a long term problem. He needs to become comfortable on his own before he can move on properly.

LegacyUser

When I broke up with my girlfriend of seven years I had the same problem. I could masturbate without any problems but when I was with other women I just didn't feel sexually aroused at all.

I think it was the fact that I hadn't accepted the fact that we were finished. Now it's all fine again.

Epicpriest

Ya, sounds Psycological. Isn't there anything that you can take that will actually give you an erection? I know that stuff like Viagra only gives you an erection if you become aroused. So if you're having a problem becoming aroused, then there must be something else no? Anyone?

dudara

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LegacyUser

ive got the exact same problem, was with gf for 2 years on/off. nasty break up. Met 2 girls since most recently saturday night. then when it came to the crunch it didnt rise kinda worried.......

oceansize

Anymore help on this? I'm quite worried now that it will happen to me again

Marksie

May not be too serious,
just may not be ready after the breakup to sleep with others, subconscious playing tricks.
But as the moderator says..if worried go see a doctor or counsellor

Esel

oceansize wrote:

Anymore help on this? I'm quite worried now that it will happen to me again

I'm confused. Is it you or your 'friend' who has this problem?

Epicpriest

esel wrote:

I'm confused. Is it you or your 'friend' who has this problem?

Yes, but something like this happened to me before as well.