Relationship Trouble

Lonely Or Lazy

Howdy All,

Ok, this is an Alias,

Im 22, never in a what most people would call a relationship, Ive been a ship that passed in the night, but never stayed in a port.
Its getting to a point of no return I know its not but it feels that way, doesnt help that since i started working my social life has been castrated. Theres not much people to socialise at work, doesnt help that we're all the same sex(male).

Need advice

Thanks

Velvet Vocals

what kind of work do you do? what kind of socialising do you do? Do you have any hobbies/interests?

The reason I'm asking is coz I think you should look at what you can do to put your self out there, meet people who are like minded and stuff......

Lonely Or Lazy

Saint Something wrote:

what kind of work do you do? what kind of socialising do you do? Do you have any hobbies/interests?

The reason I'm asking is coz I think you should look at what you can do to put your self out there, meet people who are like minded and stuff......

Work is a no-no, anyway, before I started working used to go for a few pints a good few evenings of the week, since then though, even Fri/Sat have become rare events, hobbies/interests im a jack of all and a master of none, meaning I have a broad interest base but im not mad into anything in particular, i do play GAA.

Velvet Vocals

Your gonna have to work harder then that... which is it? Lonely or Lazy? Only you can decide that!
Personally I think your leaning more towards the lazy side of things! Get out there. Start with your friends, tell them your looking to meet someone, ask them if they know anyone - or get everyone together and throw a party or BBQ seeing as the weather is so great!
If work is boring, liven it up... be the person that suggets things,try and get the lads interested in going out and doing something... set up a tag rugby team in your company and play against other companies......
Find out if anyone you work with or any of your mates are in the same boat... you never know! and see if they have any ideas? Not just going out on the pull... but really doing something!
All of these things might help you meet someone but if not, you might just have fun in the process.... but you will have to get up off your ass:)
Good luck!!!

Lonely Or Lazy

Suppose im lonely due to laziness, and probably shyness also.
All, good points, taken on board

Velvet Vocals

Shyness is a tough one, but you have to bite the bullet and just push your self! It can be a hard one to over come but once you do you'll realise how good life can be. Not just in terms of relationships... but with everything.

(Actually I have a girlfriend who sounds just like you, you would have been perfect for each other, but she's just left to go travelling for 8 months (her way of trying to get out of the rut) if your still single when she gets back I'll hook you up:D )

Strokesfan

Funny saying "you can be single and lonely or married and bored - I've been lonely - I'm ready for bored". To meet someone maybe you have to find a similarly minded male buddy and just go out twice a week every week and when you least expect it, someone will come up to you, say they like your hair and that's it - problem solved!
Girls love nice hair, well I do anyway - If you haven't got any hair, wear nice clothes and aftershave (not check shirt)

Lonely Or Lazy

Whats this about hair, is there something wrong with it, lol.
Just moved house so everything is a bit upside down at the mo, cant wait to get things to settle down, then i'll have some time on my hands.