Shoud I stay or should I go?

LegacyUser

I'll try and keep this short. Basically, about a year or so ago I got chatting to a Russian girl on the internet. We get on really well, and we even talk on the phone every now and then, as well txting each other pretty much everyday. We've exchanged plenty of photos of each other, and to me she is one of the most beautiful girls I've ever seen. She is 20 and I am 26.

Here's the thing. In the past few months our msgs to each other have become very romantic. She often sends me a txts in the middle of the night, telling me how much she wishes we could be toghether, and I think I am starting to feel the same way about her. I'm pretty sure that I have genuine feelings for this girl.

Now, she has just moved to the Ukraine to continue her studies there for a bit, and she has asked me to come and stay with her for awhile. She has said to me on more than one occassion, that if we get on well, that she would consider coming back to Ireland with me.

What should I do? I'm afraid that if I go over to her that it could all go pear shaped on me. Should I just stay here and find myself a nice Irish girl (which I'm finding very difficult at the moment), or should I take a big chance on this girl?

LegacyUser

'Nice', 'Oirish' and 'Girl' : doesn't fit well together in the same sentence these days - especiallly when you compare the home-grown with those lovely-lookin Eastern European girls. I'd say give it a lash with the cute Russian girl. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

Emmo

have you actually spoke to this girl?

Is she a girl or could she be a bloke?

You could end up looking like a idiot.

It could go Malcome in The middle or if your lucky Napolean Dynamite.

Emmo

Static M.e.

You should also REALLY consider the fact that alot of russians find it really hard to get into Ireland without some irish person inviting them over and saying in writing that they will be staying with you and you will be responsible for them. Alot of them use Irish people to get the foot in the door and once over they stay or try their to best to stay.

Im not trying to question your relationship but its true you need to be very carefull.

By the way, I learnt all this through a russian girl who is great friends with my family who I have known and trust for well over 5 years. Just be carefull.

Hope it works out

BoozyBabe

Go for it. (if you can afford it)
Would you be giving up a good job here or anything?

what's the worst that could happen? You come back home again & a person you've been texting doesn't text anymore. (& then you could get on with trying to find an Irish girl)

What's to lose?

I believe life's too short & if you have strong feelings about something you should just go for it.
We only get one life, no dress rehearsal!

Best of luck

quad_red

For once - a woman who truely isn't after a mans wallet....



(just his passport )

Be careful buddy. We'd be on thin ice if we gave out about meeting people and having friends online.... but heading off to the Ukraine is something that should be really really REALLY carefully considered.

the Guru

Go for a 2 week holiday suss it out , she may be ligit , I would suggest been careful, she may only be looking for a way to get into Ireland, but if she's as hot as you say she is who cares go for it :-)

Marksie

I gave up a really good job to move to ireland to be with a kerry woman. It didnt work out.
However, i got a further degree and a job, and am starting my own business. Happily dating and still here.
So my advice is go for it:
If it goes pear shaped then life goes in another direction..did with me. and i did my move much later than you!
Life is about chances: you may look back and say I wish i hadnt done that, but its a damn sight better than looking back and saying i wish i HAD done it

BoozyBabe

Touché

ionapaul

One of my mates met a Russian girl on the Internet, she seemed lovely, very pretty, loads of photos exchanged. He was planning to go over and meet her, when we finally convinced him to look into it a little closer - he googled her address and found out it was listed in connection with various online scams!

Be very careful.

LegacyUser

From what you have said, this one sounds sincere, I mean its not as if she has asked you for your credit card number!
Take a weekend off, meet up with her and see how it goes!

I would agree with some of the previous posters here that in Ireland we have 1000's of Eastern European and Russian women in the country now who are tall, blond and very slim! So who can blame anyman for wanting to be with them, beats the home grown women who are usually short n'Tubby!

LegacyUser

Thanks for all the advice guys. I'm pretty sure this girl is legit. We've talked on the phone a couple of times, so it's defo a girl alright, phew! If I do go, it will only be for a couple of weeks, just to see how we get on. But if that went well, I'd defo be interested in her coming back to Ireland with me for awhile and see what happens. She has said she would be interested in this too, but I don't think she's just after an "in" to this country. She speaks excellent english, and is quite well educated and very artistic. Not really the "scam artist" type. She even sent me two cards for Valentines day, one for Valentines and a birthday card (Yes, my birthday is on Valentines day), so she's a pretty sweet girl and comes across as quite genuine. Still, it is a rather daunting decision to make. A mate of mine said he'd make the trip with me for backup if I wanted, that way, if it all goes wrong, we can just go on the piss or something.

Gateway

what_to_do wrote:

A mate of mine said he'd make the trip with me for backup if I wanted, that way, if it all goes wrong, we can just go on the piss or something.

Well then thats settled, go for it!!

Grem

What a sound mate, making a trip to the Ukraine with you!
Definately go for it, if you believe she's genuine then trust your feelings.

DOLEMAN

I say go for it too. It's not as if you have to marry her or anything!

If she was a French girl would you be as worried? Probably not. Worst case scenario it doesn't work out and you get to have a laugh with your mate in the Ukraine.

Give her the benefit of the doubt and assume she's not an evil passport hunting criminal!

PS if she has any nice friends tell them doleman said hello!!