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LegacyUser

Ok i have a couple of questions. how long should a guy last when having sex.
Is one to one and half mins acceptable if he is 19 and only afterstarting?
also how much masturbation is ok and also if my gf is on the pill how safe would it be to have sex without a condom?and with a durex extra seafe and the pill what chance is there of the girl geting knocked up.everytime her period is due i get really scared in case that we might have made a mistake.
thanks.

Iago

I did a big reply to this and it disappeared! So here's the summarised version..

1. There is no set time that you should be able to last for. How long you can last and the amount of pleasure that brings is completely dependant on what else is involved in the experience.

It's been my experience that the more up to scratch your foreplay is, the less likely there will be a complaint about the intercourse afterwards. If you want your gf to be fully satisfied ask her exactly what she likes and then do it, repeatedly and with passion. You may find that oral sex is far more pleasureable for her than intercourse for example.

2. As much as you want, unless it's affecting your sexual performance/drive with your partner. If you feel that you want to last longer during intercourse you could always masturbate before you meet your gf and this may help you.

3. Always wear condoms, for both your protection. Pill = Good, Pill + Condom = Very Good. If you're still worried about pregnancy you could always withdraw just before orgasm and that will greatly reduce the chance of pregnancy.


Communication is the key, talk to your gf about what she likes and doesn't like, don't be afraid to ask for direction or believe that doing so insinuates that you aren't good in bed. Every girl is different and if you don't ask you'll never find out, she will appreciate that you want to please her and in turn she should want to please you more and therefore you'll both get the most out of it.

the_syco

Iago wrote:

If you're still worried about pregnancy you could always withdraw just before orgasm and that will greatly reduce the chance of pregnancy.

:D:Dlolerz.

Sorry lad, but the fact remains that it only takes one bit of sperm to "knock her up", and before you cum, sperm will come out. The "withdrawl before cuming" method as a contraception is nothing more than an urban method, imo, akin to the "having sex whilst standing up won't get you preggers" myth. Both are total BS.

Unless you want to pay for child welfare for the next 18 years, always wear a condom.

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BTW, the rest of the reply was spot on. Just the bit quoted was a untrue.

nesf

the_syco wrote:

Sorry lad, but the fact remains that it only takes one bit of sperm to "knock her up", and before you cum, sperm will come out. The "withdrawl before cuming" method as a contraception is nothing more than an urban method, imo, akin to the "having sex whilst standing up won't get you preggers" myth. Both are total BS.

Unless you want to pay for child welfare for the next 18 years, always wear a condom.

I think he was suggesting withdrawing as additional protection on top of a condom and the pill. Seems a little excessive to me, but I suppose it could make some difference.

the_syco

nesf wrote:

I think he was suggesting withdrawing as additional protection on top of a condom and the pill. Seems a little excessive to me, but I suppose it could make some difference.

I suppose, but only as long as he doesn't think that taking it out before he cum's will stop any sperm from escaping.

Iago

the_syco wrote:

:D:Dlolerz.


BTW, the rest of the reply was spot on. Just the bit quoted was a untrue.

I was talking about withdrawal as well as a condom and the pill!! My point was simply that if they were still worried when on the pill and using a condom then the added security of withdrawal before orgasm should reduce the stress on both of them, which will enable them to enjoy the experience more.

It is a little excessive, but if either party is feeling concerned or stressed then that will take away from the overall experience, if this helps reduce that then it can only be a good thing.

hill

worries wrote:

Ok i have a couple of questions. how long should a guy last when having sex.
Is one to one and half mins acceptable if he is 19 and only afterstarting?
also how much masturbation is ok and also if my gf is on the pill how safe would it be to have sex without a condom?and with a durex extra seafe and the pill what chance is there of the girl geting knocked up.everytime her period is due i get really scared in case that we might have made a mistake.
thanks.

Try aim for 10-15 minutes. I bit of practice is required.
If you **** before hand (how long before requires trial and error - try 2 hours) you'll find you last a lot longer.

Pill is effectice but I'd never trust it 100% because (a) you're relying on her to properly take it (b) it's not a physical barrier. I suppose if you worked out your girlfriends fertile days (2/3 days a month) then you might get away with just the pill but I'd not advise it.

Mastrabation? So long as it's not interferring in your life whack off as much as you want. When I was your age I'd no girlfriend so that was A LOT.