weak erection, sometimes premature ejaculation - please help

helpneeded15

first off, i wanted to post this in the sex/sexuality forum but i don't have access to it for some reason


hi. i'm 23 yrs old. i've always had a high sex drive until a few weeks ago.

i broke up with my girlfriend of 5 years. 2 weeks later i masturbated twice in the same night. since then i've had a weak erection, and sometimes come prematurely. now i know most people say that masturbating is harmless, but i've found some sites on the net which disagree with this.
The only thing about these websites is that they are trying to sell herbal remedies


My doctor told me my problem is a psychological reaction to the breakup with my girlfriend, but i'm not convinced. i've had the problem for 7 weeks now, i didn't go to the doctor 'til after 4 weeks with the problem 'cos i just thought it would heal itself in time, it wasn't really worrying me.

The doctor prescribed cialus (it's similar to viagra), which helps temporarily but wears off after 2 or 3 days. Even when it's working my erection isn't as strong as it used to be. I don't feel very guilty about the breakup but my doctor says that i could be feeling guilty subconsciously.

i don't "over-masturbate", about once a day
i don't smoke, or do any kind of drugs except alcohol about once a week

just wondering if anyone has any solutions or have had any similar problems? i'm hoping the problem is psychological but i think it may be physical. thanks in advance

Nevyn

If you think it is physical then go back to your Dr and demand a battery of tests and a referal if nessacary,
but be open to the fact that your body misses it's long term partner and it can
take a while before it unprograms it's self from her as your sexual stimulus.

Zulu

I'd agree with your Doctor to be honest.
You'd be surprised what a break up like that will do. Give it time.

chamlis

Watch "Human Traffic".

The main character has a case of "Mr. Floppy"

It was psychological.

Anyone with a case of Mr. Floppy should check it out, I reckon.

johnsmith

I think that more than likely, it is to do with your break-up. I very much doubt that it is a physical thing.

It happened to me before, I went through a three week period of having a very weak erection. I was away from my girlfriend and we had a fight before we left, to be honest I was pretty angry with her and I was thinking about cheating on her (although I didn't, despite being very tempted). I was pretty much unable to maintain any kind of an erection during the 3 weeks, but after I made up with my girlfriend I was hard as a hammer. you'd be surprised about how your subconcious can effect things like that.

Just give it time.

LegacyUser

Same problem at the moment. Erection not up scratch now for a long time since break up with long term girlfriend.

Any advice?

Think at this stage I should prob go to doctor but I do think it is physchological but it is not good.

LegacyUser

Got the same problem and has been going on for ages since breakup with long term girlfriend but think it is in my head.

Any helpful suggestions welcome.

WinterNights

The little fellow seems to have a mind of his own. I've been having this problem with my current girl for the past 2 months. It's wrecking me head!!

Trinity

Have you all gotten closure from your exes?

it definately sounds psychologiccal. your dick doesnt suddenly stop working and hey presto its around the same time you had a traumatic experience.

it sounds like you are all having a mental block of some sort. perhaps you havent allowed yourselfs to feel properly upset about the breakup or havent dealt with it. Emotions can manifest themselves into physical form if we dont deal with them, some people get pains some people cant get proper hard ons.

do yourselves a favour. think about the break up, think about your ex, allow yourselves to feel bad, sad, upset, rejected whatever it is you feel

then get over it and get back out there and start dating again.

sure how could you get a proper horn if theres mega stuff floating round the back of your head

Lone Wolf

I'd have to agree with Thaedyal, your body has been so used to a certain kind of sexual stimulus for 5 years and all of a sudden it's been taken away. Your body needs to get used to not having regular sex, I'm just presuming this was the case in your relationship. Since the stimulus isn't as strong, masturbation is not as arousing as actual sexual interactions, hence the weak erection.

The premature ejaculation is porbably due to the same reason as it maybe inducing some self doubt or depression which are known causes of this condition.

Hope you get it sorted out.

LegacyUser

I think the doctor is correct.

Give it time. The little soldier will stand to attenshun once again.

secret_squirrel

I'd echo what most posters have said.

Its amazing how sensitive yer little fella can be to the smallest psychological issues, even ones you dont know about.

Lay off the **** for a while, worry about it when you next meet a woman.

daithiocondun

OK. Masturbating everyday, twice a day even does not affect ur boner or sex drive long term. It does though affect it short term. I.e.if u **** twice a day, it may take a day or two to restore ur sexual drive and juices. Take a break from **** for say a week and see does it make a difference. Masturbation has the same physical properties as sex... except its ur hand. So if u have sex everyday or twice a day its the same as **** everyday or twice a day. Hence, **** is no more dangerous than sex (STDs, pregnancy etc. aside).
The website is totally trying to sell sex remedies, the same as penis growth tablet websites promote monster sized penises.
The problem is probably lack of libido due to psychological blockage, mainly due to ur break up, but indeed any personal problems. It can be helped with councelling, viagra (short term) and possibly herbal therapies help (only from a competant, recommended herbalist. Relaxation exercises go a long way.

Get to know your body fully. Find something which really arouses you (no matter how apparantly perverted it is, legal things of course) like porn videas etc. Lie down and watch them alone, relaxed and where no one will disturb you. Become aroused as much as you can by slow masturbation and I guarantee a full erection should ensue followed by ejaculation. This must be done after you week of no masturbation in order to recieve its full effects.

Best of Luck!