why doesnt she like me

theguy86

im 20 and really like a girl i know,she says im great and really great looking,and how id be great for her amazing looking friend!!??,when im around sometimes she talks about other guys she likes,makes me think god why cant she like me that way??.. i know we'd/do get on great..but im afraid to say how i feel about her to her because i think she mite get weirded out..Its clear that i like her and i think she knows..
..im confused really..

aidan_walsh

Probably because since would appear that you have been doing the friend thing for as long as you have known her, that thats all she sees you as.

theguy86

ya i was thinking that..id treat her so well and i hate seeing her sad,but i guess im happy were friends wish it cud be more..Should i say anything to her?

Ruu_Old

I would just leave it as friends, you dont want a one sided relationship and thats probably all its going to be

theguy86

ya good point, its hard liking someone alot and them not liking you back.

Sony

yeah but at least try and find out how she feels about you liking her this way-you cant sit and wonder on the fence forever

Zombrex

theguy86 wrote:

im 20 and really like a girl i know,she says im great and really great looking,and how id be great for her amazing looking friend!!??,when im around sometimes she talks about other guys she likes,makes me think god why cant she like me that way??.. i know we'd/do get on great..but im afraid to say how i feel about her to her because i think she mite get weirded out..Its clear that i like her and i think she knows..
..im confused really..

Probably for the same reason you don't "like" everyone other girl you know appart from her.

Don't take it personally, and for the love of Allah, move on

Tobias Greeshman

Sounds like you've found yourself on the friend ladder.

She's viewed you as a friend for so long and has probably confided in you as well. Unless she's giving any signs that she might like you as well, then I'm afraid if you don't move on, you're going to get hurt.

oulu

I think she likes you more than a friend , why not test the water without causing a tidal wave

Sleepy

Ever think she might be in the exact same place? Just tell her.

Hugh Hefner

I see two possibilities: seeing as it's apparent that you like her, she's either a) trying to dissuade you by getting you with her friend and telling you she likes other guys or b) she's trying to play "hard to get" and possibly even make you jealous.

I say tell her you like her. If she's in anyway cool you can still be friends.

Chucky the tree

Hugh Hefner wrote:

b) she's trying to play "hard to get" and possibly even make you jealous.

How is the OP going out with one of the girls friends going to make the OP jealous?


Her talking about other fellas will. But i cant see the point in her going on about how he would be a great boyfriend for one of her best mates is a sign that she likes him. It seems a big hint that she doesnt like him that way and he should move on.

oulu

I think that is her way of finding out how he feels about her in a funny way, It seems a big hint that she doesnt like him that way and he should move on.[/QUOTE]

Hugh Hefner

Chucky the tree wrote:

How is the OP going out with one of the girls friends going to make the OP jealous?

Well that part won't make him jealous, the guy part will. The friend part is part of playing hard to get, by seeming like she's pushing him away.

They're only theories. It's not like any of use know this girl.

LegacyUser

Hey The Guy, I was very recently in the same situation as yourself, as in -confused about a girl!.

In fact, we got on so great etc. etc. for months, that I was sure as sure that it would work out. So, just to test the water, I flirted, told her she looked great, was sexy, funny, witty etc.. all of which she accepted without objection. And she laughed at my jokes & told me I was clever etc. too. (which I am by the way har har)

Anyway, I reached the point where I was 99% sure she was into me.
I literally would have booked the tickets if the resteraunt hadn't been closed that day.
So I phoned up, asked girl very simply out on a date, and guess what.....
Answer=NO, AND she apparently had NO IDEA!!! what I was thinking.

So here's my situation now: It is a bit weird. I think both of us handled it ackwardly....and Im really not sure whats going to happen...


So what can we learn from my sorry exploits?:
1. Basically, no matter what you do short of asking her out, there is at least a possibility she might not know.
(NOTE: I have no idea how many girls are like this)
2. No matter how many 'minor' signals you get (e.g. she says good looking/funny/clever), she may still not be into you in that way.
(NOTE: I do not know what a 'major'/'sell' signal would be???)
3. If you do ask her out, and you're wrong - you are spot on, it could get weird. Perhaps even end the friendship???

THE SOLUTION
I have no clue.
In my own humble opinion though, I would never leave it be without finding out. I wouldn't want to live with the regret of not knowing, and I would like to know in order to move on properly. But asking her out straight up could be trouble if you're wrong, so if somebody knows another way of finding out for definite without showing how you feel, heck I'd like to know too!

cournioni

I've been in the same situation guy86, tried it on with a girl who I know really really well. Had been in the same class as her from 1st class to the LC. She had been paying me loads of compliments on my looks and all of that so I decided why not?! What is the worst thing that could happen?

So anyway I chatted up and all of that, and then asked her to be with me. She said we are friends and that was all. It kind of baffled me at first but then I came to realise that, this is just how girls are. She still pays me the compliments to this day, so she probably does find me attractive but she will never be with me because we are and always have been friends. Shít for us lads, but it is just the way they are.

Juicebox

U should say something to her...lifes too short to hold back on this if u like her this much your gonna regret it...better out than in they say

Kell

theguy86 wrote:

makes me think god why cant she like me that way??.. i.

You're in the friend zone. Either that or she is a tease. Solution-

Bull + Horns + Pull = find out and end your confusion.

Jeebus, was it really that hard?

K-

fuzzywiggle

Tell her how you feel! She might surprise you!

Blub2k4

Would you rather you went on being her friend and never find out?
Or
Would you rather take a chance at being with her but with a strong possibility that it could go pear-shaped?

We cant make that call for you, it is down to the two choices above, sometimes when it comes to relationships it is best to take the chance, he who dares wins and all that.

Gilgamesh

completely agree with Blub,

I went through exactly this situation last January with my best mate.
I personally am not someone who likes to be in the dark in these things, so I thought screw it, and explained my feelings to that girl, and I got an answer.
Not the Answer I was hoping for of course, and it nearly caused one of my best friendships to be completely decimated (my fault a I listened to bad advise on how to react to her comments) but, we have sorted things out, and my view of things has also changed now, showing more interest in going out more with other people and stuff, and when we are together, I know where I stand, and I think the friendship has tightend much more now.


It has a lot to do about beeing honest to yourself.

I just don't like living a lie, as it can come to, as a lot a people who didn't know us, thought we were together whenwe were out, and the people who knew us, thought she was having an affair with me.


but ultimately it is up to you, if you can stomach a possible rejection from someone special, do it, and after a few months you will be back to normal again.

if not, the find a way how to deal with it, either way, I wish you good luck

theguy86

ive no idea really! i think i mite leave it to be honest..