A few q's

LegacyUser

Im very new to the scene but what i have experienced of it i find very am.... interesting...

Im 18 and when in the george i noticed how i seem to get a lot of attention from the older people in the who are in their 30's/40's and even 50's!!!! Is this usual for the scene for older guys geting with boys who are often half their age?? I didnt take to much notice of it at first but thinking back on it if it was an 18 year old girl who was with an 30/40 something year old man it would definatly be classed as perverted.... Whats your views on this??

I know this question is gonna sound really stupid but i was wondering when you kiss a fella in there is it generally expected that you will be going home together?? Its just that a few times i've been in there a but wasnt able to go home with/take anybody home and i've often ended up kissing people and i fell kinda bad that im leading them on then just ending it when i have to leave......

Hmm_Messiah

Older guys going with younger guys is more noticeable with gay people in my experience; whether it happens more is a different thing, could just be the circumstances gay people find themselves in, being a minority, minority behaviour withing that group is more noticeable.

Some people would react just the same as they wold to the young woman and middle aged man thing. Some see it as one of the many "types" people use on gaydar etc "young seeks older" "older seeks younger", "Bearchaser" etc etc etc.

In the past I have "worried about younger friends who ended up either with much older men, or being constantly hit on by the same older man. At same time 2 of my ex's were significantly younger so its kinda hypocrital of me

Re kissing:
You're 18, thats one big leap your making from kissing some one to going home with them. YOur night out could include just chatting, or dancing, or kissing or much more and still not put you under obligation to go home/have sex with some one. Don't ever allow any one make you feel obligated about somethign you either can't practically do,or more importantly don't want to

snappieT

Older guys do come on to you. Without being a prick, just ignore them. Having a friend with you that can come over and hug / kiss you to rescue you from a conversation with one is very handy. If you're into it, good and well, otherwise let them know that you aren't interested.
Guys are horny. If you just want to kiss, that's cool, if you want more, then that's fine too, as long as the other person is also interested. It's fine.

LegacyUser

Hmm_Messiah wrote:

Don't ever allow any one make you feel obligated about somethign you either can't practically do,or more importantly don't want to

sorry i also ment to write not to tell me that!! i know im not obliged to do anything i dont want bla bla bla but but i just wanted to know what is generally expected!! i feel like such a prick tease! so do most people expected to be going home with you if you kiss them?!?

thanks anyways for your opinion!

Stark

so do most people expected to be going home with you if you kiss them?!?

If they do,it's their business. It's not like you're obliged to meet their expectations.

carbonkid

so??? wrote:

so do most people expected to be going home with you if you kiss them?!?

Ive friends who will kiss like 4 or 5 guys in the one night and not take one of them home. If you feel bad about it, which you should'nt, you can give him your phone number. Dont ever go home with someone because you feel obliged to. Think how much better you'll feel the next morning waking up in your own bed!

Rock Climber

I wouldnt kiss someone unless I wanted to,no matter how drunk I was.
Thus kissing someone,tongue on tongue is usually an indication that I'll do more than that.
On the main point, its hard in places like the George to know if someone is being even the slightest bit sincere.
If your past the sleeping for kicks stage,I'd not sleep with any one night stands anymore really,I'd go for something a bit more deep and meaningfull (even if it only lasts a few weeks,after all you're looking for the one and shur that might take a lot of ahem trial and error )

I find the older you get the more *ahem* attractive older people get,but of course theres a cut off point..
I wonder when I'm 64 will I find someone 94 attractive I doubt it.

That said, if they are nice and you like them,hell yeah sleep with them but not on the first night ok

There are plenty of Fine Roides at 40 by the way.

Jack from lost is 40 https://i15.photobucket.com/albums/a363/wu_tvshows/Lost/Episodes/Solitary.jpg

And sawyer isnt far behind in his late 30's I think

Now theres a threesome,I'd be well on for