Oral Info! Please!

LegacyUser

I was in a relationship for 5 yrs which broke up 18mths ago. My old boyf was quiet and shy which is why we ended up apart because i blossomed into a woman! Anyway we never engaged in any oral sex...at all..never. I never thought this to be a problem , i suppose u cant miss what uve never had , but now im back on the dating scene my friemds cannot believe i have no exp in giving or recieving
Any advice/tips gratefully recieved!

Dreamer 7

First of all please dont feel your abnormal in any way because different people try new things at different times. R u in a relationship now? Does your new partner as you to engage in oral? The reason i ask is every guy and gal likes their oral in different ways. If u are in a relationship, ask him what he likes or dislikes. The same when he is experimenting on you its trial and error.#

If ur not in a relationship, maybe a fling with an oler guy to teach you the ropes??

Wolf

Asking openly is often a good way to go with any partner, even if it only casual.

If you don't feel comfortable with this, I would say be gental to begin with first off, altough some like it rough I suppose. Although, my main tip would be listen and watch how the person is reacting and continue or stop whatever you are doing at the time depending on how they are reacting.

Apart from that experiment is one of the main things. Try, tickling/stroking/licking different areas. People are into all different kinds of stuff and some are into some seriously werid sh!t tbh. Just play around and see what come's naturally. hehe Sorry, but, considering the post..... come's hehe

py2006

Well, if you have never done the oral to a guy may I be the first to say BE GENTLE! There is nothing worse than having teeth marks all over your digery-doo!!

Seriously though, there is nothing to it! Just go with the flow and you will eventually find out what you like/don't like and what he likes/doesn't like!

Hope this helps!

LegacyUser

you all seem v blaise about it like its so natural! am i a freak!! I was reading around this site and say the one about the guy shaving downstairs. Are the balls included in oral! Oh god i dont know where to begin. I was thinking of rnting a porn would that help or are they unrealistic??

chuckles30

Op - I know exactly how you feel - I've been there. So here's what I did and I found it worked for me. Take your time and wait until your comfortable in your relationship. Explain to your partner that you haven't done it and that you just need time - I guess I was lucky there in that I had a very understanding bf. When I felt comfortable enough with him, I suprised him one night with the flavoured condom and after that it was just a case of trial and error. Don't expect to be an expert on the first attempt and based on my experience he'll be delighted when you make the effort.

py2006

Don't think or plan it. Just go for it if you feel comfortable doing it! Nobody was born an expert!

Ever had an ice-pop before?

joebhoy1916

Newbie 06 wrote:

Are the balls included in oral! Oh god i dont know where to begin.

WTF

Khannie

I don't think that porn is a good way to go. If you're looking for some info, there are plenty of dvd's out there for teaching things like this. I remember a series in the 90's called "The Lovers Guide". I'm sure there are plenty of this kind of thing on amazon or play.com.

It's not that big a deal so don't be too concerned about it. At least you're being proactive.

onemanband

You should tell your BF that it is your first time. This will make it extra special for him and he should be willing to help you along.

LegacyUser

Like others have said, it's all trial & error.

(Mods, if this is too explicit for this Forum, just scrap it, & sorry if any offence)

What one of my BF's went crazy for, did absolutely nothing for the next guy, so I'd to learn my technique for him all over again.

some guys like the inside of their upper leg to be rubbed / tickled while you're doing it.
Some like their balls to be cupped / rubbed / slightly tugged / gently juggled while doing it
There's a sensitive area of skin between the sack & his anus that some guys likes to be gently prodded / rubbed
Some guys do like you to take their sack in your mouth as well (not at the same time obviously)
Some guys like you little finger stuck up their behind while you do it, cos apparently the male equivalent of the clit is located up there

What worked for my last guy was as follows (but i'm sorry, I'm prob not the best at describing it.)

He liked me to start of slow, just circling my tongue around the tip of his penis, whilst cupping the balls like I said above, & also slowly sliding my hand up & down his penis with the other hand.
When he's getting really into this, start sucking his penis, as in:- make an o shape with your mouth & lift you head up & down his penis, allowing as much of the penis to go into your mouth as is comfortable for you (you don't want it to be making you wretch) Also, allow a bit of suction to be made in your mouth.
The more turned on by this he's getting, speed it up.
When he gets close to the point of no return, just stop & go back to just circling your tongue around the tip of his penis again & lightly licking his shaft if he likes it, follow as above as many times as he can manage (or you, if you're getting tired) until he can't take any more & has to cum.

Never use your teeth (well unless he likes you to very gently rub them of him, or something like that)
Never pull too hard on the skin (I'm sure the lads could tell you a lot more DON'T DO'S!!)

If you're 100% certain the guy is STI free, then it's up to you whether or not you use a condom while giving oral (You can catch STI's this way)

If you decide you're happy & SAFE not to use a condom, then it's also up to you whether or not you allow him to come in your mouth.
All girls differ in this respect, so there's no right or wrong.

Some girls take it in their mouth, then spit it out,
Some girls swallow (perfectly safe to do so, again, provided no STI's)
Some girls stop giving oral just before the guy cums & just finish with thier hand so he doesn't cum in their mouth.
Some allow him to ejaculate on her face (a lot find this degrading)
Some allow him to cum on her breasts.

It's completely up to you.

Hope that's helped some.

Again, I'm sorry if it's too graphic.

Wolf

joebhoy1916 wrote:

WTF

If you don't have anything usfull to post, then don't.

As for watching porn and all that? Well I suppose it all depends on what you level, for want of a better word, you want to go for. Thing is some girls don't like giving oral and thats cool too. Don't stress too much, explain to whoever it is that you have never really done it before. Most lads are just quietly happy to be getting any action at all. So what ever you are comfortable with is the main thing.

just something i thought you might find useful. Art of Oral Sex

Dave!

Yeah I think that having a look at some porn would be your best bet.

LegacyUser

Thanks for all your info esp smokethebigpipe, a little graphic yes but exactly what i was looking for!. My new boyf is coming (hopefully literaly!) for dinner 2nite so im gonna try some of the tips.

Wish me luck!

Bluebells

If you dont know the guy very well stick to the willy leave the guys alone incase he's not into it, oh, and use a condom.

If its any help I curve my lips over my teeth to prevent any oweys for him. Keep it nice and slippy. Licking, teasing first (wouldnt spend too long on it). Use your hand aswell, move your mouth and hand up and down, getting harder and faster, and dont stop if you know he's enjoying it.
Just a suggestion...

Dreamer 7

Hey there Newbie
i think you have alot of info here to help you! even i learned something new!
The best of luck with it, if you are considering this with a new partner he must be special so enjoy it , its a voyage of discovery!

ps always ensure ur man is fresh and clean coz things can get quite cheesy down there

Sifo

OP - i wouldnt worry about that just yet, practice makes perfect tbh...




SmokeTheBigPipe - pm'd mobile number

charlesanto

Q: Descripe the worst B/J you ever recieved

A: Fantastic

BoozyBabe

I don't get it

Wolf

charlesanto wrote:

Q: Descripe the worst B/J you ever recieved

A: Fantastic

I have heard other lads say this before, but, in my experience I have only had good BJ's I'd say 2/3 times and to put that into perspective thats about 30% good ones.

EDIT

In response to the posts below.

I have heard other lads say this before, but, in my experience I have only had good BJ's I'd say 2 or 3 times and to put that into perspective thats about 30% good ones.

BoozyBabe

Wolf wrote:

I have heard other lads say this before, but, in my experience I have only had good BJ's I'd say 2/3 times and to put that into perspective thats about 30% good ones.

Ah, I get it now!!!:cool:

tSubh Dearg

Wolf wrote:

I have heard other lads say this before, but, in my experience I have only had good BJ's I'd say 2/3 times and to put that into perspective thats about 30% good ones.

Surely that's about 60% then?

Zulu

SmokeTheBigPipe - you should be giving courses!

joejoem

Deleted User wrote:

just something i thought you might find useful. Art of Oral Sex

Nice read. Wish I hadnt read it in work though....

daRobot

Condom for oral sex with a girlfriend??

Wouldn't put up with that personally...

>Smokethebigpipe

That's a nice skill set you got there

CoolGuy2006

daRobot wrote:

Condom for oral sex with a girlfriend??

Wouldn't put up with that personally...

>Smokethebigpipe

That's a nice skill set you got there

tell me, does the fact that you have a girlfriend mean that any STI's you may have are irrelevant. I have had many partners in the past and have always used a condom but have gived and recieved oral without any protection. However, after meeting my new longterm partner we decided before we move on we should get tested. It was a quick and easy proecess and now we believe we can have a carefree sex life, well as long as we are both faithful i suppose, which i dont see as being a problem. If we were to break up i would be alot safer even with regards to oral with new partners. getting the test done prior to starting a sexual relationship was probably one of the wiser and satisfying things i have done.

Anyway, many people believe that because the person they are sleeping with is now their "boyfriend" or "girlfiend" that there doesnt need to be a place for safety.

I know many male "friends" who have been with prostitues. Many different groups of males, it is more common than even i was aware, quite shocking really and they dont even hide it. I personally have had to bring my mate to get a aids test twice because of his adventures. I find myself a quite liberal person but i find it hard when i think about these guys lovely new girlfriends who have no i idea what their new boyfriends have been doing in the past.

Sorry for going a bit off topic, just wanted to highlight the fact that the title of "Girlfriend" or "boyfriend" is no protection

Girls should always insist on protection if they wish, so should guys.

daosulli

Newbie 06 wrote:

Thanks for all your info esp smokethebigpipe, a little graphic yes but exactly what i was looking for!. My new boyf is coming (hopefully literaly!) for dinner 2nite so im gonna try some of the tips.

Wish me luck!

Hey Newbie 06
Hope dinner went well last nite & I hope he returned the favour as well

LegacyUser

Sifo wrote:

SmokeTheBigPipe - pm'd mobile number

Zulu wrote:

SmokeTheBigPipe - you should be giving courses!

daRobot wrote:

>Smokethebigpipe

That's a nice skill set you got there

Ha Ha!
Why thankyou:)


Anyway, back to the Op, how'd you get on last night? Did you try anything, or atleast have a chat to your man?
Hope all worked out for you

LegacyUser

Yes it tried it, yes it was fun! A little bit of guidance and i was away! I never realised i could feel so horny doing something for someone else! wow im converted and yes he returned the favour it was delicious!:)

Wolf

Great, to see you so happy and that you enjoyed it as well

As I am sure he did as well, No Doubt

Huraa! Another satisfied customer/s