Sexy chat online

LegacyUser

Im goin unreg for this becoz i havent told anyone about this not even my best friend!
I work in a slow paced job which leaves me surfing the net alot. I have started msning a few guys for sexy chat. Each guy knows me by a different name and none of them know my real name. I explore fantasies etc with these guys (no meetings just chat) however if my man found out he would be horrified!
I know i should stop but i cant help myself, i get off on the power i feel chatting to these guys and knowing i could have them if i wanted. Its got to the stage where i have 4 differnt names and email addresses, each guy has been told a different version of my life and its getting confusing.
If you knew me you would never guess i have secret lives like this, i am quite reserved in real life.
One guy in particular who i have been chatting to wants to meet up and live out a fantasy we share. Im tempted but have never been unfaithful. Why dont i try these out with my partner of 6 yrs? Beacuse im embarrassed!

Do i forget my online mates and concentrate on my man?
Or do i walk on the wild side for a while???

sachamama

minx by name is right! if you do want to play online thats fine, but i think the first thing you should do is drop the fake stories, and the confusion. pick one background and stick to it, that will save you the anxiety. (keep the many names though if you like doing that!)

there is a big difference between playing cybersex and meeting someone for sex. its a different league altogether. if you are already feeling anxious, its going to make everything worse. and it could be a real disappointment too, or worse, you could catch an STD. the power of fantasy is tremendous and if you get really good at it, it can superceed the real thing.

you say you are quite reserved in life. maybe you want to change something there instead, rather than having all of your satisifaction in secret. some ideas for you could be: -
the spring fashion lines are out now, go buy yourself something new and different, something sexy that you wouldnt normally wear and wear it to work!
book a night out for your boyfriend doing something you dont normally do - clubbing, etc.
buy yourself some sexy underwear and start to feel good more openly.
get a new haircut, dye your hair

its springtime! enjoy yourself !

DublinWriter

Sometimes you have to lose yourself to find yourself.

Pigman II

Meh , wouldn't bother me to know my GF was doing that (as long as chat was as far is went). So how do you know your man would be horrified? Is he some kind of prig?

Also are you doing this because of the sex aspect or just because you prefer being in control? Sounds more like the latter to me as you clearly have issues about getting what you want in 'the real world'.

You might as well ask your BF (or at least hint at it) to try the stuff you have in mind before running off to random stranger. BTW have you and 'this guy' exchanged photos yet? You (and/or he) could be unpleasantly surprised if not.

Kiera

It’s the internet and they are probably doing the same as you. They could even be dirty old men for all you know. Yes you may be having a bit of fun but if it was my other half that was doing this and I found out I’d be seriously píssed off. Try giving it up and spice up your relationship by telling your man these fantasies.

Beruthiel

Pigman II wrote:

Is he some kind of prig?.

there's no call for that comment.
some people would find this uncomfortable, it's not everyones cup of tea, that doesn't make him a prig.

oh and minx
people lie on the internet all the time, I would bet a months wages that at least one if not all of these guys are fat, hairy, ugly blokes with drool down the side of their chins.
Are chained to their basement computers, haven't seen a woman since the dawn of time, are surrounded by pizza cartons and beer cans, **** stains on the walls and enough porn mags to paper a whole city.

Drummerboy2

Get yourself a bottle of wine on way home from work. Set up a nice athmosphere at home and live out the fantacies with your partner. I'm sure you will get over the embarrassment and your partner will be absolutely delighted. Go for it, life is too short to waste on fantasies

Pighead

Yeah you tell him Beruthial,. Absolutely disgraceful use of the word prig there by Pigman 11.
Whats a prig?

On topic Pighead would urge the OP to PM me immediately so we can discuss this further away from the deviants, cheap thrill seekers and prigs.

Beruthiel

pighead
you don't post often in here, so consider this a warning, keep it strictly on topic or bannings will be handed out.
have a read of the forum charter.
thanks
B

LegacyUser

He He u guys make me laugh! The one guy who wants to meet up i have seen him on a webcam he is my age and works local to me too.

I dont think my desire would be the same with my partner, i adore him but the raw animal desire to fvck isnt there with him

If i was to meet the guy ive seen it would be for a 3some, but i havent an idea about the 2nd girl.
All these ideas excite me greatly but could i actually go thru with it?? I dont know

Rogueish

OP,

You can be online and chat to strangers and you can chat to some really sound/cool people but really the whole fantasy thing has been taken a bit too far.

And no I'm not a prude but at the same time you are considering cheating on your partner of 6yrs with a faceless person. The only things you know about him is basically whatever bull***t he may have fed you and what turns him on. You are feeling guilty about it already and you haven't physically done anything about it yet. What are you gonna feel like if you go through with it?

Even though you have not physically cheated on your partner you are mentally and emotionally cheating on him. How can you expect to have a fulfilling reality and fantasy life with your partner if you aren't plugged 100% into the relationship?

You'd never know your partner may be pleasantly surprised by this other side to your personality. Close your email accounts and MSN accounts and try sending your partner a sexy email instead of these nameless faceless blokes and see how he reacts.

There is also a question you have to ask yourself. Do you still love your partner enough to try to make things work past this fantasy infidelity? If not it may be more worth your while to finish with him before you meet any of these strangers. Your partner doesn't deserve to be cheated on.

Oryx

OP, if you meet one of these guys irl, it is a whole other ball game (pardon the pun) to exchanging fantasies online. Yes, he could be a dirty, ugly old perv, or he could be fantastic. Either way your setting yourself up for complications. Afterwards you could feel guilty and ashamed, you may not be able to let this person go, you may get caught, you could get an std which would be difficult to explain at home! There is a REALLY small chance that you will get what you need out of this, and feel empowered by it, raw animal sex and all... but thats a really small chance, and will surely be outweighed by the minuses involved.

Oh and the only way to avoid the temptation of this is to cancel the msn accounts... if you continue you will only keep winding yourself up and be tempted. As has been said, get drunk, let loose and tell your partner whats on your mind...;-)

Blub2k4

Which is worse?

Taking a chance and telling your partner and possibly enriching your sex life and your relationship, with a minor bit of embarrassment?

or

Cheating on your man?


Most men would seriously get off on a woman who knows what she wants and asks for it, honestly, men are sick of always having to make the moves and the chances are he'll be turned on as hell, take the chance there before you **** it all up by cheating, if he wont play ball decide what to do but dont write it off before you try it.
If it's only a case of needing the forbidden then play a proper fantasy and meet outside somewhere with your man and play as if you have only meet for the first time.....you never know how it might spice it up for you.

Oryx

Just wanted to add, I dont think theres any such thing as no strings sex, and I guarantee you, it wont be as clean and uncomplicated as you want it to be. Plus it will be real life, with smell, sound and body fluids... fantasies dont have that kind of grubby detail, and it may not be as wonderful as you thought!:rolleyes: Im deliberately avoiding all moral issues here, you know what your contemplating and you know your own concience.

Kell

Online Minx wrote:

Its got to the stage where i have 4 differnt names and email addresses, each guy has been told a different version of my life and its getting confusing.
If you knew me you would never guess i have secret lives like this, i am quite reserved in real life.
One guy in particular who i have been chatting to wants to meet up and live out a fantasy we share.

:rolleyes:

You're a basket case. Admit this to yourself.

If you are planning/acting out/thinking of having it off with some random stranger rather than your BF of six years, you are six cans short of a six pack.

Online Minx wrote:

i get off on the power i feel chatting to these guys and knowing i could have them if i wanted

Not so intelligent or powerful if one of these guys turns out to be a deviant and you find your twat being broadcast over the tinternet to swarms of deviant onlookers. Or perhaps that gets you off too. Hmmn.

Ooh, while I think of it. You know your decision is already made. Why the need to come here to have other people validate your idiocy?

K-

LegacyUser

Ooh, while I think of it. You know your decision is already made. Why the need to come here to have other people validate your idiocy? - Kell

Actually i have made no decision, and there is no need to be a prick about it.
I cam here for advice not for my personality to slated.

It must be lonely Kell being so fvcking perfect

Blub2k4

Minx, hit the report post button, dont rise to such an obvious troll.

Victor

Mod Warning to all: Ok, take it easy folks.

Kiera

You cant expect everyone to be on your side and you did ask for peoples opinions by posting your problem so you cant really have a go at people for not saying what you want to hear!

Cake Fiend

While Kell put it a bit more bluntly than I would, he's got a point - if you really are having trouble deciding between cheating on this person who has stuck with you for 6 years, and asking this same person (who presumably would be interested in doing something that would make you happy) to indulge a fantasy, then maybe you require more help (or a different kind of help) than this forum can provide.

Kell

Online Minx wrote:

Actually i have made no decision, and there is no need to be a prick about it.

I wasnt. Just spelling out the fact that if you are even pondering it, then there is something wrong with your relationship.

Put it this way- if I came on here telling the same story and asked should I go plough a new field so I could fulfil a fantasy, you would have every female boardster tear me a new hole for being such an ass.

Same applies.

K-

jcoote

i'd go for it **** it...if your straying ur not 100% commited or fulfilled by your current fella so go and explore and get yourself a few cool stories to tell...best craic you'll ever have

PI can be a very mellowdramatic place a times

sachamama

i think she is just asking our permission to do what she wants to anyway.