what the ****?????????????

pepper

Ok this sounds SO weird but here i go..

My cousin(male) is gay- we all know it- only he wont admit it to us- though he knows hes gay.

Anyway basically he stayed with me the other night and i was in the kitchen making tea when the phone rang- i answered and it was a man looking for my cousin- i passed him the phone and went back in to the kitchen

Now i wasnt evesdropping but i heard my cousin say something that made me drop my cup. He was advising his male friend to hide his gayness from his gf by" drugging her and pretending hed had sex with her"

Now i dont know if he was joking or not but it freaked the hell outta me!!!!

fade2black

I'm not too sure what you're expecting us to say to ya...

pepper

fade2black wrote:

I'm not too sure what you're expecting us to say to ya...

just saying should i be worried

fade2black

Well I dunno what you should be worried about but this guy's girlfriend certainly should be warned off.

You say you don't know whether or not he was joking, ask him. Say you heard what he said and gage his reaction as to whether or not he was serious. If he was you can do the whole you tell her or I will thing that you see in home and away and such programmes.

Esel

pepper wrote:

just saying should i be worried

You should be very worried if:

1. You are male

and

2. You accept any food/drink prepared/handled by your cousin.

:eek:

pepper

what i mean by that is if hes advising his friends to do it he must of done it before- and he used to date my best friend so im worried he did it to her

passive

... That's pretty damn stupid.

Fighting Irish

I would let these people solve their own problems

pisslips

MAybe your friend was joking, just maybe
I would say similar things and then laugh at my friend if he actually did it.
People can be sleezey, here's some of my top sleeezey quotes from friends;
4)Ah, that's disgusting, I hate seeing a woman eat
3)I didn't ride her but a lot of oral stuff happened
2) [said to unwilling girl]I'm just gonna put the condom on, if you don't wanna do anything it's grand
1)[said to best (attractive) friend] Do you realise I'm on a boner?
Just thought i'd add that cos I thought it was funny.

justsomebloke

Ye i would ask your cousin and gage what is reaction is. If he is telling the truth yes chances are he has done it in the past and will be doing it in the future and anything could happen to the girls that you cousin is druging and advising others to drug aswell.

If it is true the least of your worried would be when your cousin will out of the closet, i would be more worried that his actions could be lead him to drug and rape others

Boston

It's a bit of a jump from what you heard, to him doing htis to your friend. Thats said spiking people is very dangerous and if you bother was serious he's an arsehole. Challange him about it, and tell that girl if you think it's true.

Talliesin

Personally, I'd have thrown him out of my residence as soon as I heard that.

Oryx

If hes so hung up on hiding his sexuality that hes willing to drug people to cover the fact, the guy is a complete mess. Or he could just have a really sick sense of humour. But fact is, a friend of his IS hiding his sexuality from a gf, so maybe he needs to meet different gay fellas who are 'out' and comfortable with who they are? Where is this lack of confidence coming from anyway. Would his family/friends be freaked out?

Kinetic^

You need to tell the girl, if she's drugged (god know's with what), it could have a bad affect on her. It's complete madness to do something like that and the personin question is a sick ****er. Tell the girl man, you know it's the right thing to do.

chump

You've no idea in what context it was said.
I'd bet it was a gag of some sort...

Keep your nose out of his business

It could also have been a gag at your expense, because he knows you're a nosy SO-and-SO and he was catching you out listening to him.

Boston

Put it this way, if yo udon't challange him about this, and some girl looses her job/ crashes a car/ has a nasty reaction as a result of being under the invulence, how torn up will you be about it then?

LegacyUser

pepper wrote:

just saying should i be worried

I think you need to asses the fact that you need to be told wether you should be worried or not. Start a nee thread?

As for the comment your friend made it could have been in another context.

Bloke one " Jesus my missus is getting well agnsty over the fact I don't bone her much these days"

Your friend "Sure drug her and tell her you did"

The fact he maybe, didnt laugh out loud or any thing could be the terms in which he and the friend get a long and converse.

If I was pulled over every time I said I was going to kill some one or was heard describing what I would like to do some person I don't like ... over the phone... I would be doing this post from a prison somehwere.

franksm

it's a perversion of the date-rape scenario.
despicable !

pepper

Keyser Soze 5 wrote:

You need to tell the girl, if she's drugged (god know's with what), it could have a bad affect on her. It's complete madness to do something like that and the personin question is a sick ****er. Tell the girl man, you know it's the right thing to do.

I AM A GIRL NOT A MAN

pepper

I told him that I heard him- he FREAKED OUT, called me a nosy **** and stormed off out the door

Any ideas????????

Ive asked my friend and she said "she,d a few times with him when she couldnt remember nothing from the night before"

By The Way i didnt tell her about the drugging-I just asked if she,d rememberd having sex with him and thats the answer I got

She asked wat it ment and i said id had a few blank nights after sex recently- she believed me thankfully

justsomebloke

ye that doesn't sound liek the reply of somebody who was either messing or testing to see if you where being nosy. So you are probably going to have to properly confront him to find out properly if it is true or not as it is a serious matter if he is doing it and is telling other to do it aswell.
At that point you may want to tell your friend but make sure first as she may not believe you and it may cause a rift between the 2 of yous

LegacyUser

He 'may' have drugged a girl, not slept with her, and then tried to convince her that he actually did indeed sleep with her.... is that right?


So the girl 'may' have woken up, not rembering a thing and when told they had indeed had sex the night before, this girl didn't question him, or become concerned at the fact that she had no memory of the event??????

If I woke up, couldn't remember a thing from the night before, and my boyfriend told me we had indeed had sex I would be extremely concerned, to put it lightly, and I certainly wouldn't just accept the fact and forget about it.


To conclude - I don't believe your cousin has done this.

zippo22

pepper wrote:

Ok this sounds SO weird but here i go..

My cousin(male) is gay- we all know it- only he wont admit it to us- though he knows hes gay.

Anyway basically he stayed with me the other night and i was in the kitchen making tea when the phone rang- i answered and it was a man looking for my cousin- i passed him the phone and went back in to the kitchen

Now i wasnt evesdropping but i heard my cousin say something that made me drop my cup. He was advising his male friend to hide his gayness from his gf by" drugging her and pretending hed had sex with her"

Now i dont know if he was joking or not but it freaked the hell outta me!!!!

I'm finding it hard to believe a word of this post.

dawballz

pisslips wrote:

MAybe your friend was joking, just maybe
I would say similar things and then laugh at my friend if he actually did it.
People can be sleezey, here's some of my top sleeezey quotes from friends;
4)Ah, that's disgusting, I hate seeing a woman eat
3)I didn't ride her but a lot of oral stuff happened
2) [said to unwilling girl]I'm just gonna put the condom on, if you don't wanna do anything it's grand
1)[said to best (attractive) friend] Do you realise I'm on a boner?
Just thought i'd add that cos I thought it was funny.

I lol'd.

Boston

If your brother would do that to someone, is he really someone you want around you? The attitude is "If you're in a tight spot, and you don't want to be a man about it, mess someone else up instead". From what you've said it sounds like he drugged your friend in the past. For all you know this is how he gets laid on a friday night, if he doesn't give you some answers soon, I really think you need to take this to the gardi.

pepper

LiouVille wrote:

If your brother would do that to someone, is he really someone you want around you? The attitude is "If you're in a tight spot, and you don't want to be a man about it, mess someone else up instead". From what you've said it sounds like he drugged your friend in the past. For all you know this is how he gets laid on a friday night, if he doesn't give you some answers soon, I really think you need to take this to the gardi.

my brother??????- its my cousin not my brother

LegacyUser

pepper wrote:

my brother??????- its my cousin not my brother

it didnt happen, he was joking, you picked up wrong.

Boston

pepper wrote:

my brother??????- its my cousin not my brother

sure which ever, if you believe he's druging people, and you don't tell the gardi, you can be done to.

zippo22

sillysausage wrote:

it didnt happen, he was joking, you picked up wrong.

I don't think it happened either. (The phone call I mean!).

Boston

zippo22 wrote:

I don't think it happened either. (The phone call I mean!).

You're some kind of muppet. Why post in a thread just to say you think the OP is full of ****e? Are you that bored?

pepper

OF COURSE HALF OF YOU DONT BELIEVE IT- your lives are so PERFECT you think most of the problems on here are bull****

Dont you have some diamond rings to return?

zippo22

LiouVille wrote:

sure which ever, if you believe he's druging people, and you don't tell the gardi, you can be done to.

Talliesin

pepper wrote:

I told him that I heard him- he FREAKED OUT, called me a nosy **** and stormed off out the door

Result!

pepper wrote:

Any ideas????????

Does he stay often enough to have a key? If so, change the locks.

Faith

pepper wrote:

OF COURSE HALF OF YOU DONT BELIEVE IT- your lives are so PERFECT you think most of the problems on here are bull****

Dont you have some diamond rings to return?

Whoa there, that's out of order. Plenty of people believe you and have been trying to help you. You seem to have several threads going on P.I. at the moment where you want everyone else to solve YOUR problems. People are being kind and offering their advice and this is how you thank them? If you don't like what you're hearing, stop posting on P.I. and try and sort out your life yourself.