How to break up

cheeky_guy · 20-03-2006 12:55pm #1

Hi im a 23 year old male living and working in Dublin and i want to break up with this girl (22) that ive been seeing for the last few weeks.

I met her out one night in Temple Bar and was with her a good bit of the time since. Have been seeing her for about a month but i kind of decided on Patricks day that i didnt really want so see her anymore. Nothing to do with her but ive just sort of lost interest. Unfortunately she seems to have only gotten fonder of me even though ive tried to keep it as casual as possible as i find relationships somewhat scary and am problady a bit immature for my age when it comes to that sort of thing.

Ive told her ive been down the country sick (even though im in work in Dublin)for the last couple of days and im just after getting a loving text off her there and now i need a way to break it to her gently as she is really nice and i do like her, i just dont want to go out with her anymore.

Can anybody give me any suggestions because i really need some.

Cheers!"

P.S. Breaking up to her face is not an option!

LundiMardi · 20-03-2006 1:01pm

send her a link to this thread.

Just send her a text, it's not as if you're engaged, it's only been a few weeks.

''listen, i'm not really ready for a relationship at the moment, sorry, i hope i didn't lead you on at all, it was nice knowing ya, now fúck off!!''

White Rabbit · 20-03-2006 1:01pm

cheeky_guy wrote:

P.S. Breaking up to her face is not an option!

Why not? Coward?

kjt · 20-03-2006 1:04pm

White Rabbit wrote:

Why not? Coward?

Agreed!

justsomebloke · 20-03-2006 1:06pm

oh for feck sakes will you ever grow a set and break up with her to her face. If you say you like her at least have the dignity to explain why you are breaking up with her face to face,

If you do want to break up with why not just txt her telling her that you don't want to see her again and turn off your phone so she can't get back in contact with you.
She will think you are a w@nker, cause you would be, but the deed would be done.

ST* · 20-03-2006 1:08pm

cheeky_guy wrote:

Hi im a 23 year old male living and working in Dublin and i want to break up with this girl (22) that ive been seeing for the last few weeks.. P.S. Breaking up to her face is not an option!

Just tell her for godsake. You will only hurt her more by letting it drag on.
Breaking up that way is cowardly btw.

LundiMardi · 20-03-2006 1:17pm

jeez people relax, he's only known her for a few weeks, a text is perfectly fine.

tylrpower · 20-03-2006 1:20pm

Have you got another bird in Line

Tim06 · 20-03-2006 1:23pm

LundiMardi wrote:

jeez people relax, he's only known her for a few weeks, a text is perfectly fine.

course it is. the one that you suggested earlier in the thread should do fine, well without the last part obviously!

cheeky_guy · 20-03-2006 1:26pm

Ok well i just texted her there anyway

"Marie i hope this doesnt come as a shock but i dont think im ready for this relationship, or any in fact. Im sorry its not you its just me and the way i am."

Hope that was ok

cheeky_guy · 20-03-2006 1:28pm

Oh **** i just called her 'Marie' in the text message and her names 'Maria' and she hates been called Marie. Oops!

Faith · 20-03-2006 1:34pm

I can think of about 3 things wrong with that text, the worst being "It's not you, it's me". I mean, you're 23 years old and you couldn't tell her to her face? Or even have the balls to ring her?

LundiMardi · 20-03-2006 1:36pm

everyday people are asked out via text, but then people start crying because the ''relationship'' is broke off via text:rolleyes:

OP: Don't worry about it, it's done now. Time to move on.

0utshined · 20-03-2006 1:37pm

Why couldn't you have said that to her face?

You're right, you are quite immature when it comes to this.

kittenkiller · 20-03-2006 1:38pm

Not the most graceful way of doing it, but at least it's done now.
I doubt you need to worry about her wanting you back, calling a girl the wring name'll do that!

*clap clap*

s10 · 20-03-2006 1:44pm

brightened up my day no end.

Sifo · 20-03-2006 1:53pm

cheeky_guy wrote:

Oh **** i just called her 'Marie' in the text message and her names 'Maria' and she hates been called Marie. Oops!

priceless

ah sure ye barely know the girl

cheeky_guy · 20-03-2006 2:15pm

Well im not actually that immature because ive aggreed to meet her in town tonight to give her her top back. (Dam top forgot about that) :mad:

So i could be getting a slap yet

LundiMardi · 20-03-2006 2:23pm

cheeky_guy wrote:

Well im not actually that immature because ive aggreed to meet her in town tonight to give her her top back. (Dam top forgot about that) :mad:

So i could be getting a slap yet

ouch, you never quite thought it through did you?

Well at least you didn't suggest posting it to her!

Zombrex · 20-03-2006 2:34pm

cheeky_guy wrote:

Hope that was ok

Er, no it wasn't ok.

You should have sucked it up and meet her. You are supposed to be trying to make the easier on her, not you.

cheeky_guy · 20-03-2006 3:37pm

ouch, you never quite thought it through did you?

Well at least you didn't suggest posting it to her!

Erm....

LundiMardi · 20-03-2006 3:45pm

please tell me you didn't?

Oh man, you're my new hero!! ha ha, that's gas!:D

cheeky_guy · 20-03-2006 5:03pm

Oh my god i got a text off her saying we will go for a friendly drink tonight when i meet her with the top.

Now ive just got another text off her saying she has forgotten the key of her house and cant get in and needs to stay with me tonight. And that she will sleep on the chair in my room!!!!!

*Switches phone off til tomorrow* :eek:

LundiMardi · 20-03-2006 5:05pm

cheeky_guy wrote:

Oh my god i got a text off her saying we will go for a friendly drink tonight when i meet her with the top.

Now ive just got another text off her saying she has forgotten the key of her house and cant get in and needs to stay with me tonight. And that she will sleep on the chair in my room!!!!!

*Switches phone off til tomorrow* :eek:

jaysus, that's sounds a bit weird and very coincidental alright.. better keep all scissors locked up and your balls tucked safely away.

tylrpower · 20-03-2006 5:08pm

you got yourself a Bunny boiler!!!!!! your not going to make it through the night!:D

Boston · 20-03-2006 5:10pm

cheeky_guy wrote:

*Switches phone off til tomorrow* :eek:

I laughed so hard it hurts. Jesus man. At least you know when she's trying to play yea.

cheeky_guy · 20-03-2006 5:21pm

I just pray to god she wont turn up at my door tonight, she knows where i live and all

What will i do if she does??

Ive a feeling sending someone else out to tell her im not here is not going to work!!

Boston · 20-03-2006 5:30pm

Heres what you do, you go and meet her, you sleep with her, and then you kick her out in the morning. That or get a locks smith to fix her door.

Alternatively you could be straight with the girl and tell her you don't want to sleep with her, and even if you did sleep with her, your mind is made up.

LundiMardi · 20-03-2006 5:33pm

cheeky_guy wrote:

I just pray to god she wont turn up at my door tonight, she knows where i live and all What will i do if she does??

Ive a feeling sending someone else out to tell her im not here is not going to work!!

just send her a text saying you don't think it's appropriate that she stay with you tonight given the circumatances. But do meet her and give her her top back and then run, run like the wind!!!

skywalker · 20-03-2006 5:51pm

LiouVille wrote:

I laughed so hard it hurts. Jesus man. At least you know when she's trying to play yea.

That post made me lol too. This just got interesting.

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