Don't Know What to do

LegacyUser

I'm not even sure where to start.

I had been in my old job for 4 years, and I have to admit I was very very good at it. However, I just got fed up of lack of support from my boss ( everyone in the office complained of the same thing, so it wasn't just me) and started looking for another job.

I eventually found what looked to be a very prestigious job with a supposedly fantastic company, but in a different area of the business.
Since I've started there, about 6 weeks ago, its been pure hell. The guy I work with is a nightmare, changes things without telling me so I look like an idiot, makes mistakes and makes me correct them so that it looks like I made them, and generally puts a lot of pressure on me.

Whenever I make a mistake, he gets really pissed off after I ask for help with it, and makes it obvious that he's not talking to me, or else snaps at me when I ask a question. As a result, I'm feeling very stressed and upset all the time - which leads to me forgetting stuff or making mistakes, which just make things worse.

I know I could do the job if I was working with someone else, but I just cannot work with this guy. So much so that only after 6 weeks in the job, I've already started applying for other positions.

Am I doing the right thing? I can't even think clearly at the moment - my weekends are spent panicking over stuff that I should have done / afraid I did wrong / am going to do wrong.

I can't think of any possible way to resolve the issue without just leaving for a job that I think I could be happy in.

Victor

Talk to your boss. Say that it isn't working out with the other guy, its putting stress on both of you and the work is suffering. Ask for his advice and support and say that you will review things in say two weeks.

Plastic Scouser

jobworries wrote:

I can't think of any possible way to resolve the issue without just leaving for a job that I think I could be happy in

I can really sympathise with you, as I have been in this position before myself.

I left a job I was very good at, in a company that I really liked working for, with people I enjoyed working with - I had come to the conclusion (justified I think) that there wasn't really a chance for career progression there so it was time to move on.

I thought my new job would be a great career move but I wasn't even there a week before I realised that no matter how good the move on paper, I hated the place!

The atmosphere was awful and the boss was horrible, and showed no respect for his employees.

As I could only see myself getting more and more miserable if I stayed there I decided I had to leave as soon as I could.

So I left almost immediately!

I really don't think it looks as bad on your CV as you might expect. I think everybody has made a career mistake at least once in their lifetime and I think if you just explain to your next employer that the job wasn't what you expected (i.e. don't slag off the company or your boss no matter how tempting!) then you won't have a problem getting another job.

Seeing as we spend so much of our lives at work I don't think anybody should have to work somewhere that makes them so unhappy.

Sure, we all have days where we wish we didn't have to get up & go to work, and sometimes our job drives us mad, but we should not have to put up with a job that makes us so unhappy that we worry and get upset about it all through the weekend too!

Good luck!

Ruu_Old

you have 2 choices, either put up with it or talk to your boss or another workmate you think you can trust. i wish you the best of luck in sorting it out

redman

My advice would be to try and communicate your unhappiness.

But don't put up with it for much longer if it's not going to change. There are good jobs out there for good people. Happiness is crucial in your job, we are only on this planet for so long ! Not acting on this will drag you down.

Don't worry about the CV, if it is small enough gap between jobs in time it won't have to appear on your CV at all.

Don't put up with your unhappiness, think, communicate, listen and then act. Be decisive and it will turn around.

Life is one big job hunt for a lot of people and sometime you will get lucky and will find the right match. Keep looking.

LegacyUser

Thanks for the replies.

After thinking about it a bit, I've decided to just look for something else. I've just been worrying myself sick over this for the past few days - I can't think straight at all so that's just making my situation worse.

My boss isn't the most approachable of people and even if he was, there is a major personality clash between myself and my co-worker so I doubt there's much my boss can do. Because we are in quite senior positions, he just expects us to get on with it.

I'm really just too unhappy working there, so I'm just going to try and find another job. I hate the thoughts of doing this because it makes me feel like I'm 'running away' from the problem, and plus it points out that I made the wrong decision in leaving my old job, but as well as not getting on with my co-worker, its also just an area of the business I don't feel suited to.

Victor

jobworrries wrote:

plus it points out that I made the wrong decision in leaving my old job

No, changing jobs after a few years is not a blameable mistake.

redman

jobworrries wrote:

I hate the thoughts of doing this because it makes me feel like I'm 'running away' from the problem, and plus it points out that I made the wrong decision in leaving my old job

Nonsense, the people who would say the above would be more likely those who are too insecure to move and look around. If you have flexibility to move again then do it, some do get constrained with family circumstances and the like which are understandable.

No one has a hold over how to lead your career, you are going with your gut instincts which is a often the best approach.

Don't have any regrets about leaving the last job or this one.
You are better informed now as you now know the outcome, if you had stayed where you were you would never have known.

Be positive and move on to the next one. It WILL work out.:)

Redman

Cake Fiend

Have you at least confronted your coworker about his attitude? He sounds like he's deliberately bullying you to make himself feel better; most bullies will back down if they're stood up to. Either that or he mightn't even realize what a prick he's being.