Ex still contacting boyfriend

Psychic Lady

I need some advice, my boyfriends ex girlfriend is still texting him every so often. They split up over 2 and a half years ago.

We where out together one night and she seen us and decided to text him which I think was to piss me off which it did a bit. She has text him a couple of times since just asking how he is and what he's up to at xmas and new year and on his birthday.

I trust my boyfriend completely and he will tell me when she texts him and he dosen't reply to her but it's starting to get to me now abit.

Any advice please

laluna

bar her number from his phone

Psychic Lady

He has deleted her number already from his phone, can you bar people from ringing you I didn't know you could?

Nevyn

Laluna I suggest you go and read the charter for this forum and abide by the rues in it while posting here.

Psychich Lady you can't tell people who to be friends with.
The issue here is your jealousy. If you have a problem with your bf being
friends with his ex then you need to sort it out.
If i saw any of my firends out with a new bf/gf I certainly would get in touch with them to see how they were.

Angels

As the girlfriend your always going to have doubts about his exe's. Now she obviously knows this & is succeeding in trying to wind you up.

Don't let this get to you (ex girlfriends can be right jealous btiches)

You need to go one better & ignore the fact that shes texting him. If he doesn't respond to her texts you've got nothing to worry about cause she'll eventually get sick of sending him texts.

Your better than her shes just a sad ex who needs to get over your boyf.

BoozyBabe

I really don't know your situation so it might be completely different to mine BUT:-
I broke up with a boyfriend over 5 years ago. We were each others first love & went out for 4 years.
We both started dating someone else not long after that & both of these turned into long term relationships also.

Thing is though we still text each other a good bit (just how are you keeping, hope things are well type stuff). Nothing on either part was intended apart from what was being typed. I never did it to piss off his gf , nor did he to my bf.
We even all met up on a few occasions (me, him & gf & lots of mutual friends)
Eventually the texts died out, but then occasionally emailed each other for the same reasons.....
They've since died out too.

Reason:- We were a big part of each others life, shared everything with him for along time, he was my best friend. Even though we were no longer dating, those things hadn't changed.
We never had any intention of getting back together, just weren't ready to let go of the friendship just then either.

In your situation, the texting on her part could be just as innocent as that.
If I'd have thought that his gf had a prob with me saying hello & wanted him to completely cut all contact, I'd have thought she was being V childish.

Don't let it get to you.
(But like I said, I don't know your situation at all, just telling you mine!)

I'm with thaed on this one - get over yourself.
I'm friends and in contact with all my exes, save maybe one.
Stop being so jealous.

Civilian_Target

What bluewolf said. I'm still in contact with my exes, we're friends, and we talk, text and get along on nights out like friends do.

The problem lies with you. You say you trust your boyfriend completely, but if you're posting here about this, then you obviously don't.

Ickle Magoo

I'm still friends with a couple of my ex's after bumping into them again yrs after our relationship ended & my husband still speaks to a couple of his ex's....I don't see the problem.....your b/f has obviously picked you over his ex, he's been honest & upfront about her texts so I don't really see why you would have an issue with her texting your man & him ignoring the texts & telling you about it....

Psychic Lady

Ok I admit i am jealous that shes still texting him. But from what i know about her I think shes doing it to cause trouble between us. She was very bad to him and he got hurt alot by her. And I do trust him completely no matter what some of you may think it's her who's getting at me.

Angel thanks for your comment:)

metrovelvet

Thaedydal wrote:

Laluna I suggest you go and read the charter for this forum and abide by the rues in it while posting here.

Psychich Lady you can't tell people who to be friends with.
The issue here is your jealousy. If you have a problem with your bf being
friends with his ex then you need to sort it out.
If i saw any of my firends out with a new bf/gf I certainly would get in touch with them to see how they were.

Your friend maybe,not your ex. Its none of your business. Theres a different history, though I do agree you cant tell people who to be friends with.

Angels

Your welcome Psychic Lady:)

Lux23

I don't really think there is a major its just a girl being a bit of a bitch. I text and email a couple of my ex-boyfriends and I have no interest in getting back with them.

leeroybrown

Just learn to ignore it. If I were in his position the most likely outcome would be me being at worst irritated about her continuing to text me but more annoyed with you for being so touchy about it.

The Corinthian

Psychic Lady wrote:

I trust my boyfriend completely

No you don't.

Femelade

i'm friends with most of my ex's and sometimes i txt them or visa versa, even when they are going out with someone else.

get over it, and stop being so jealous.

Ickle Magoo

Psychic Lady wrote:

Ok I admit i am jealous that shes still texting him. But from what i know about her I think shes doing it to cause trouble between us.

Well, in that case you are letting her win, aren't you?

Faith

The Corinthian wrote:

No you don't.

Well, I think you deserve an award for the most concise, straight-to-the-point post of the year!

Sleepy

Is it that he doesn't reply to her texts ever? Or that he doesn't reply to them when you're there because you're the jealous type?

I'm still good friends with any ex that meant anything to me. They're all completely platonic relationships since the breakup and tbh if a girl I'm seeing has a problem with that, she's to be the one to get the heave ahead of my friends tbh.

CathyMoran

Sleepy wrote:

Is it that he doesn't reply to her texts ever? Or that he doesn't reply to them when you're there because you're the jealous type?

I'm still good friends with any ex that meant anything to me. They're all completely platonic relationships since the breakup and tbh if a girl I'm seeing has a problem with that, she's to be the one to get the heave ahead of my friends tbh.

I agree. I am still in contact with the majority of my ex's, would be in email contact with 3 of them and meet up with two of them - in the end, they are friends who have stuck by me through major things in my life and I would not like to be without them. Any guy who dates me has to accept that most of my friends are male and that some of those are ex's. I imagine that the OP's boyfriend may text her when she is not there, but that is just me.

illicit007

Sometimes if I ever get jealous I just think this...

"Who are they sleeping with?... uh huh, ME."

and then

"I'm the man" (or woman in your case) etc etc.


Thing is you must be an upgrade on his ex right, so why would he go back. Besides she's probably just being friendly.

Sometimes its hard to completely cut ties and it's nice being friends... doesn't feel so sore. So feel sorry for the poor girl why don't ya. :-)

If that doesn't work a judo chop to the back of the head and then implant a tracking chip into her mobile always does the trick.

Nevyn

illicit007 advocating volience to resolve an issue or any illegal act will get you banned from this forum.
Please read the charter and abide by the rules while posting.
Thaedydal

Psychic Lady

Thanks for the advice on what to do and for the people who are still in contact with their ex's thats your decision but have you ever thought that maybe your ex dosen't want to hear from you or how their current partner is feeling about you contacting them just think about that the next time you decide to get in touch with them!

Anyway I've sorted my problem with my partner, he was never the problem it was his ex and you don't all know the full story behind it or about her so don't judge me.

This Thread is now closed!:)

arctic lemur

My ex ended up being my best friend. we've known each other 8 years. My fiance is great friends with him we even go out together as a group once a month. He is totally secure with the way things are.

CathyMoran

One of my ex knew my bf totally separatly to me and I did not know that they knew one another at first but they get on fine, that particular ex even invited my bf and I to his wedding (I knew his wife from years back totally separate to him)...so it can work out, my bf has no problems with that ex though I will admit that he is less happy about one of them but he understands why we are in contact and I am open to him to the fact that we are in contact. I tend to date friends so the friendship can remain afterwards though it is not easy as you can not just hug them like you would other friends and certain jokes are out.

pepper

U NEED HELP

im still mates with most of my exs

not because i fancy them- its because there nice people and i enjoy their company

Your a nut job