How to be a good boyfriend????

LegacyUser

Just wondering if any of you girlsor lads from past experiences have any tips..do's and dont's and ideas as to what being a good bf is??? Long time reader 1st post...things to be wary of...things to do for her, girls ideas especially welcomed.. etc

Ickle Magoo

Gosh, you could write screems & screems on this topic....I think most of it is basic common sense but as for the small stuff - all women are different......but the two most important aspects to any relationship as far as I am concerned are; open, honest & frank communication & compromise, compromise & compromise......that goes for both parties......that way you will know what she wants, know what she likes/dislikes & you will have much less stresses than trying to guess what she wants from a b/f....ensure you get the same & you should have the makings of a satisfying, stable relationship .... ...best of luck

kittenkiller

Start off by being a good friend & work from there.
Compliments (that you mean) & cuddles help too.

Fanny Cradock

random little romantic gestures to show your feelings

irlrobins

Be yourself.

IrishMinx

That is very considerate of you to ask, shame there arent more like you out there!

Communication is the major one, being able to talk and more importantly being able to listen and hear whats being said.

Cuddles are top of my list too, nothing makes a situation better than a warm loving hug.

Do not take her for granted, ever, show appreciation for any gestures she shows you.

Spoil her every now and again, doesnt have to cost money.

Also on another note, you deserve all these things in return too, makes for a great relationship!!

Best of luck

stabilo-boss

stabilo-boss wrote:

Just wondering if any of you girlsor lads from past experiences have any tips..do's and dont's and ideas as to what being a good bf is??? Long time reader 1st post...things to be wary of...things to do for her, girls ideas especially welcomed.. etc

Why don't you pay attention to her and see what she wants?

justsomebloke

OP tell us what you feel is a good boyfriend and we shall then give feedback cause if you don't really know how to be a good boyfriend now, chances are you aren't going to properlly take on board the advise we offer

Blub2k4

I'd say respect her and everything else will naturally flow from that.

LegacyUser

tbh i think it means being there for her all the time? whenever she needs me, remembering stuff..anniversaries, being really in love with her and wanting to be with her every moment im not...thats my definition. its just shes under stress examwise and im wondering if i can do more...it seems im useless at the mo...

views? suggestions?

metrovelvet

Follow through.

Dont say things you dont mean. Back up your words with action. If you cant do it dont say you can.

Eminem

To me a good bf would be someone who i can talk to get on with , Have a laugh with and be there when i need to talk about something . Also one that trust me to .

cheeky_guy

And for gods sake dont be too soft with her, dont be too reliable and give her some verbal abuse from time to time even if youre only messing. Im telling ya, she'll LOVE it!!

Zulu

Be yourself. If she doesn't love you for that - she doesn't love you.

(ie: do what you feel make you a good boyfriend, if you follow others opinions, or ideas, you may end up forcing yourself to do things which you wouldn't naturally do, and in the long run, end up setting expectations you don't really wish to live up to...)

kittex

The sexiest and loveliest things my boyfriend has done for me include; washing the dishes, carrying my shopping, doing my shopping when I was ill, bringing me to meet his friends, buying me chocolate, taking the bins out and - perhaps biggest of all - just listening. Woman talk to get stuff off their chest, not to have you solve the issues. So just let her rant and make her tea as required.

Depends on your age and circumstances I suppose for that one.

turbot

I suggest:

Be absolutely brilliant in bed; exceed her sexual fantasies

Develop yourself continuously, and support her in the same. One of the best ways to honour someone you really like is to make the very most of yourself and treat them well.

Stay really fit and take really good care of yourself

Do varied stuff that helps you get to know each other better

Never underestimate the power of suprise, good food, small romantic gifts when they are unexpected.

Know what you yourself want and communicate with her so she can give it to you; and enjoy it. Pleasure is mutual.

Don't take crap. As a guy in a relationship, you are in a feedback loop with your girlfriend. Allowing her to treat you badly, curiously can have the effect of brining out the worst in her. So don't; figure out how to interact with her to bring out the best in her, including her treating you well.

Dress well, look good, keep learning....

And most of all, enjoy her, because when you do, it's a huge affirming compliment....

chump

If she has a ronny, or a generally hairy face, get her a voucher for laser hair removal.

Just basically treat her to a few thoughtful presents every now and then.

Blisterman

Don't pressure her into doing anything she doesn't want to do.

cupsoftea

Fanny Cradock wrote:

random little romantic gestures to show your feelings

This is really really important. While she is stessed with exams this might be a good time for little romantic gestures. Cook her favorite meal perhaps, even buying her biros and a cute notebooks to help her study (even if she never uses them she'll appreciate the gesture).
You sound lovely , I'm sure you will do fine.

johny28

stabilo-boss wrote:

Just wondering if any of you girlsor lads from past experiences have any tips..do's and dont's and ideas as to what being a good bf is??? Long time reader 1st post...things to be wary of...things to do for her, girls ideas especially welcomed.. etc

OK!this is a very open question because it really depend on the girl and the type of relationship.But here what are some points should be considered as general rules in most of relationships(Now, this is just me ,I could be wrong but this so far has worked for me):
1- keep the basic things in mind and I do not want to go in details because I'm sure you know all that like :showing respect ... showing care and attention... and listening (this one is important because women love talking)...
2-Please, do not let her know that you are trying hard to please her because it may indicates that you dont know how to treat a woman...act naturally.
3-after sex be romantic and caring ie. holding her..dont give her your back after sex..
Remember its more important how you appear to her and how you present yourself than anything else.and part is all to do with confident.

One more thing being sweet does not mean to be a slave.simply be cheerful.women like cheerful blocks.

This is my experience and I hope it would be some help to you.
Let us know how will it go.

Thanks

justsomebloke

stabilo-boss wrote:

its just shes under stress examwise and im wondering if i can do more...it seems im useless at the mo...

well unless you are better educated in the field that she is studying and can help her study then i am afraid to say that you are going to be useless. However what you can do is do the small things so that she doesn't have to have the stress of them aswell, like cook meals give her space to study suggest going to the cinema or for dinner so that she can take her mind off things, give her a massage if she needs anything in the shops be available to get them and basically be there to listen to her b1tch about the stress of exmas.

illicit007

If she's ever in any trouble, save her.

That's usually how I get all the girls.

There's a brilliant pdf that's free to download call 101 romantic ideas... download it.

BUT BE WARNED!!! Arrow shooting shrunken doll heads and massive rolling balls of stone will chase you down small caverns if you use it too often!

No seriouslly, romance is the spice... if you use too much it will make her sick (of you.)

The best medicine is to be cocky AND funny... you know bust her balls, when she tells you she likes you say "I know." etc. you know, that kinda thing, mak her laugh, be a man, act like you're the sexy beast and she's lucky to have ya, but if you mean it, tell her you are lucky to have met her and you really appreciate her once in a while. Girls love all that sappy cr@p.

But remember the massive rolling balls!! only once in a while!!!!!