Ahh women..

dlofnep

Notice I'm not logging in under an incognito name. I couldn't care less. There's this girl I'm mad about - We used to work together. I was in the pub where she works tonight and ran all the way up town and bought her flowers - I figured, spontaneous, women like that. handed them too her and she was shocked.. Didn't say anything. Standing there liek an eejit I was, I just smiled at her, she took the flowers and I walked away.

I feel like a complete gob****e now. I bet she thinks I'm an oddball.

Zombrex

dlofnep wrote:

I bet she thinks I'm an oddball.

Probably ... things like that only really work in stupid chick flicks or coffee ads .. in real life the girl is thinking "why did that bloke I barely know just buy me flowers ...?"

Live and learn ... a simple "Hi, how ya doing, mind if I join you for a drink" will probably do in the future.

Hugh Hefner

dlofnep wrote:

I feel like a complete gob****e now. I bet she thinks I'm an oddball.

Maybe not. When you walked off did you do it smoothly with a cheeky smile on your face? Or did you just kinda let the smile fade and awkwardly slink away? If it's the former then get it there next time you see her. What was her reaction apart from taking the flowers? Did she smile? Did she take them and not even notice you? Did she just stare in a weird way?

bottlerocket

She could've been quiet because she was embarassed. Look positive on it man!

jimmycrackcorm

dlofnep wrote:

Notice I'm not logging in under an incognito name. I couldn't care less. There's this girl I'm mad about - We used to work together. I was in the pub where she works tonight and ran all the way up town and bought her flowers - I figured, spontaneous, women like that. handed them too her and she was shocked.. Didn't say anything. Standing there liek an eejit I was, I just smiled at her, she took the flowers and I walked away.

I feel like a complete gob****e now. I bet she thinks I'm an oddball.

What did you expect?

Laguna

jimmycrackcorm wrote:

What did you expect?

The Sixpence None The Richer song "Kiss Me" to magically start playing in the background?..

chern0byl

Laguna wrote:

The Sixpence None The Richer song "Kiss Me" to magically start playing in the background?..

Fooking brilliant...like your own theme music or something. Although in dlofnep's case, i think radiohead would say it better! "im a creep..." hehe

Tar.Aldarion

Laguna wrote:

The Sixpence None The Richer song "Kiss Me" to magically start playing in the background?..

That's exactly what I was thinking

Ah sure how well do you know her, I think you should um, actually talk to her!
Who can say what she is thinking! Ask her.

Guy:Incognito

As long as you didnt do the napoleon dynamite run away, the situation might be salvagable.

dlofnep

Ouch ****, remind me not to post on here when I'm drunk.

smashey

dlofnep wrote:

Ouch ****, remind me not to post on here when I'm drunk.

Oh to be so young again. It has just gone 8.30am, you were drunk last night and you are up already. Enjoy it while it lasts.:D Ask her out tonight because I would imagine you have been on her mind all night.

zAbbo

Flowers what were you thinking. You were drinking/drunk in a pub that she works with then got her a bunch of flowers, ha, how smooth.

Dee's deesh are for chooo (smile)

jeep

I think its lovely and shows the romantic in you and I for one am all for a bit of Romance. Good for you for being sponteanious. Hope things work out for you.:)

Scoops

Stekelly wrote:

As long as you didnt do the napoleon dynamite run away, the situation might be salvagable.

LOL

chump

I must say that is halarious...
Fair balls to you tho...
That said, oddball might be an under-statement

AngryBadger

I say fair dews, if you ever try it again though, have a snappy little quip ready, "Beautiful flowers for a beautiful woman", and then smile your' widest smile, and saunter off.

Guaranteed hit, if she's not impressed, someone nearby will be.

40YardScreamer

I think spontaneous is the right approach. Flowers are going to fast though. Maybe a simple 'I think you are lovely' line would do the trick with a big smile. She would blush, you could then follow up with 'i want to bring you out sometime'. That shows that you are not asking her 'ahem, if your not, ahem, busy, sometime, whenever, maybe you'd like to.. ' just then some bloke walks over and asks her out. I think you can still do this if she's not trying to avoid you all the time.

LundiMardi

i think i have to congradulate ya! You've got some amount of balls! Ah sure **** it, what harm can it do right? You only live once, or twice in my case.

BigWilly

Better to regret something you did than something you didnt do!


**** happens man




BigWillyStyle

Seraphina

dlofnep wrote:

Standing there liek an eejit I was, I just smiled at her, she took the flowers and I walked away.

I feel like a complete gob****e now. I bet she thinks I'm an oddball.

why the **** didn't you talk to her. obviously she thinks you're an oddball, you handed her flowers and walked away!

she was probably shocked alright, i'd be shocked if i was given flowers in work spontaneously. probably wouldn't know what to say. that doesn't mean she doesn't appreciate the gesture and doesn't like you. she was probably embarrassed, especially if there were workmates around or something.

next time, try having something to say to her!

Attol

Did you leave your name or phonenumber in a card on the flowers?

*Lolly*

dlofnep wrote:

Handed them too her and she was shocked.. Didn't say anything. Standing there liek an eejit I was, I just smiled at her, she took the flowers and I walked away.

I feel like a complete gob****e now. I bet she thinks I'm an oddball.

Lol! Well she's partly to blame! Ungrateful bugger if you ask me...

I know flowers are a tad Cliche but id appreciate them any day - as im sure anyone else with a heart would

Next time you see her just ask if she's enjoying them...

And next time you give a gal some flowers/a gift etc try and accompany the actual giving process with speech.. such as " I say how beautiful these were and though of you"? Cheesy eh :rolleyes: ? But dont just thrust them at her and stalk off! lol she tink your a bit of a Phsyco

Good luck

breadmonkey

I like it. Maybe she was just shocked. At least you'll have something to talk about next time you meet!!

Gator

C'mon....tell us how you got on casanova!!:)

aroha

Dlofnep! you crazy guy.
It fills me with happiness to think things like still happen.
Hope she appreciates your spontaneity......:)

Fanny Cradock

fair play to you!

it's romantic that you took the time and effort to buy her flowers. who knows, maybe she was genuinely touched. possibly a CHEESEY chat up line like "beatuiful flowers for a beautiful lady" would have sickened her

going up to a girl with your hands down the front of you trousers and asking her "how she likes it" is odd. buying a girl flowers and smiling at her isn't.

personally, i wish i had the courage to do something like this for a girl i fancied.

KillerShamrock

Done the exact same thing to a girl I worked with with a pretty similar reaction. that and we arent as close as we were anymore
Sort of makes me wish i didnt do it now, as it completely ruined our friendship, but hey you live and learn.

dudara

If she had no idea about how you truly felt, then who can really blame her? You really can't just pop up out of the blue declaring your feelings?

40YardScreamer

Why? Because of society? Because of the way people are about reaching out and touching someone else? I guess you're right but it's daft. We're all made from the same stuff. We all feel the same things. But most people cqare too much about what other people are thinking.

nobodythere

I've done something along those lines recently, it looked cool in my head... then i realised have way through it that i just looked like a complete gobbo and engaged my bright red tomato face mode.

Don't worry about it, live and learn and avoid her at all costs It's hard to tread between the tightrope dividing "I'm interested in you" and "i lurrrrve you".

arbeitsscheuer

Sheesh, get with the 21st century - make her a CD of the music she likes.
That way, even if you pull a "silent-stalking-type" maneuvre and just turn and walk off, at least she'll have a listen and think "maybe this guy's got potential" (or words to that effect, I dunno what goes on in these female minds).

Flowers?
Drunk?
Left without a word?

Yeah... tbh you would look like a stalker, mate.

justsomebloke

fair play, next time however you may want to write a good witty line on a card with your phone number and give it with the flowers and just walk away and let the card do the talking. The poor girl was probably mortified that you brought her flowers in work in front of all her work friends so of course she was speechless. So your best bet is probably go back to the pub and talk to her, preferaly without flowers this time. Oh and keep us all informed or we will come looking for an update.
See this is why posting when drunk is a bad thing, for soem reason you think posting on teh PI forum under your proper handle is a good thing, seriously why didn't use this set of new found balls to tlak to the girl when you gave her the flowers

IrishMinx

Thats really really sweet. She is a lucky girl.

Give her time to come to realise that, if she doesn't she is the one missing out!!

hepcat

Dlofnep, don't worry. The girl surely knows you're not a nut, if you have been around a while, and - even if she was taken aback / embarassed - I'd say she's secretly flattered and delighted to be on the receivinb end of such a spontaneous romantic gesture! Who wouldn't like to get flowers out of the blue? Fair play to you!

LegacyUser

AngryBadger wrote:

... have a snappy little quip ready, "Beautiful flowers for a beautiful woman", and then smile your' widest smile, and saunter off.
Guaranteed hit, if she's not impressed, someone nearby will be.

Cheese ++ :P



OP, for something like that to actually work, you would have to be fairly certain she feels the same way. Like someone else said, should may just have been a bit shocked and embaressed. but she would be if she hadn't a clue you felt that way about her.

40YardScreamer

Consider how you might feel in that situation. If you are at work and someone was to approach you with a gift like that which clearly shows that they 'dig' you'. If you find that flattering and would probably strike up a conversation with them because of it, then thats the approach for you and well done. If you feel you'd be too embarassed about it, then you'd need to try something else. I think you should use that method in future, if it would work on you, then it may work for them too. Hey that rhymes.

b3t4

you would have to be fairly certain she feels the same way

This is the key!!!. I've had something similar happen to me at Christmas. To say that I was shocked is an understatement. I have absolutely no feelings towards this guy and was taken aback by his gesture.

At present, I try to keep my interaction with this person to a minimum, as I don't want to further fuel any notions he has. Thought I'd mention this as it may happen in your situation OP.

In my opinion spontaneous gestures like these should be kept in a relationship. If you want to ask someone out, then just do that and leave anything else for further down the line.

A.

40YardScreamer

b3t4 wrote:

This is the key!!!. I've had something similar happen to me at Christmas. To say that I was shocked is an understatement. I have absolutely no feelings towards this guy and was taken aback by his gesture.

At present, I try to keep my interaction with this person to a minimum, as I don't want to further fuel any notions he has. Thought I'd mention this as it may happen in your situation OP.

In my opinion spontaneous gestures like these should be kept in a relationship. If you want to ask someone out, then just do that and leave anything else for further down the line.

A.

I think its wrong to just ignore the guy. Sure he's put you in an awkward situation but you should really tell him that you're not interested instead of refusing to see him. Also, it would be a good idea to thank him for whatever it was that he did. Not having a go as I'm sure you were very shocked which is understandable.

b3t4

40YardScreamer wrote:

I think its wrong to just ignore the guy.

I wouldn't call it ignoring him. I'm just backing off slightly so he doesn't get anymore wrong ideas.

Also, it would be a good idea to thank him for whatever it was that he did.

Of course I thanked him.

This is how I react to these situations. I've been put in a few similar situations and it's never turned out well. If I stay nice they become stalkish or come out with "I love you" statements. This girl mightn't react in this way but it's a possibility that I wanted the OP to be aware of.

A.

LegacyUser

Sounds to me like 'the little head' was doing all the thinking and not 'the big head'. Ah, well - when the balls are full, the brain is empty !

d-arke

Where the hell did you buy the flowers? (assuming it was fairly late in the night)

dlofnep

dlofnep wrote:

Notice I'm not logging in under an incognito name. I couldn't care less. There's this girl I'm mad about - We used to work together. I was in the pub where she works tonight and ran all the way up town and bought her flowers - I figured, spontaneous, women like that. handed them too her and she was shocked.. Didn't say anything. Standing there liek an eejit I was, I just smiled at her, she took the flowers and I walked away.

I feel like a complete gob****e now. I bet she thinks I'm an oddball.

i suppose the fact she took them isnt too bad a sign not meaning to raise your hopes up tho

justsomebloke

well you have given her a while to think things over, so now would be the time to start thinking about going back to see how she feels.