Problem opinions needed

LegacyUser

Ok well basically i'm having a problem concerning my new lover. One night we had sex 9 times we were really wreaked by the end of it though it was great BUT one time during the night i was giving him a blowjob and he couldn't cum, this really upset me and made me feel like he wasn't attracted to me or that I was doing something wrong. Since then i can't relax and enjoy sex with him he takes longer to cum than anyone I was ever with before and it makes me think, is it me?

Also he is circumsized and i'm thinking maybe he is less sensitive than other guys I was with before and that is why he couldn't cum. I'd hate if it happened again i'd be mortified.

I have discussed him not cuming for ages and he says it's not me that he will stop **** before sex so hopefully he will cum quicker. I just find it really uncanny that he doesn't cum quick. We were using extra safe condoms (not when i was giving him blowjobs though) is there any we could use that could make him feel it more during sex?

(i hope this is posted in the right forum don't want to offend anyone if it's not so i'll put a warning sign up)

Talliesin

Is it normal? wrote:

One night we had sex 9 times

Let's keep this bit in mind during the rest of this. 9 times. Really, having sex 9 times is tiring, really 3 times in a night is about the max if he wasn't attracted to you but wanted a shag anyway. He's attracted to you, okay.

Is it normal? wrote:

one time during the night i was giving him a blowjob and he couldn't cum

There are lots of reasons why this could have happened. These reasons relate to his stress levels, his energy levels, his attitudes towards oral sex (in particular, if he feels - conciously or unconciously - that coming in your mouth would be disrespectful), previous experiences with oral sex, other previous sexual experiences, and whether he's just done it nine frigging times already.

Is it normal? wrote:

this really upset me and made me feel like he wasn't attracted to me or that I was doing something wrong.

Well, it's never a bad thing to get more feedback as to what your lover does or doesn't like you doing. But I really wouldn't worry too much here.

Is it normal? wrote:

he takes longer to cum than anyone I was ever with before

If he has difficulty acceiving orgasm at all, then this is a bad thing. Otherwise just thank the Goddess for men with stamina and enjoy it.

Is it normal? wrote:

We were using extra safe condoms (not when i was giving him blowjobs though) is there any we could use that could make him feel it more during sex?

You don't really need the extra-safe one's for vaginal sex. Indeed, quite a few people are unclear on the differences in how to use condoms that don't have teats at the end, which makes them actually less safe. Keep the extra-safe for anal sex and get something thinner for vaginal.

LegacyUser

Thank u Talliesin for the reply you are right I shouldn't worry about it too much and enjoy that he can go for a long time. Just was a bit uncanny since it was different to what I was used to, but I suppose I can have fun getting used to it

He did cum in my mouth earlier in the night, just not that time and he said getting a blowjob is his favourite thing, was just sorry I couldn't have him cum in my mouth the second time I was giving him head. But your right about the energy levels by that stage I just wanted to get to sleep myself so that's prob what happened thanx for pointing that out to me.

I suggested to him that we just use the extra-safe for anal and he said okay whatever you want is fine by me I enjoy it anyway and don't mind what we use. So he suggested I get the condoms and I havn't a clue about condoms! Any suggestions about the type I should get that will make things more enjoyable for him?

LundiMardi

Is it normal? wrote:

Thank u Talliesin for the reply you are right I shouldn't worry about it too much and enjoy that he can go for a long time. Just was a bit uncanny since it was different to what I was used to, but I suppose I can have fun getting used to it

He did cum in my mouth earlier in the night, just not that time and he said getting a blowjob is his favourite thing, was just sorry I couldn't have him cum in my mouth the second time I was giving him head. But your right about the energy levels by that stage I just wanted to get to sleep myself so that's prob what happened thanx for pointing that out to me.

I suggested to him that we just use the extra-safe for anal and he said okay whatever you want is fine by me I enjoy it anyway and don't mind what we use. So he suggested I get the condoms and I havn't a clue about condoms! Any suggestions about the type I should get that will make things more enjoyable for him?

jesus!

LundiMardi

Is it normal? wrote:

BUT one time during the night i was giving him a blowjob and he couldn't cum, this really upset me and made me feel like he wasn't attracted to me or that I was doing something wrong. Since then i can't relax and enjoy sex with him he takes longer to cum than anyone I was ever with before and it makes me think, is it me?

Yes, it is you, but not for the reasons you think... It's damn ****in annoying when the woman becomes all self concious because of **** like this! lighten up ffs! You're not exactly making it easier for him buy putting pressure on him!

:rolleyes:

RoadSweeper

do ye have jobs?

Nevyn

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The_B_Man

hmmm, well if it doesnt work out...

hehe, ye take it easy. u prob just had sex too quick after the last time durin ur sex marathon for his man juices to recover. no biggy.

RoadSweeper

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Thaedydal

Yes of course, like the way i enquired if they have jobs, relating to enery or stress levels (mentioned above), which may inhibit performance.

Totally off topic.

LegacyUser

Yes we both have jobs and go to college aswell we live far apart also so it is stressful not being able to make time for each other.

I don't think that was the problem though I think the energy levels was the problem as a few people mentioned.

I suppose I have been a bit uptight worrying about why he didn't cum, he just didn't not the end of the world I guess just left me feeling hurt. But that's my own stupid problem not his.

Victor

Is it normal? wrote:

One night we had sex 9 times we were really wreaked by the end of it though it was great BUT one time during the night i was giving him a blowjob and he couldn't cum, this really upset me and made me feel like he wasn't attracted to me or that I was doing something wrong.

He's a man, not a machine. The only thing wrong is you expected him to orgasm a little too much.

The most orgasms I've had in one day was, I think, six..... you loose count after that

metrovelvet

You're needy. How much reassurance do you need?

You have sex 9 times and you're not sure hes attracted to you so you seek validation here?

Wow.

How would you like it if you orgasmed 9 times and he came on here saying, "I made her cum 9 times but she didnt on the 10th try" I'm not sure if she's attracted to me." Please.

LegacyUser

metrovelvet wrote:

You're needy. How much reassurance do you need?

You have sex 9 times and you're not sure hes attracted to you so you seek validation here?

Wow.

How would you like it if you orgasmed 9 times and he came on here saying, "I made her cum 9 times but she didnt on the 10th try" I'm not sure if she's attracted to me." Please.

Needy Women Suck.

But need confirmation that they do it well.

LegacyUser

Sex is something we all need. So yes i'm needy.

koneko

Is it normal? wrote:

Sex is something we all need. So yes i'm needy.

I think you're missing the point. Needing sex is normal. Needing reassurance that he is still attracted to you just because he didn't come in your mouth after doing it nine times is not normal. As Victor said, he's a man, not a machine!

LegacyUser

koneko wrote:

I think you're missing the point. Needing sex is normal. Needing reassurance that he is still attracted to you just because he didn't come in your mouth after doing it nine times is not normal. As Victor said, he's a man, not a machine!

Okay point taken I will try to chill out so. Think I needed to be told to chill out. This needy woman will try her best