2 minute lover

LegacyUser

Ok I need some help on this one, I didnt see any other thread on this issue so here it goes.
Ok ive a serious issue with Premature ejaculation.

Ive never been able last no longer than about 2 mins.
And thats EVER.
Any medication or anything for this sorta problem??
Im tired of coming up with stupid excuses at this stage.

Victor

Lots of options.

Pleasure her first.

Wear a thicker condom - I think there is one brand that has a slight anastetic to reduce sensativity.

Come back for the second, third ... time.

Ruu_Old

Take your time and dont rush, try to relax yourself and cool down

Ag marbh

Go down on her first to make her cum, I've never come across a female that doesn't like this. When you have done that then put on a condom and it won't really be of too much importance how long you last and you can enjoy it. I also find when the woman is on top I can last much longer but am unsure as to why exactly that is but a wild guess would say because this is the positon I **** in and would have better control?

Victor

Victor wrote:

Lots of options.

Pleasure her first.

Wear a thicker condom - I think there is one brand that has a slight anastetic to reduce sensativity.

Come back for the second, third ... time.

agreed
had this problem myself with the long term ex at the beginning
its really frustrating for the girls so pleasure her endlessly you'l find it wil turn you on as well having to power of the oral orgasms:D

also again as victor go a few times too:D

Saruman

remember "theres something about mary"?? Loaded gun empty before you use it

If thats not an option.. then while having sex.. picture the most unsexy thing you can imagine.. like a big fat sweaty hairy naked guy.. unless your into that.. Anyway do that sort of thing.. detach yourself from the enjoyment and after a while you should be able to last longer and you can start enjoying it more.

LegacyUser

I appreciate the advise lads but trust me ive tryed it all,i know how to do it all but when it comes down to it it just ends worse than a james woods movie

Fanny Cradock

Saruman wrote:

remember "theres something about mary"?? Loaded gun empty before you use it

i've always wondered about this...

using the gun analogy: surely you only have a few shots... don't want to waste those precious bullets now!

Pigman II

I've heard one useful method is to imagine disassembling a gearbox whilst you're at it and it should keep the wolf from the door.

Have never had this problem so I can't really advise you. I'm good for a full 3 minutes you see.

funk-you

just calm down, you're getting too excited and that'll make you cum quicker. Go down on her first. when you're at it dont just pump away like a rabbit, take it really slow at the start. dunno what other advice i can give except maybe try those condoms that slightly numb the top of your penis. I think they're Durex Peforma/performer?

Good Luck,

-Funk

funk-you

funk-you wrote:

just calm down, you're getting too excited and that'll make you cum quicker. Go down on her first. when you're at it dont just pump away like a rabbit, take it really slow at the start. dunno what other advice i can give except maybe try those condoms that slightly numb the top of your penis. I think they're Durex Peforma/performer?

Good Luck,

-Funk

Just a question do guys notice the numbing effect of these?

pontovic

just think about something completely different to what you are doing, like making pancakes or taking the dog for a walk. concentrate on this for a second and that should keep things going a bit longer. i have been told this works. sure if it all comes to a head sooner, just take a breather for a while and then go in for more. go hard my son

pontovic

oh and by the way wearing a condom during sex is like having a bath with a pair of trousers on. its so much better without.

muppetkiller

Champagne !!!!! the best male secret ..liquid viagra in my opinion...

Like others have suggested focus on her and making her cum before you start..
Also change your pace, don't go in there bang away at 100mph and then worry why it's only lasting 2 min...sounds to me your so preoccupied with it that that's probably the main reason for your issue.


2 min anyway isn't premature ...premature is before you actually start

el tel

funk-you wrote:

maybe try those condoms that slightly numb the top of your penis. I think they're Durex Peforma/performer?

They work big time (or so I've been told :rolleyes:) so use these and follow Pigman II's advice and think about disassembling a gearbox as it will help pass the time.

Oh, and make sure you don't put it on inside out...

kellxor.1337

coolsmileygirl wrote:

Just a question do guys notice the numbing effect of these?

Not really,
I never had a problem with premature ejaculation, But again, It's never just plain ol sex, You have to have a bit of spice, Some romantic cuddling, Plenty of oral, It's always a good thing, If you really wanna hit her spot when your down on her use ur index finger at the same time, Inside, They wont last very long when your doin both of those,

as for your prediciment,
The more you think about it the worse it's gonna get, havin a Quick toss half an hour before hand can help a lot, Prooven fact that you'll go a lot longer the 2nd time around, But again if you want to be daring, Ann summers have a toy by the name of the tickler, It's like a ring that goes at the end of the shaft of the penis, It stops the man from climaxxing for quite some time, And it's also got a little attachment on it for the woman, again she gets more than she's bargained for,
It's worth lookin into trying new things, Different strokes for different folks as i always say,

Hope it works out



Kellxor

ferdi

sorry for bluntness in advance

while your at it, pull your sack down and back, towards your ass crack. while doing this squeeze the area of scrotum above your balls thereby physically cutting off the supply, apply a good amount of pressure for about 30 seconds then release, this may cause your hard-on to go down abit but you can always get it back up. also when your getting too close to cumming, stop and rest, work on her until your back to normal - repeat as many times as possible, it will make for a much more fun. focus on your breathing, nice, slow and controlled

seamus

pontovic wrote:

oh and by the way wearing a condom during sex is like having a bath with a pair of trousers on. its so much better without.

I think the guy would rather last two minutes than have it fall off from disease or go unused due to tiny feet eating up his time.

The best positions are those where the woman is in control - woman on top, reverse cowgirl, etc. This removes your focus from the ardous (!) task of pumping away, and quite often what works for the woman is only mildly pleasureable for the man, and vice-versa. It also leaves your hands free for other tasks, and lets your mind wander onto other things.

It's generally accepted that missionary and doggystyle are two of the best positions for the man (until you get into the experimentation stages) but are also the two hardest to control yourself. Leaving the woman in control will make your own orgasm much more gradual, and will help you learn a) how to control yourself and b) the timing of your orgasm. This means that you can stop when you're close, fumble about a bit, go again, stop when you're close, fumble...etc, until you're both satisfied.

Failing that, imagining Margaret Thatcher naked always gives me an extra 5 minutes

Beruthiel

pontovic wrote:

oh and by the way wearing a condom during sex is like having a bath with a pair of trousers on. its so much better without.

if you cannot give helpful or useful advice, please do not post in this forum.
to ever promote anything but safe sex is stupidity in the extreem.

SprostonGreen

I find that red bull makes me last for ages.

Beruithel you're going soft in your old age(pardon the pun!:D )

jonny68

Saruman wrote:

remember "theres something about mary"?? Loaded gun empty before you use it

If thats not an option.. then while having sex.. picture the most unsexy thing you can imagine.. like a big fat sweaty hairy naked guy.. unless your into that.. Anyway do that sort of thing.. detach yourself from the enjoyment and after a while you should be able to last longer and you can start enjoying it more.

GreenHell

Dude if you want to last a few rounds, don't think about sex and don't think about how your performing. Just do it, to quote the ad. Sorry if that advice doesn't come up to standard but don't get too excited is all I can say.

missingtime

Focus more on kissing/hickies/nipples etc. Never mind focusing on gross stuff, you're having sex for gods sake.
Oh and those condoms that numb the tip of your penis are good but make sure your energy levels are up as you could be belting away for a while.

elivsvonchiaing

Dude if she is the one for you - and you are not amazing her every time think there's no problem - you just gotta follow the advice posted and amaze her more often...

Whizzo

When you think you're about to pop - stop. Take a few seconds, start again and keep doing this til one or both of you is ready. Its the tantric way apparently and it works.

Lex Luthor

What is the problem here?

You cum...be thankful. Some people can't even manage that.

Get her a dildo if you think it'll make an improvement, but honestly, I don't see the problem. The quicker you unload, the sooner you're ready for 2nds...;)

Whizzo wrote:

When you think you're about to pop - stop. Take a few seconds, start again and keep doing this til one or both of you is ready. Its the tantric way apparently and it works.

Gimme a break...stop just before you're about to blow your beans...whats the point? Just cos you've cum, doesn't mean you have to stop. Keep pounding away till you've dropped dead if that pleases you....

ferdi wrote:

while your at it, pull your sack down and back, towards your ass crack. while doing this squeeze the area of scrotum above your balls thereby physically cutting off the supply, apply a good amount of pressure for about 30 seconds then release, this may cause your hard-on to go down abit but you can always get it back up. also when your getting too close to cumming, stop and rest, work on her until your back to normal - repeat as many times as possible, it will make for a much more fun. focus on your breathing, nice, slow and controlled

B0LL0X........the guy doesn't need to know this kind of rubbish...he could end up doing himself permanent damage.

Trust me...if you pleasure her before you have intercourse and then only last a few mins, it a big ego boost for the girl...she thinks she's really sexy in your eyes and she really turns you on.

Think of it this way...how would you feel if she took ages to orgasm...???? You'd think she didn't think you were sexy to her, whereas if you get her to orgasm within a few mins, then you're the man.....

ST*

pontovic wrote:

oh and by the way wearing a condom during sex is like having a bath with a pair of trousers on. its so much better without.

An amusing statement, but you probably shouldnt encourage not using condoms.


I think its a longer term solution the OP needs, not a quick fix (pardon pun)
so red bull, champagne etc isnt a good choice.

There are masturbation techniques you could try. I don't think I can post links here but the internet is great for this kind of info OP.

Civilian_Target

Durex Extrasafe is the answer. Hell - they'll probably prevent you from ejaculating altogether!

Sleepy

I always find I last longer if I've been smoking...

Untense

Are you normally a tense person? Do you feel nervous in intimate situations?

Physical tension and poor breathing are extremely important if you want to be long lasting.
When you are sexually excited do you also finding that you tense your body?

Next time you're in bed, try to notice how you react to the physical feelings, are you tightening your toes? your thighs? are you clenching your teeth? Pulling your head back? Holding your breath?

Physical tension, excitement and apprehension are all interlinked and contributing factors to premature ejaculation.
Again, try to be mindful of the forces of muscular tension you use in bed, are you propping yourself up with your arms over her? Are you involving your legs? The list goes on...



Your breathing is very very important, if you are nervous or over excited you are probably holding your breath. That also leads to tension and tension results in poor breathing. It's a downward spiral which leads to premature ejaculation.

Try being more gentle, instead of thinking 'hardcore porn' think sensual intimacy. Instead of rythmic thrusting try delicate touching. Running your fingers lightly over someone is just as pleasurable and far more erotic than just thrusting yourself in to them. Try new things and be prepared to change your attitude to sex. Save the hardcore thrusting for the end

matt-dublin

ur best bet...
have a **** before you meet up with her...

honest to god no messing it will work.
Like i mean an hour or two beforehand now..
not ten seconds before you walk out the door..

It always takes longer to ejaculate the second time. Also this is not a medical thing this is a mental thing, you obviously have some sort of apprehension about sex or over exciement / inexperienced.

It is something you will learn to deal with.

ErinGoBrath

coolsmileygirl wrote:

Just a question do guys notice the numbing effect of these?

I'm afraid so. Can't feel a thing!

The Gecko

I would suggest you try building your sphincter muscle.

Simple tense your sphincter muscle 20 times in a row, holding it for as long as possible each time. (its the same muscle you use to stop a whizz mid-stream)

Now with a lot of practice and training you can train the muscle to stop the ejectulation of sperm full stop. Yet you can still atain an orgasm and contiue having sex again and again.

It took me about 18 months to get this down to perfection but its worth it.

Also don't think about all the advise you have got during the act, focusing on the problem will cause you to fail, you must focus on your goal - which should be to enjoy sex....

Best of luck mate.

The gecko

LegacyUser

Well thanks for all the advise lads i very much appreciate it and hopefullly i wont **** up again,ill have to see how tomorro night goes fingers crossed.

Thanks again!!!

Seth Brundle

Unless they get you going, think of Maggie Thatcher, Pat Butcher, etc.

LegacyUser

el tel wrote:

They work big time (or so I've been told :rolleyes:) so use these and follow Pigman II's advice and think about disassembling a gearbox as it will help pass the time.

Oh, and make sure you don't put it on inside out...

Inside out? How can you be sure, which is which?

Seth Brundle

spy pie! wrote:

Inside out? How can you be sure, which is which?

the label is sewen onto the inside!

LegacyUser

Im having a similar problem.I've been with my girlfriend a few months and we started having sex about a month and a half to 2 months ago.She is the 2nd person i've had sex with,the first person was just a one night stand on holiday last summer and with her i lasted for ages,infact she was quite impressed but with my girlfriend i just cant last.At the beginning i taught it may be because i wasnt used to not using condoms(shes on the pill) and then i taught it may be because i care about her alot more then i cared about the girl i was first with and that maybe i just got too excited and caught up in the moment.But now i've realised another factor.When it comes to sex i have always been a giver and my girlfriend is a total and complete taker.I always have to initiate sex.When it comes to foreplay its always me giving and to be honest she never ever goes to give me a handjob or blowjob.At the start this really annoyed me and i had every intention of mentioning it to her but for some reason i didnt,i just got used to it and just stayed content with getting myself off other ways(grinding etc).So basically we are having sex but she completely skips the foreplay side of things leading me to get too excited as i am rarely given much attention.Its not that shes not attracted to me,i know that she very much does but its just the kinda person she is,indecisive,worried to do something unless i want to do it,shy,possibly even selfish.
I've every intention of talking to her about this next time,something i intended to bring up along time ago but anyway.Just taught i'd share it and see what others think.

Zapho

Door, were you drinking/drunk when you had the one night stand? Drink makes me last a hell of a lot longer (but of course I don't condone the use of alcohol to pleasure your woman, so don't get the wrong impression!)
Anyway you'll find with time you'll be able to last longer, especially when you can relax more. Tip: if you find you're cumming too fast, and your girl is still up for more, don't give up just yet. More foreplay, get hard, and go at it again. You'll find you'll last ages longer the second and subsequent times!
Best of luck!

daRobot

Read 'the multi orgasmic man' by Mantak Chia and practice everything it says.

ErinGoBrath

ErinGoBrath wrote:

I'm afraid so. Can't feel a thing!

So if a guy uses the durex performa condoms during sex
i take it if he enjoys it less if he cant feel anything is that right?
do guys like using condoms these at all?

Dave

Personally I hate them anyway.

oulu

sometimes before you are going to have sex **** yourself 10 min before you intend having sex short term but will work

manonthemoon

When I want to hold off, I just use the use the 'Arsenal Double Winning Team 1988/89 method".....

When you getting the point of weakness, Simply recall commentary of say Brian Moore calling out the Arsenal Team. Like this

"And here we have the Arsenal Team. On goal, David Lukic that great Arsenal servant. Flanked on both sides by Nigel Winterburn and Lee Dixon signed from Stoke City. Two centre halfs are Tony Adams and the Young Martin Keown who is keeping David O'Leary out of the team". Midfielders we have the great attacking England international David Rocastle, Paul Davis and.................................................................................................................Oh, where was I?"

Tar.Aldarion

coolsmileygirl wrote:

So if a guy uses the durex performa condoms during sex
i take it if he enjoys it less if he cant feel anything is that right?
do guys like using condoms these at all?

Well, they all suck, but you know, pretty necessary.
Those ones are meh, I didn't notice much difference really.

sometimes before you are going to have sex **** yourself 10 min before you intend having sex short term but will work

That makes it crapper imo, try not **** for ages and let teh lil guy recover.

LegacyUser

I use Performa now and again and sometimes they are just the ticket and other times they make me last too long, to the extent where I can go for a few hours, it all depends and it is not always physical.
You dont really feel the difference with the performa but they do make a huge difference, give them a try.

Stabshauptmann

Ag marbh wrote:

Go down on her first to make her cum, I've never come across a female that doesn't like this. W

Ive met loads.

LegacyUser

Those condoms sound bloody awfull!!

My bf nearly always goes down on me before sex as it takes a hell of a lot longer for me to cum than for him!! If I Orgasm during oral sex then I couldn't care less if he lasted 20 seconds never mind 2 minutes...Once you both have fun and enjoy yourselves then it's all good..
Look after her needs and you'll have nothing to worry about!!

Borat_Sagdiyev

Im having a similar problem.I've been with my girlfriend a few months and we started having sex about a month and a half to 2 months ago.She is the 2nd person i've had sex with,the first person was just a one night stand on holiday last summer and with her i lasted for ages,infact she was quite impressed but with my girlfriend i just cant last.At the beginning i taught it may be because i wasnt used to not using condoms(shes on the pill) and then i taught it may be because i care about her alot more then i cared about the girl i was first with and that maybe i just got too excited and caught up in the moment.But now i've realised another factor.When it comes to sex i have always been a giver and my girlfriend is a total and complete taker.I always have to initiate sex.When it comes to foreplay its always me giving and to be honest she never ever goes to give me a handjob or blowjob.At the start this really annoyed me and i had every intention of mentioning it to her but for some reason i didnt,i just got used to it and just stayed content with getting myself off other ways(grinding etc).So basically we are having sex but she completely skips the foreplay side of things leading me to get too excited as i am rarely given much attention.Its not that shes not attracted to me,i know that she very much does but its just the kinda person she is,indecisive,worried to do something unless i want to do it,shy,possibly even selfish.
I've every intention of talking to her about this next time,something i intended to bring up along time ago but anyway.Just taught i'd share it and see what others think.

I had this problem too with a previous gf.

What I did was I stopped initiating sex altogether. Tought I know but then she got the message and started initiating sex soon afterwards.

Subtle and no awkward "talks" about it. (How do you say to a woman "listen, you seriously have to give me more **** and blowjobs, whats the story like?")