Babysitting on a night out

Dizzyblabla

why is it that when you go out that you have to babysit those who cannot handle their drink on a night out?
I was just out with a few friends of mine and got stuck minding everyone and making sure they all got home ok, purely because they all drank too much and couldn't get themselves home...
One girl wouldn't even get into our cab because she'd lost her jacket, it drives me bloody nuts having to feel responsible for everryone else and spoils my night, and yet I always do it...
Question is, am I a fool for continually looking after them, or is it my responsibility as a friend to look after them all??
What if I got just as drunk? Would they make sure I got home ok? To be honest, I doubt it...

bazcaz

Are ya annoyed cause you wanted to get s**t-faced yourself or because your friends got into such a state that you cud probably barely talk/have the craic with them??

Dizzyblabla

bazcaz wrote:

Are ya annoyed cause you wanted to get s**t-faced yourself or because your friends got into such a state that you cud probably barely talk/have the craic with them??

neither... I'm annoyed because I felt responsible for them because I wasn't as drunk (nowhere near to be honest) as they were, so I spent my night making sure they were ok, and at the end of the night, making sure they all got home ok... I'm sure they would have been fine if I had just gone home myself, but if anything did happen to them, then I'd never forgive myself, because I wasn't as drunk... But why do I bother? At the end of the day I'm only causing myself more grief.

bazcaz

Well in my opinion if they do this constantly to ya then screw them your not their mother

But if its a case of them goin a bit overboard now and again (as in maybe once every couple a months) I think theres a certain responsibility to watch out for them as a friend something you should expect in return from them.

hullaballoo

Yah. Screw them. That's always the best answer.

DEmeant0r

I've sometimes drank waaaaay too much and having the m8s look after me and get me home safe, w/o them i'd probably be in a ditch most often than not, so I am thankful I have them. I would definately return the favour(s) if needed...

AngryBadger

I dunno, generally I'm left to my own devices when I get drunk, but then I'm an angry drunk. Personally if I'm out with someone and they're getting off their game like this I leave 'em to their own devices. Unless it's a case of me being out with mates and us all sticking together for the night, and someone or two just getting plastered.

But if it's a nightclub situation and they're off doing their own thing and get wasted they're on their own.

Blisterman

My friend was completely wasted one night in a club, and was pissing me off, so I left him and went home. Unfortunalty he got beaten up and mugged outside. I don't feel guilty though. It's his own fault for getting so twisted in the first place.

joejoem

There's allways one

Dizzyblabla

what happens when it's a group of girls? it's a bloody pain having to wait for everyone, running around after them all to make sure they get home ok. It's the disappearing acts and the not answering their phones that drive me around the twist.

joejoem

Dizzyblabla wrote:

what happens when it's a group of girls? it's a bloody pain having to wait for everyone, running around after them all to make sure they get home ok. It's the disappearing acts and the not answering their phones that drive me around the twist.

Its not your responsibility. I have a mate like that, I gave up caring a while ago. Your not the one getting into trouble, yes you would feel bad if something happened to them but it is their responsibility, not yours!

Terry

talk to them when they are sober. tell them of your concerns and also tell them that you won't be there to look after them the next time. if that doesn't work then you need to shame them into not getting so drunk.

abercrombie

let them know that they're responsible for themselves! You deserve to have fun out too! do you know what else ruins my night? When someone starts crying!?! I have a friend who says "oh i always start crying when i drink too much!?" so why do it!!! Again, it's babysitting, making sure she's ok, staying with her incase someone takes advantage over her...etc

RoundyMooney

Dizzyblabla wrote:

what happens when it's a group of girls? it's a bloody pain having to wait for everyone, running around after them all to make sure they get home ok. It's the disappearing acts and the not answering their phones that drive me around the twist.

How old are these people? They sound like the usual cacophony of femongs you see outside the Catwalk on Saturdays, with wobbly goose pimpled fleshy bits hanging out in the frosty air, screaming inanities into their flip-phones and wondering why the bouncers don't grant them admission when they eventually sway up to the door, hoop earrings swaying like lifebelts from their oversized ears!

Dizzyblabla

RoundyMooney wrote:

How old are these people? They sound like the usual cacophony of femongs you see outside the Catwalk on Saturdays, with wobbly goose pimpled fleshy bits hanging out in the frosty air, screaming inanities into their flip-phones and wondering why the bouncers don't grant them admission when they eventually sway up to the door, hoop earrings swaying like lifebelts from their oversized ears!

I can actually picture that scene, although I am proud to say that I have never set foot inside the place (nor have I wanted to). I'm not talking 16 year olds who don't know when to stop, I'm talking 26 year olds acting like 16 year olds, which is worse, cause they can afford even more drink.

Crucifix

Thankfully it tends to work on rotation for my pals. So everyone gets a turn of stopping one drink too late, and everyone else gets to mind them that time, safe in the knowledge that next week someone will drag them home when they fall asleep in the corner of the night club.

Sangre

Dizzyblabla wrote:

what happens when it's a group of girls? it's a bloody pain having to wait for everyone, running around after them all to make sure they get home ok.

Its a lot safer being a girl than a guy in Dublin.

RoundyMooney

Dizzyblabla wrote:

I can actually picture that scene, although I am proud to say that I have never set foot inside the place (nor have I wanted to). I'm not talking 16 year olds who don't know when to stop, I'm talking 26 year olds acting like 16 year olds, which is worse, cause they can afford even more drink.

Ah, I know. I gathered you weren't 16 from your posts! I hear ya on the friend front, but I'm surprised that said 26 year olds haven't copped on now after ten years of Cork pub culture. You sound like an oasis of sense in a sea of mediocrity!

Oh, and I think the Catwalk suxx tbh...

Dizzyblabla

Sangre wrote:

Its a lot safer being a girl than a guy in Dublin.

It's the same here in Cork, but it's irrelevant as to who's safer, at the end of the day, even if their purse was stolen, there's not alot they can do, and do they really have the cop on to get themselves home?
Problem is, they seem to do just fine when I'm not there, so why do I spoil my night worrying about everyone else when I am there?
I think I just answered my own question there! :cool:

Dizzyblabla

RoundyMooney wrote:

Oh, and I think the Catwalk suxx tbh...

oh lord! which means you've been in there!! :eek:

weemcd

I find myself always looking after someone if i consider them in any way a mate. I have no objections to doing so because I hope if i was ever in the same situation (fúck knows its hapened often enough) someone would look out for me, get me water, taxi... whatever. Id feel much better having a sh!t night getting a drunk mate home safely than leaving him sitting in the corner to throw up, loose his jacket, get in a fight or whatever.

RoundyMooney

Dizzyblabla wrote:

oh lord! which means you've been in there!! :eek:

I am weak, so so weak...

Aporia

it depends on the situation really.

sometimes on a night out theres the one that comes along, doesn't drink and is appauled the next day trying to make everyone feel gulity...

guilty for what having a good time and just letting go something that person just can't seem to do always worrying

theres been times when my best friend and i have been off our heads drunk but we had such good times and laughed about them the next morning.

now, if theres one or two of you that are very drunk as in falling around the place and making a fool of yourselff - that's something to be worried/angry about since you know you have to help carry them home or something

xzanti

An EX friend of mine was a nightmere to go out with.. She was always guaranteed to get sh*t faced.. One night in particular stuck in my head, she turned up at my house with a shoulder of vodka in her bag and she downed it while I was in the shower, by the time we got to the club she could barely stand, then she decided to take an E that she got from some dodgy mid 40's geezer who was eyeing her up all night, who she wouldnt even look at sober... and then insisted on us going back to his house in Ballymun for "A drink" the guy hardly had an arse in his trousers never mind any drink or anything in his house, the floors had no carpet, it was concrete, I think he was squating.. I lost the rag completely and dragged her out of there.. She was none too impressed but I think she was glad I got her out of there once she sobered up :rolleyes: gobsh*te

Taffy89

Crucifix wrote:

Thankfully it tends to work on rotation for my pals. So everyone gets a turn of stopping one drink too late, and everyone else gets to mind them that time, safe in the knowledge that next week someone will drag them home when they fall asleep in the corner of the night club.

Yep, thats pretty much what happens with my group too! (by pure coincidence however) Your thanks is, always graciously listening to them mock the living daylights out of you till the next victim falls prey to the "Oh my God you will not believe what you did last night....":eek:

God we'll never learn!