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Anxiety About New Relationship

  • 16-02-2006 8:08pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    hi,

    Last year i was dumped by my gf of many years. Was absolutely heart broken at the time but got tru' it as best I could. I met this lovely girl awhile back and it's the first serious relationship since last year. I know I shouldn't compare this girl to my last relationship but things are going so good I'm actually anxious about it. I am just being silly and it's all in the head but I'm just scared that the same thing will happen again and I will be so hurt again. I feel insecure. I know you have to take chances in love or else you'll die a bitter old man but it's just the way I feel. I know I'm being silly for thinking it. Am I ready yet for this serious relationship? or should I just kick myself in the butt for thinking this way.


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  • #2
    Nuttzz
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,784 ✭✭✭Nuttzz


    all men are not bastards, all women are not bitches. see how it goes, dont go into it thing this it "it" or expecting your heart to be broken


  • #3
    Grem
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 145 ✭✭Grem


    Put your ex and any comparisons out of your head! You cant go into a relationship thinking this way. If everyone did that nobody would ever want to get involved with anyone else after having a break up. You dont have to get too serious immediately, just take it slow and see what happens.

    Oh and kick yourself in the butt. ;)

    Good luck!


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Here's a good story that I think of in situations like that:

    A rich man meets a beautiful woman, but he is always worried she'll leave him and often says to her "This can never last, something bad is going to happen"

    They get married and have five daughters. He looks around and sees how great his kids are and says "This can never last, something bad is going to happen"

    He lives a long and enjoyable life. He lives till the age of 102, and on his dying day his wife reminds him of how lucky he has been all his life and all the people who love him. As he took his last breath he gasped, " I knew something bad was going to happen"

    SO, Dont end up like this guy. Live life to the full. If you meet a girl you love, don't hold back, and be thankful for the fact that you've found someone special. Not everyone gets that chance!


  • #5
    justsomebloke
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,407 ✭✭✭✭justsomebloke


    the only comparsion you should really make between this realtionship and the last one would be if you knew where the last relationship went wrong and then you could compare it with this one to see if the same mistakes are being made.

    Other then that just think your self as one of the lucky ones who currently has someone amazing to share their life with, as not everyone gets that chance. So take it while you have it


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