Have i screwed up

LegacyUser

Have had my eye on this girl in work for a while and been to shy to talk start talkin to her since i dont know her.So never did anything about it ,now a friend of mine works with her and we were all out there a couple of nights ago on a work night out.being shy and stupid i wouldnt go and talk to her so my mate introduced her to me and we started talkin for ages and then she draged me out dancing and i never made a move. I no im idiot.

So was in work the next day and said to my my self sure i might as well talk to her that went fine.Then a we got talkin again a couple of days later and we didnt really comunicate very well so now im thinkin have i come on to stronge and scared her off???

AngryBadger

First rule with women, if you don't make your move immediately they go cold.

Forget her, move on. Chalk it down to experience, and next time make a move the second an opportunity presents itself.

LegacyUser

Dang

LegacyUser

Do people not think it is a bad idea to get involved with people from work?
Don't mix business with pleasure!
Don't sh1t where you eat! etc. etc. etc.

Thats the only thing that struck me from reading this thread!

0utshined

AngryBadger wrote:

First rule with women, if you don't make your move immediately they go cold.

I don't agree with you on that one. She may not wait around for ever but you can recover from not striking when the iron is hot. It depends on the girl and how you approach it.

I don't think workplaces relationships are bad in and of themselves, I've known quite a few that have worked. Seeing someone from the same team as you might cause some awkwardness but if ye're but professional about in the office it can work. If a crazy bomb explodes when you break up though it can be very difficult.

Superdub2

AngryBadger wrote:

First rule with women, if you don't make your move immediately they go cold.

Forget her, move on. Chalk it down to experience, and next time make a move the second an opportunity presents itself.

well done you must be dr Phil? All women are different and various different approaches work on different ones so to put give a generic approach like that to "ride and die" by is a bit silly.

i suggest you find out where she lives and send her letters...... or maybe wait round outside and watch her a while so you can figure out her routines before you make your "move"

dundalk cailin

Work mates can be dangerous territory. Im ny experience ive been with guys from work and its been awkward the next day or so. Suppose you just grin and bear it! Those occasions were just regular nights out, not work dues, which made it easier. Do you work with a group of people your age? if so why not organise a night out for a few of you rather than the whole troop from work, and see how that goes, you might feel more at ease?

AngryBadger

Superdub2 wrote:

well done you must be dr Phil? All women are different and various different approaches work on different ones so to put give a generic approach like that to "ride and die" by is a bit silly.

i suggest you find out where she lives and send her letters...... or maybe wait round outside and watch her a while so you can figure out her routines before you make your "move"

And you must be challenged. See my sig.

WhiteWashMan

AngryBadger wrote:

And you must be challenged. See my sig.

no. your sig means nothing.

dont mistake ignorance for stupidity...

OP, to be honest, i had difficulty in deciphering your post, however, what i would say if i have this right is that the girl appears to like you.


stop thinking you know what she is thinking and just ask her if she wants to go for a coffee or a drink after work.

if she says yes, then enjoy each others company.

if she says no, but shes interested, she may have other plans, then try and rearrange for another time.

if she tells you to get lost and youre a loser, well, take the hint!

although i hope you speak better than you type.

AngryBadger

WhiteWashMan wrote:

no. your sig means nothing.

dont mistake ignorance for stupidity...

Says the guy responding to a post which wasn't addressed to him.

0utshined

No it doesn't dude. It says " Try not to mistake contempt for misunderstanding".

Nevyn

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Fanny Cradock

maybe she was having a bad day when you last talked to her? all you can do is initiate a conversation again...possibly outside work with just you two.

as for all women going cold if you're not in like flynn, i don't believe that's true. how many posts has there been about some guy afraid that the had moved too fast and thinking he had screwed up? don't convince yourself that you have blown it. talk to the girl!

then again i am single so what do i know:D