My girlfriend's a crap kisser, do i tell her?

LegacyUser

Hey,

been goin out with my g/f for about a month. It's not really a huge problem but she's not very good at kissing, she's never used her tongue and it feels like the type of kiss you'd have when your 14 or something. Thing is i really like her and don't want to offend her cause she's such a nice girl.

anything i can do?

thnx

BoozyBabe

How about just saying something like you'd love to feel the feeling of her tongue on your tongue & would she give it a go.

Who knows, she might even like it more than you do.

She may just be unsure of what to do, if she does try the above for you, & you immediately reassure her that you absolutely loved what she just did, I doubt she'll mind doing it again, & practise makes perfect.

When you start moving your tongue about, she'll know to move hers too.

Ah, who knows, maybe I'm the worst kisser in the world, but never had any complaints:p

py2006

Eh, no you don't tell her she is a "crap kisser". I dont think that would go down to well!

Unless, of course, you want a slap on the chops and a map directing you to dumpsville!

Practise makes perfect!

LegacyUser

hehe obviously i wouldn't tell her that! ok i'll give that ago. thing is i've tried to lead her on with my own tongue but she never takes the bait.

ah well we'll see how it goes,

thanks

Suggest what you'd like her to try. Don't tell her she's crap unless you want to be single again.

padser

being honest with ya, you should either tell her, or start shoving your own tongue down her throat. If your a good kisser yourself you will be able to manipulate the kiss to make it a good kiss. Failing that just sit her down and explain to her what she needs to do.
Dr Phil

Laguna

Well surely if you're such a 'great' kisser yourself, after enough time with your tongue down herthroat she'd soon learn?. Guide her so it starts it slow and passionate and then coax her into introducing the tongue subtley, I find the worse kissers use their tongue to beat the inside of your mouth..

LegacyUser

Laguna wrote:

Well surely if you're such a 'great' kisser yourself, after enough time with your tongue down her throat she'd soon learn?.

yes well you'd think that wouldn't you. think i'm just gonna have to tell her!

Samhildanach

Or just maybe you have bad breath and she can't bring herself to tell you.

I went out with this really nice guy for about a month when I was about 17, I really liked him but he had really terrible breath and I used to hate kissing him ... I tried the 'do you want some wriggleys?' hint but he didn't bite. So (being young) I was too embarrassed to bring it up so I ended up breaking it off.

Just an opinion as to a possible reason why she doesn't want to french you passionately. It's just a possibility ... do a breath test or chew some gum before going in for the kill.

bobbi

ah maybe ur the crap kisser? theres nothing wrong with not using your tongue.Maybe she doesn't want your spit in her mouth? i think a bit of tongue is nice and i think no tongue is better than you slobbering all over her.

jonny68

py2006 wrote:

Eh, no you don't tell her she is a "crap kisser". I dont think that would go down to well!

Unless, of course, you want a slap on the chops and a map directing you to dumpsville!

Practise makes perfect!

Indeed

secret_squirrel

bobbi wrote:

ah maybe ur the crap kisser? theres nothing wrong with not using your tongue.Maybe she doesn't want your spit in her mouth? i think a bit of tongue is nice and i think no tongue is better than you slobbering all over her.

Ok. someone actually talking sense on this thread.

Has it ever occurred to you OP that she doesnt enjoy kissing with tongues?? There's no rule that says she has to. Why dont you ask her straight out if she does?

There are far more permutations to kissing than tongue/non-tongue. Why dont you experiment and find out what she likes?

jptk

Apart from obvious things like bad breath and attacking someone else's toungue, what exactly is it that makes someone a "bad" kisser?

hullaballoo

Washing-machine mouth.

Eminem

Un less you want to be single dont say it to her try and make it moe intresting for yeah both

Ickle Magoo

I wouldn't tell her she's a bad kisser - as others have said, she may be thinking the same thing of you!

Why not tell her what kind of kissing does it for you & ask her to tell you what she likes & then have fun perfecting each others favourite kissing techniques? Best of luck

jeep

Ickle Magoo wrote:

I wouldn't tell her she's a bad kisser - as others have said, she may be thinking the same thing of you!

Why not tell her what kind of kissing does it for you & ask her to tell you what she likes & then have fun perfecting each others favourite kissing techniques? Best of luck

Oh magoo youve done it again:D Good plan.

Talliesin

Same as anything else with a lover:

Bad:
"You are a crap kisser."

Not great:
"I don't really like it when..."

Good:
"I really like it when..."

Esp. since the latter is something you might say to someone who is a good kisser, to get them to concentrate on what you like a bit more.

Wurly

A month isn't really a long time so I wouldnt say anything just yet. Ive found from experience though that the kissing gets better after time. Say the person you are kissing kisses really fast, well you just kiss slow and then after a time, they'l start to slow down too. Try that for the moment.

Nimrod's Son

I'd avoid saying anything if I were you, especially since you've only just started seeing her. You don't want to open a can of worms at this stage in your relationship. Besides, using one's tongue isn't the key to a good kiss, just a bit of good old-fashioned passion should do the trick.

ferdi

i dont think she can shoot ye down for requesting a bit of tounge action. make sure the problem isnt at your end though.

drop the hand and she's sure to get the message.