Domestic Disturbence: Please help

JoeKelly

Hey Just wondered if someone could advise me on a current problem! Basically im repeating my leaving cert and ive had to move out of home. I moved into a student apartment block and things have been going ok for the last few months except...the people i live with in particular 1 girl makes an incredible amount of noise! I mean she screams bangs doors turns the tv up full blast to an almost intolerable painstaking decible level! On a further note my room is situated closest to the communal kitchen an is subject to more racket than any other room! She also goes out on drinking binges regularly only to return in a state of pure intoxication at 4am with loud high heeled shoes on a tiled floor and usually a guy with her! Im getting no effective study done and little sllep at that! What do i do??? i complained to management who interveened but to no avail! The contract states that i cant get any money back if i leave but if they're not upholding their side of the contract am i entitled to anything?? Please help im nervous enough about the leaving cert without this hassle to deal with!!!

py2006

Have you tried talking to this girl?

LegacyUser

Coming home drunk at 4am in high heels? In a student apartment?


Thats normal. You're the one with the problem.

base2

She also goes out on drinking binges regularly only to return in a state of pure intoxication at 4am with loud high heeled shoes on a tiled floor and usually a guy with her!

Sounds like you have the problem not her.

py2006

base2 wrote:

Sounds like you have the problem not her.

Eh no!

My friend had a flatmate who used to arrive at all hours walking around on a wooden floor in high heels, waking everybody up.

LORDOFDOOM

Personally, none of that would bother me cause I'm a heavy sleeper, and also because people always tell me that I make a lot of noise.

Buy ear plugs. Problem solved.

Muckmagnet

i'd agree with py2006, and maybe try talking to the girl, the lworst that would happen is that she could tell you to fcuk off, no skin off your nose, but she might be cool ,and make a bit more of an effort to be quiet. She may not think that anyone can hear her .

Nevyn

I would suggest ear plugs tbh.

KerranJast

You can get some cool white noise generating ear phones that cut out all background noise. Very cool for planes too.

MartMax

Like the others said, ear plugs...

If you still cannot get the peace out of it... distract urself with sthing else...

Sometimes the more you try to cope with, the louder it seems, especially with "loud" mates...

Have a laugh...

LegacyUser

Personally I couldn't use ear plugs. Would be too scared I wouldn't wake up to my alarm in the morning.
I'd suggest talking to the girl you live with as calmly as possible & try explaining to her how much noise she is making & also say about your lack of sleep/study.
You could also try going back to management and talking to them again. They might take it more seriously if they see things still aren't working out for you. You could try suggesting to them that if there was a room free in another apartment that you would move into that if possible.

ergonomics

I would suggest talking to her. Make her realise that she's not the only one living in the house and ask her to be more reasonable. Alternatively, wait until you know she has an exam or something coming up and give her a taste of her own medicine

Chinafoot

Are there any other people living in the house and if so do they find her behaviour to be unreasonable? Maybe they feel the same and if they do you could all speak to her. If its just you on your own she might just think you're the one being unreasonable.

If talking to her doesnt yield results then I'd go with the earplugs if you have no other option. It may sound silly but it could do the trick.

Is there anywhere else you could get some study done? Local library? Friend's hous?

For all the people saying it's no big deal, makes me wonder if you've ever really had to deal with a noise problem? I lived in student halls my first year, it was grand, the usual noise outside the window, people occasionally coming back drunk at night but in general it was fine. In second year I got a room next to the loudest girl on the planet. It wasn't just me bothered me her, all the flatmates complained but I got the worst of it by far cos her room was next to mine. She was loud in general, really loud annoying voice yapping on the phone all the time or with her annoying friends, but the problem was mostly coming back several times a week at 4-5am screaming, shouting and sometimes putting on loud music. I don't consider that normal student behaviour, being a student doesn't give you a license to be inconsiderate and disrespectful. I still have no idea why people aren't capable of coming back into the flat from a night out ALONE and going to bed? I never bring all my friends in to wake my flatmates up, I say bye outside the door.

Point is, some people have obligatory classes and loads of hours, I got attendance taken and I didn't appreciate being kept awake all night before a 9am start. My flatmate was a nursing student working at St James', it was actually dangerous for her not to get enough sleep, working with patients etc. It gets on my nerves when people who complain about noise are labelled uptight and boring. Everyone is entitled to get a nights sleep, especially in the week. I just don't see the NEED for noise. I am a quiet, easygoing person so I never scream, squeal, blast crap techno music etc. I think it's important to consider other people living there.

Tried ear plugs many times, but this girl was so loud I'd get woken up even with them in, or else they fell out of my ears in the night so by 4am I had none in anymore!

To the OP, I suggest talking to the girl, if it doesn't work, which it probably won't, I would have a serious talk with the management, you are paying good money to be housed there, with the point of repeating your Leaving. If you are getting no sleep or study done, there is no point in repeating really. You have the right to live in peace and quiet most of the time, just keep complaining until they do something!

Fajitas!

I know the feeling OP, I live with three of possibly the loudest girls ever. Unfortunatly, where I'm living at the moment is the most convienient, and I don't want to lose my money.

I get all the same as you and more. I could rant for hours about them.

Give talking to her a go, be fair at first...If that dosn't work, see if any of your other housemates have a problem. Even getting them to go to the management might work.

Best of luck anyways. I know what it feels like.

Peaadina

Hmmn, its a crappy problem. I had a similar one, only the person didnt even live in the house!! his horrible friends did and they didnt care if I was woken r whatever...gggrrr.
Id say try talking to her but to be honest, its not going to work, if management interveining didnt then u arent going to - but then there is always the off chance! So it is worth a shot.
I dont usually recommend an eye for an eye, but this is affecting your health and your future and frankly its student living -all bets are OFF!

http://secure.gadgets.co.uk/revenge-noises-cd-earplugs.html

buy that CD, make the effort to get up early. and Play it. It may lead to a battle of will initially but it'll break her down!

You have my sympathies! I have neighbours that love to have the sex at 3/4/5/6 AM multipletimes, Wails of joy included, and they have a v. Loud bed! but what can u say!!

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LegacyUser

Move.

People like this rarely respond to reason especially if they are so focused on themselves.Try talking to her but only do it once. I suspect it will be a waste of time.

If there is no change you need to waste no more time there. The Leaving Cert will catch up on you pretty soon so you owe it to yourself to do something about it pronto.