Ex boyfriends?

laluna

i went out with this guy when i was real young now ten years later i have seen him around. he finished with me back then when i was around 15 or so. i asked him if he'd like to meet for a beer and straightaway he texted and like said - this is not serious just for fun like yeah. i am like sure but did you have to say that so soon. you never know what could happen. am a bit confused!

Dave

At least he was up front and honest about it. Now you know what you're getting into. He's just told you he's not looking for something serious, just a bit of fun. It's up to you to decide if you're happy with it or not.

Would you prefer if he didn't tell you and then just f*ck off after he got laid or whatever?

C x

I wouldnt be bothered with that. Id tell him youve changed your mind.
Ok he was upfront with you but he broke up with you 10 years ago and your stll going back.....

Fraggle

Thats a bit rude and presumptuous of him to say that right up front. It's not as though you asked him for anything serious just by wanting to go for a drink. He sounds a bit cocky and is probably thinking "Ten years have gone by and she's still gagging for more..."

Its fair enough to say it after a date or two when you are sussing eachother out and wondering if you should progress things to a relationship.

But this guy sounds like he only wants a little 'hows yer father' from you and then he will go off on his merry way.

I'd be wary of the whole thing unless you are thinking this could be a prospective relationship.

Fraggle

Thats a bit rude and presumptuous of him to say that right up front. It's not as though you asked him for anything serious just by wanting to go for a drink. He sounds a bit cocky and is probably thinking "Ten years have gone by and she's still gagging for more..."

Its fair enough to say it after a date or two when you are sussing eachother out and wondering if you should progress things to a relationship.

But this guy sounds like he only wants a little 'hows yer father' from you and then he will go off on his merry way.

I'd be wary of the whole thing if you are thinking this could be a prospective relationship. If you genuinely just want to go for a laugh and fool around a bit yourself, go for it.

I would certainly be a bit turned off however. He needs to be taken down a peg or two.

Ickle Magoo

In fairness if an Ex asked me out for a drink a decade after I'd finnished with them, then I'd want to make sure they knew the lay of the land as well....not because I would be assuming they were interested but so they knew I wasn't....best of luck

super_furry

Yep, he's just making sure that there are no crossed wires from the start and letting you know that he's not interested in a relationship. It's better than stringing you along.

*Oul_Doll_Cork*

It does sound a bit rude of him to assume you wanted more than to meet up for a drink and a chat!!!! At the same time though had he said it to your face it might not have sounded so bad because sometimes things are picked up wrongly in text messages!!

Ickle Magoo

laluna wrote:

i am like sure but did you have to say that so soon. you never know what could happen

Reading it again, the above makes me think the ex's presumption was spot on.....:p

BeardyGit

Just because he's trying to lay it out now doesn't make him cocky or presumptious. It also doesn't mean that you two won't hit it off if you go out for a drink.

Go for it I'd say - Just be a little cautious about his motivation initially and be prepared to give him the benefit of the doubt (to an extent) if your instincts tell you there could be more in store for the two of you!

Oriel

laluna wrote:

i am like sure but...

Do the bloke a favour and walk in the other direction. If you can't spend two seconds thinking about what you type then what hope is there for you?

golden gal

i think the main thing is not to get too attached. this sounds mean but use him for fun if you feel like it but DO NOT get attached. exs can be fun as long as you know what you are doing!

WhiteWashMan

laluna wrote:

i went out with this guy when i was real young now ten years later i have seen him around. he finished with me back then when i was around 15 or so. i asked him if he'd like to meet for a beer and straightaway he texted and like said - this is not serious just for fun like yeah. i am like sure but did you have to say that so soon. you never know what could happen. am a bit confused!

so, like, yeah, like, he texted you back like and he like said, agreed?

if youre like, confused, then like, why dont you like, ask him?

coz like, he can probably like tell you what you need to know, like.

Eminem

WhiteWashMan wrote:

so, like, yeah, like, he texted you back like and he like said, agreed?

if youre like, confused, then like, why dont you like, ask him?

coz like, he can probably like tell you what you need to know, like.

Whats with the word like the whole time?

WhiteWashMan

sarcasm?
parody?
the fact that the OP has used it a lot in their post?
maybe i just like to type the way, you know, the way i talk, like...

Oriel

WhiteWashMan, you used punctuation, that's not allowed!

Muckmagnet

why bother texting him at all , your ex is your ex for a reason. Just walk away from it , there's plenty more fella's out there .

Miss Fluff

Ickle Magoo wrote:

Reading it again, the above makes me think the ex's presumption was spot on.....:p

Definitley. You obviously want something he doesn't and he has been fair with you by making it clear that he doesn't want it to be anything more - don't kid yourself.

Civilian_Target

laluna wrote:

i went out with this guy when i was real young now ten years later i have seen him around. he finished with me back then when i was around 15 or so. i asked him if he'd like to meet for a beer and straightaway he texted and like said - this is not serious just for fun like yeah. i am like sure but did you have to say that so soon. you never know what could happen. am a bit confused!

hah - if thats not what you want then text back and say what you want it to be. Lay out the land from your side of the fence and see if he's still interested then. There's no harm in being blunt to the guy, at least he'll know where he stands!

WhiteWashMan

careful now. he was blunt and people called him rude.

oh well, i guess youre damned if you do and your damned if you dont, like...

laluna

well i have filtered out the different thoughts and am of the opinion that i will just play it by ear not txt him let him do the chasing. thanks for the help

Femelade

well OP, by the sound of your post u do want something more,
he was being straight with you. if you want more than "just friends" then its a good thing he isnt leading you on.
get over it.

WhiteWashMan

laluna wrote:

well i have filtered out the different thoughts and am of the opinion that i will just play it by ear not txt him let him do the chasing. thanks for the help

let him do the chasing?
hes already told you he doesnt want you.

what exactly will not talking to him after asking him out achieve?

id suggest taking some 'grow up' medicine and start acting a bit more mature.

like.