Wedding problems

galwaydude

Im getting married in in 2 and a half months in the states to my american gf i met over here. To say im stressed is an understatement.Some of my family members seem to be more concerned in finding the perfect affordable hotel than actually talking about the wedding with me and my fiance.Maybe im been selfish but i feel that they are more excited about actually travelling to the states than actually attending our wedding. We feel left out of things.I know if i speak up it will cause holy war as my sister is full of herself and wants to be centre of attention. She has done this time and time again:mad:

py2006

Weddings always seem to caues tension within the family! A friend of mine decided "feck it", and went to Australia with her boyfriend and got married without any family or friends there!

Oh sorry, congratulations on your upcoming wedding! I hope it all goes smoothly!

galwaydude

thank mate

py2006

I guess you could sit them all down and express how you are feeling about the situation. Although that is easier said than done!

On the other hand you can't blame them for getting excited about travelling to America! As soon as they get there it will all be about the wedding though!

galwaydude

Ye true mate. Ah well who said getting married wasnt stressfull. Only another 35 days and we are off to start our new life in the states.

py2006

galwaydude wrote:

Ye true mate. Ah well who said getting married wasnt stressfull. Only another 35 days and we are off to start our new life in the states.

Yep, everything about getting married is stressful for the couple in question. The arrangments, keeping everybody happy! They day itself is stressful and tiring but hopefully ultimately enjoyable!

Best of luck!

Manny7

Hey GalwayDude,

I got married over there too, don't worry about everyone. Of course they're excited about going over but once it gets to a couple of days beforehand you and your fiancee are all they'll care about. And believe me, those few days of being the focus of attention are enough, I couldn't wait to get away from them all in the end! Whereabouts are you getting married?

galwaydude

We are getting married in New england.

Manny7

Up in her hometown in Maine, had about 30 from here over. And remember that afterwards, everyone will be raving about it - the general holiday feel gets mixed together with the wedding feel, everyone will have a great time. So unless your family members are actually causing a problem that will affect the wedding, let them worry about hotels etc, as Py2006 said as soon as they're over there it will all be about you guys.

Ickle Magoo

We got married in Scotland and all my husband's family & friends got dressed up in the kilt and travelled over - it was a fab day and I'm glad they got so worked up about things...it's still being talked about, lol!!

I know it can seem at the time like everyone is trying to steal the limelight as you have all the stress & hard work of planning and preparation (and often paying, too) and everyone else just seems to have to worry about picking a nice hat or whether to wear tails or a suit - but on the day you will be the only two people that matter.....regardless of who is trying to get in on the action! :rolleyes:

Keep telling yourself that the people you have invited are only half your guests and those in the states will have little interest in your great Aunt so-and-so, or even your sister - all eyes and congrats will be saved for the bride and groom....so try not to stress too much (easier said then done, I know!) - everything will work out perfectly on the day and all these little issues that drive you nuts in the run up to your big day will evaporate - promise! Best of luck

The Clown Man

Uninvite your sister.

Sorted.

the Guru

you should consider doing what im doing, get married in the states and then go back to Ireland in your own time , and have a blessing there with family and friends ..... less stress .
and good luck with it

bohsboy

Lets hope you dont pack in Hattrick?!!



Up the Joy!

galwaydude

No chance of that happening.

TempestSabre

Don't sweat the small stuff.

SingingCherry

Aw, I totally know how you feel. Even though me and my husband were technically married a year ago, we had the actual wedding 3 weeks ago and talk about CONSTANT STRESS. My family came over from the US and wanted to have a say in everything, not to mention having to entertain friends who travelled over for the blessed event.

The best thing I could tell you is to just keep your eyes on the arrangements and ignore everyone else. It's SO hard to do because everyone thinks they know best but politely say to them, "That's a great idea, but we're going to do it this way..." and even if they still harp on about it, they know your final opinion. If they want to keep on stressing, it's up to them.

About you and your fiance not getting the attention - I assure you that when it comes time you will, and you probably won't even want it. The day before my wedding all of my visiting friends went off to Malahide Castle and shopping for cheesy irish gifts while I got my nails done and saw a movie with one of my bridesmaids. We got SO much constant attention in the days leading up to the wedding, I just needed a day to myself. My husband was at his mother's house relaxing and trying to shut out everyone else (not to mention dealing with last minute things so I wouldn't have to!)

Anyway, I hope it all goes well for you and congratulations! I'm glad to see that everything with you and your future wife has worked out and you were able to get the immigration things settled. Have fun in the US - I miss home tremendously!